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Author:  Spike007 [ Fri Feb 05, 2010 2:28 am ]
Post subject:  I ignore her...then when I say yes she ditch me wtf!!!
I will try to make the story short. I was gaming this girl before I knew she have a boyfriend (it always happening to me...). I don't really talk to her now. She always txt me first (at least 5times/week) but I only answer if a see a point to answer. Anyway last night she asked me if I want to go out. I said yes why not...This morning I txt her asking who will drive and she txt me like 8h after that she is not going out.

I was like FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU. I was ignoring this girl for months and the first time I accept her invitation she ditch me. Someone can help to take the lead at this point? I don't want to seems like if she was the one who ditch me.
Author:  net.split [ Fri Feb 05, 2010 2:34 am ]
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I'm not speaking from a PoV of great experience, but it sounds like to me one of these things happened:

1. She's playing you back. She caught your interest, and now she wants to let you chase for a change to show that you're worth leaving her boyfriend over.

2. She was never really interested in you except to see if she could win you. Once she successfully got a date, the game ended for her.

3. Something actually came up that changed her plans.

If it's #1 or #2, go back to ignoring her to see if she comes back. Don't let her get away with that crap. If it's #3, ignore her until she tells you what happened, and decide if you think it's a worthy enough excuse to forgive her for and continue.

How can you know which it is? You can't until she lets you know through her actions. Luckily, all three response strategies start the same: ignore her until she initiates contact with you.

Also, under no circumstances should you act bitter or angry. Tell her it was no problem, you went out / hung out with some other friends and had fun anyways (you did actually do this, yes? if not, pretend this time, and do that next time). In the meantime, continue going out and gaming other girls.

Do keep her number in your rotation, though. If you hear nothing, contact her in a couple weeks just for the hell of it. No real reason not to.
Author:  Spike007 [ Fri Feb 05, 2010 11:39 am ]
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It can be #1 or #2. In my opinion I will say #2 but the #3 is possible.

I didn't go out because of her actually...I was excepting a ride from her and see my friends in the club. I can just tell her that I did anyway just to not lose my face. :P

Anyway last night she txt me again even if I didn't answer the first time. She asked me if I go out. I didn't answer to the second text either. When I read my txt sent I actually was happy because my txt of last day when I ask her who should drive was not that direct I was thinking. It was like if I ask her if she drives to go there or not, so I didn't involve myself.

So from this should I continue ignoring her text? I don't want to be played by her.
Author:  net.split [ Fri Feb 05, 2010 8:51 pm ]
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Sorry, I meant "ignore" as in "don't try to contact her." Since she contacted you, she already came back. I'd go ahead and respond and say you had a great time. Don't chase her; see if she chases you, tries to reschedule or make up for missing it. If you want to dig a little for clues as to what she's up to, you can say something like "Hope you had a great time too" to see if she reveals what she was doing.
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