Hey Guys, this is my first post. I think the PUA community is great and I've been following it for years, but never really participated in the forums, until now.
The reason I am reaching out is because I am trying to elevate my game to a new level. I'm one of those guys that was a bit obsessed with women when I was 18-20 (still am) but did not have very much success (had a few hook-ups and 1 long term girlfriend). then, when I became single at 24, everything started clicking. I'm 29 now and I currently date between 5-8 girls casually at a time and have sex with all of them (some more frequently, others only about once a month). Most of them are HBs between 7 and 9s, but last week I got the number of a former playboy playmate (HB 9+) when I was out in philly -- that is what I want help with.
I am a decent looking guy (6'1", 165lbs, a bit thin and pasty white) but definitely not model level. I consider myself very charming and can easily pick up girls in a variety of settings. Last Saturday I had already gotten 2 #s from HBs earlier in the night when I approached this girl at the bar (no clue why nobody else was on her). anyway, we talked for a while...at first she seemed kind of like, "you really think you can pull this off?" but once i negged her a bit, smiled a lot and got to know her, she started warming up. Problem is it was already close to 2am (closing time) and I was getting these txts from a 22yo HB 8.5 that I have been hooking up with recently...so I wanted to bail because I knew that was a sure thing. anyway, I get her number and mention that we could go salsa/merengue dancing later in the week like wed. or thurs. (FYI, i had no idea she was a former playmate until i was on Facebook the next day and typed her first name in -- it's not common so she was right there and then i googled her and was shocked at what i saw).
So Tuesday night I called and left a solid message (i thought) -- something like, "hey, this is [my name] from Saturday night at [club]...calling to see if you want to grab a drink and go dancing this thursday at [club]. give me a call when you get a chance."
So while I think my game once on a date or interacting with a woman is super solid, I think maybe my phone/txt game is average. It is now Saturday night, one week later (taking a night off because I am sick and have partied 3 nights in a row) and I haven't heard from her or one of the other HBs I met that night (also left her a voicemail on Tuesday).
So specifically my questions are:
1. Is it usually a bad idea to call a girl when getting their number? Is coordinating by text almost always better?
2. how do I proceed now that I already left a voicemail with the former Playmate and other HB? Should I just shoot them a text next week? I realize my odds are low and I'm fine with that
Thanks guys. I look forward to your advice and improving...even with all my experience and success, I still get rejected a lot -- but that's because I "swing the bat" all the time
hopefully I can dish out some advice for some of the other guys on here.
-The Oracle