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Author:  Mr_Elusive [ Fri Feb 05, 2010 4:02 pm ]
Post subject:  She has a boyfriend but completely avoids mentioning him
Alright guys, the scenario:

So, this chick works at the front window of an office in my building. Everyday, when I get to work and before I leave I chat with her for a few minutes. She always asks what I'm doing in the evening or what I did last night and I do the same with her. This went on for weeks and she never once mentions a B/F.

We went out for drinks last week and had another date planned for this passed Thursday. On Wednesday it was my birthday and my boss found out and told me to take the rest of the day off. I left at noon and passed by her and she asked what I had planned for lunch and if she could buy me lunch for my birthday.. any place of my choice. Went to lunch with her, awesome. Now, Thursday we're supposed to go out again, but this time she flakes and so I said lets reschedule for this Tuesday and she agreed.

When I get home I got a Facebook friend request from her. BAM! "In a relationship." Now, I remember she mentioned that her sister is getting married to her B/F of 12 years and I asked what's her longest relationship and she said 3.5 -4 years, but it had a rough patch in between. Never eluding to the fact that she's in that relationship now!

What's the best way to handle this? Is she showing me the "In a relationship" status so I back off? I don't see why she couldn't just mention him while we went out. :?
Author:  thomas the train [ Sat Feb 06, 2010 1:35 am ]
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Lots of chicks use 'In a Relationship' on Facebook to ward off creepers. Facebook does not equal real life. Until she mentions a boyfriend to you in person, keep doing what you're doing.
Author:  lenlen10 [ Sat Feb 06, 2010 2:01 am ]
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Lots of chicks use 'In a Relationship' on Facebook to ward off creepers. Facebook does not equal real life. Until she mentions a boyfriend to you in person, keep doing what you're doing.
That is true, her relationship status doesn't have to mean it is true.
Author:  Mr_Elusive [ Sat Feb 06, 2010 2:29 am ]
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Nah guys, I scoped aka stalked the profile and saw this one guy calling her "babes" and saying I love you. Clicked him and his profile pics have him and her in it.
Author:  ThomasX [ Sat Feb 06, 2010 2:32 am ]
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If all you want is to bang her, then keep going then. But if you want a relationship, drop her... because clearly, if she is willing to cheat on her bf, she'd do the same to you back.

You should stir up some drama though, she deserves it. Post on her wall how much you enjoyed her taking you out for lunch and paying
Author:  thomas the train [ Sat Feb 06, 2010 7:24 am ]
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Nah guys, I scoped aka stalked the profile and saw this one guy calling her "babes" and saying I love you. Clicked him and his profile pics have him and her in it.
It could be true, they might be an item, but lots of dudes play that game to scare dudes like you off.
Author:  Alsex [ Sat Feb 06, 2010 11:13 am ]
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Usually when I find out they have a boyfriend, and it is a strong relationship, I would back off. I wouldn't feel very good if I've been dating a girl for 5 years and BAM, some guy takes here.

But if it was short term, like a 4 day thing, or a rocky relationship, yeah why not. But depeding on how you feel about that, yeah she sounds like shes into you.
Author:  Mr_Elusive [ Sun Feb 07, 2010 1:15 am ]
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If all you want is to bang her, then keep going then. But if you want a relationship, drop her... because clearly, if she is willing to cheat on her bf, she'd do the same to you back.

You should stir up some drama though, she deserves it. Post on her wall how much you enjoyed her taking you out for lunch and paying
I like the way you think lol.

I'm thinking of calling her out on it when I see her... or should I just not mention it at all?
Author:  ThomasX [ Sun Feb 07, 2010 1:17 am ]
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Call her ass out on it. She deserves it.
Author:  TheOracle [ Sun Feb 07, 2010 5:45 am ]
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reminds me of this cock tease at my b school...she teases like 20 guys in our class. heavy flirt, NEVER mentions the BF.

She flirted heavily with me, one lat enight after a big party had my hand up her dress on her ass and kissing her neck but couldnt get her to convert.

when she kept flirting with me / calling me / txting me i called her ass out even though she was hot. i said, "i can't believe your boyfriend hasnt dumped your ass yes...if you were ever my gf yo uwould have been long gone for the shit you pull."

she was like, "no, he knows that i am friendly and how i am"...so I responded, "does he know my hand was up your dress on your ass and you were laying on the couch with me for 3 hours?"

i still see her pulling the same shit with other guys who havent gotten 1/10 as far as i did. My advice, just be stright-forward and call her out. she'll respect you for it, but you should really not have respect for her.

That's all for now...

-The Oracle
Author:  CroPua [ Sun Feb 07, 2010 4:05 pm ]
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dont mind about the bf.... she is interested in you...

Jut use bf killer technique when you get to the subjects about (relationships, gf's, bf's ... just transition to that subject some way...) and then w8 the moment to DLV him and ofc DHV yourself ;)... GL
Author:  ThomasX [ Sun Feb 07, 2010 6:26 pm ]
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dont mind about the bf.... she is interested in you...

Jut use bf killer technique when you get to the subjects about (relationships, gf's, bf's ... just transition to that subject some way...) and then w8 the moment to DLV him and ofc DHV yourself ;)... GL

This is good advice if all he wanted to do was hit it. But I believe he is interested in a relationship, and therefor, this girl is bad chicken. Because as previously stated, if she'd leave one bf for another bf, then she will continue the chain no matter who the bf.
Author:  Mr_Elusive [ Sun Feb 07, 2010 8:07 pm ]
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At first I did see her as relationship material, she's always super sweet and friendly. That has definitely been ruled out, but since I'm at this point, I might as well try to fuck her. Unless she becomes standoff-ish.
Author:  Chief [ Mon Feb 08, 2010 9:57 pm ]
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Don't listen to misogynists like ThomasX. He doesn't understand why women cheat.

Compassion is an inevitable consequence of true understanding. People like ThomasX are most likely bitter from having been cheated on and displace their resentment toward all of womankind without adequately reflecting on themselves.

Women are not property that can be "stolen." They have every right as human beings to explore their options when it comes to sex and dating, especially if they feel like their current partner is not fulfilling their needs due to some unidentifiable compatibility issues or whatever.

You don't need any BF destroyers if she doesn't bring him up. Stop trying to overanalyze why she would let you know of her relationship status through facebook. At most it's only a shit test to see if you're man enough to discreetly pursue her despite her relationship status.
Author:  safety [ Tue Feb 09, 2010 1:16 pm ]
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shes not mentioning the boyfriend because she doesnt want to. simple as that. this is exactly what happened with my current girlfriend (i actually knew the guy and knew they were together). she never mentioned him. eventually she broke up with him for me. granted he was an asshole; cheated on her etc... but it sounds like this girl is interested dude, if you dont take her off her bf's hands someone else will....
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