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| Author: | mrcoffee999888 [ Thu Feb 11, 2010 1:32 am ] |
| Post subject: | Help needed on progressing! please! |
So I've been gaming this girl for some time now.. and here is the background info She is most def. an HB10.. preselected.. every person wants her, and I've been doing a good job of building up attraction.. to the point where she texts me constantly. I've even done tension building, and wait to respond a few minutes, and keep the ball in my court.. it's been great, and worked well, we hung out the other night (last sunday) at her place, and I kino escalated, but we did not kiss, though this may have been a mistake, i wanted to build the tension just a bit longer, and we had plans to hang out at my house on monday night to have a south park marathon. to continue to escalation. it was and is really obvious, that she is into me, and communicate very regularly, but the last couple of days there has been a significant decrease in the amount of times that she has texted me, so to remain alpha, i don't contact her, only start convo's when she talks to me first. when we do speak, or text, or SPAM, it's very playful, and cheeky, but she is also very sarcastic, and works things like "you are SO weird", and "I'm going to call you Andy from now on" (my names andrew) for no reason when she can't think of what to say. and attempts to match my playful negs, with negs as well... so it's really hard to disarm her, and stay on top, because it's just a series of control battles, but she still, texts and calls a lot, so i guess thats good. but she flaked on me on monday night, though i know it was for a legitimate reason, and tuesday night she was kind of sick, and had a pretty wicked sunburn.. so here we are.. i feel like now the plans to hang out are just gone. my question is 1.) How do you disarm her sarcastic personality? I feel as if being that sarcastic only means SHE is insecure about something.. I feel like the way to handle it would be to be a little more extreme, and be a little weird, to match her sarcasm, and use it as an outlet for her to be fun.. but I'm not sure. Sometimes I'll say things like "It's cute when you try to be sarcastic" or "tough" or whatever or "you love it" which she never denies, but it's a task.. ------------- and 2.) How do i re-initiate the plans to get her over to my apartment?! i can't just say, "so when are we hanging out?" or "I'm upset you flaked on me... when are we rescheduling" Please help.. |
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| Author: | mrcoffee999888 [ Thu Feb 11, 2010 3:15 am ] |
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Hey, I don't mean to push, but could someone help me with this? |
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| Author: | Granit [ Thu Feb 11, 2010 3:37 pm ] |
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On this, I might suggest working back into a Frame Control version and concede a little bit of power in the "I know we've both been busy .." and then push forward after she comes back to you. Right now it seems that your both in a destructive cycle of pulling away until the other breaks. Stop the cycle on your terms and then start the push pull again. |
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