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Author:  Drizzy [ Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:15 pm ]
Post subject:  Girls not responding to texts... annoying
Not a huge problem, but I just wanted to see if anyone else has had this problem and if anyone could offer some tips.

Basically, I've got 2 girls on the go, been seeing both of them for about a month. Already had a few meet ups with each. They are both receptive when I call and if they miss my call, they will call back. But sometimes with texts, even just a quick text, they won't respond! It's really quite annoying. Couple of examples:

I've got a date set with one of them for thursday. I send a text yesterday saying something like 'i've got some great ideas for thursday.. blah blah, you excited?'.. no response. Now I don't want to call after not getting a response to the text...

The other I have a date set up with on Saturday. I called her last night, she said she was busy, but I said I would shoot her a text after my soccer game and see if she was still up. I text at a reasonable hour (10:30), just a 'hey, you still up?'.. and haven't heard anything as of yet.

I find it incredibly rude, as I would never ignore a text message, even from someone I don't particularly like! It makes me very unmotivated to call them after being ignored... Any of you guys have this, and how do you deal with it? Thanks
Author:  kasabi [ Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:18 pm ]
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Take a course in creative writing and marketing.
Author:  Chelios [ Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:30 pm ]
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Some people are just in the" I don't give a shit zone" Best way to deal with it is to do the same back, make yourself not text back as soon as she ends up replying. I'm polite and respond to texts too, but with girls now I don't always text back straight away. Keep them waiting and guessing.
Author:  kasabi [ Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:54 pm ]
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Some people are just in the" I don't give a shit zone" Best way to deal with it is to do the same back, make yourself not text back as soon as she ends up replying. I'm polite and respond to texts too, but with girls now I don't always text back straight away. Keep them waiting and guessing.
Some people the propensity of shoving others into the "I don't give a shit zone".
Author:  Drizzy [ Wed Feb 03, 2010 4:47 pm ]
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Not quite sure what I did to elicit these negative responses Kasabi, care to elaborate?
Author:  kasabi [ Wed Feb 03, 2010 4:58 pm ]
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^ What's so negative about suggesting that you take a few classes?
Author:  Double J [ Wed Feb 03, 2010 5:08 pm ]
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^ What's so negative about suggesting that you take a few classes?
A negative use of time actually reading the statement itself perhaps :)


For text's i would advise not ending with a question, because if you dont get a response when you do, it feels like there ignoring you more, if you end with a statement.
"Got some great ideas for Thursday, I know your excited!!!"

Its the same thing, just if she does not reply, its feels less directed at you.
Plus, statement's/observations tend to invoke a response from Women more than questions do. I forget which PUG said that, but i know its true.
Author:  Drizzy [ Wed Feb 03, 2010 6:09 pm ]
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Ah, I just wasn't sure what relevance the class had to my question, and I took your comment in reply to Chelios' post as implying that I had pushed these people into the 'I don't give a shit zone'... Anyways, my sincere apologies if I misconstrued what you meant.


Thanks for the suggestions guys, I really like the idea of not ending with a question. I thought it was a good thing to do, so as to make it more likely that she would reply with an answer. I definitely see though how not asking a question would make it less personal if she doesn't reply. And yea, I am normally pretty quick at responding to texts, but I am going to change it up with girls like this who don't give the same courtesy. Thanks for the tips guys, definitely helped.
Author:  Visionxxxxxx [ Wed Feb 03, 2010 7:41 pm ]
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Drizzy, asking her is she's excited is not only a bad idea because its a direct question (as mentioned above), but its also a bad idea as youre making this date out to be a big deal, almost like its your first date...ie. youre too excited!! rather act like its no biggie, just cruise along smoothly like you do it for a living (if you get my drift).

also, it sounds like youre seeking validation by asking her if shes excited....besides, do you really think shes going to be honest and say NO if she isnt excited??

oh and its not rude for girls not to reply, its human nature and she is either telling you 'i dont wana seem needy as im willing to give this a chance and see where it go's, therefore its better to pretend that im a challenge and a hard to get girl (she knows this is attractive to guys)'...OR...'im not interested in having sex with you and the easiest way to tell you is to not reply to your txt msg's'

some points to think about.
Author:  Melodical [ Wed Feb 03, 2010 8:35 pm ]
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If you really have to force a reply because you need to make plans send a text message to the girl saying "you were right lol!"

Receiving such an ambiguous text indicates to her that............

1 no hassle is forthcoming if she replies.

2 A bit of self validation

3 curiosity

Her first response will be...:"right about what?"

Do not reply! Her second response will be.: "come on tell me!"

Do not reply! her third response will be an explanation about why she hasn't been replying to you.

Reply to this one,just make something up about some trite advice she give you in the past,then change the subject to what you want to talk about.
Author:  Captain Morgan [ Wed Feb 03, 2010 8:56 pm ]
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Ok, I have to chime in here too, cause I am having this exact issue with one of the girls I am gaming right now.

So, she is a bartender that I picked up on Sunday night.

Text her Monday night with some funny cocky shit, she responds a couple times, I get tired of texting so I call her out on one of her texts by calling her...she answers we talk for an hour with a great conversation....we make tentative plans to meet up tomorrow night (Thursday)...she says, "I am working the next two nights, if you can come by, do so and hang out."

I was planning on it, but wanted to do it tonight (Wed) not last night so I didn't seem desperate...

So, last night at like midnight, cause I know she was just getting off work, I text her some funny joke, she responds right away and asks my B-day again...which she had asked in the phone conversation...I tell her and ask why?, then with a short funny text afterwards as a statement...haven't heard anything back from her....

Like said above, it makes me NOT want to go in and visit her tonight, like I had originally planned....is this over reacting, or do you all agree I should wait it out and tomorrow call her to set the time and place for the meet-up?

Give me your thoughts! I am with you on this one for sure...I think it is so rude not to reply, unless a strange case circumstance...at least the next day say something top re-initiate the conversation....

Freakin women, I don't mind doing a lot of the work up front, but come on reciprocate some...but, because I DON'T need them, it makes me want to walk away...and sometimes I think I do this too fast.

~Captain Morgan
Author:  kasabi [ Wed Feb 03, 2010 9:14 pm ]
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I took your comment in reply to Chelios' post as implying that I had pushed these people into the 'I don't give a shit zone'...
If you can accept the fact there are BETTER WAYS to communicate with others to raise their level of interest, can't you also accept that there are ways to push them to think, "I don't give a shit about that guy. . ."?

It's not a big deal . . .
Author:  Captain Morgan [ Thu Feb 04, 2010 2:07 am ]
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Someone help out with my question...haha
Author:  Chelios [ Thu Feb 04, 2010 9:13 am ]
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In regards to your question Morgan, just go visit her man, drop by for a qucik drink, pretend you were maybe on route somewhere and fancied a drink before hand, she has basically invited you down so go for it! Don't long it or you may regret things.
Author:  Captain Morgan [ Thu Feb 04, 2010 5:58 pm ]
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Thanks for the advice, Yo....

I ended up getting a text from her at like 9, and I was already headed to bed, so I didn't end up stopping by....

We'll see if tonight she is still wanting to go out...;

Cpt Morgan (Pineapple)
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