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| Author: | Sixpack [ Sun Jan 31, 2010 11:28 am ] |
| Post subject: | New here, and perhaps a unique situation |
Ok, so let me start off by telling you where I'm coming from. Used to be a huge fucking nerd (think world of warcraft for 3 hours a day), but now I'm not. Got rid of every nerdy thing I owned, moved out, got lasik, got braces, got proactive, got a new wardrobe, got tan, and got ripped. And I don't mean I've just been to a gym, I mean I spent an entire year feeling embarrassed and out of place at a gym, and two more years after that killing, killing, myself to get where i'm at now. I'm not bragging, at all, sincerely, but I'm really, excessively, ripped. Looking back, I don't know how in the hell I stuck with it. I am the success story. I look in a mirror and laugh every single time at how far i've come. But that isn't the point of my post. So now u almost know where i'm comin from. There's two more things. I discovered and read The Game, and it made me want to change my life. I knew I wouldn't be able to change my personality drastically, like I wanted to, around people who've known me my whole life. So I moved. By myself. 600 miles away. New state. New start. If this sounds drastic, that's because it is. I have relocated my life; not something the old me would have done. Last thing u should know, I have NEVER been able to talk to a girl. EVER. You're probably thinking that I mean I have never been able to flirt with/hit on a girl. No, man. I mean I have never been able to even make eye contact with any girl ever, my whole life. But that's still not the point of my post. Now you know where I'm coming from (damn, i didnt mean to turn this into an autobiography, sorry about that). I'm a different person. I now have looks and confidence, but I'm still 23 years old and have never even held a girl's hand. All I've done so far is set the stage. And now comes the point of my post. The first night I'm down here (last weekend), I go out to a bar with my roommate, (whom i've never met before since i found his place through craigslist) and 2 girls he works with. I suggest we play pool. We do. Guys vs girls. While taking my shot, someone taps me on the ass with a pool cue to mess me up. I look back and it's one of the girls. The hot one. I make eye contact and give her a smile/smirk then turn back to my shot like i'm neither phased nor aroused. But inside, i'm freaking out. A little later, I help her with her shot, which involves leaning very close and touching her. It's not a big deal though, cause I appear like I do this sort of thing all the time.... I HAVE NEVER DONE ANYTHING CLOSE TO THIS IN MY LIFE! Fast forward, we're all at a table. We're talking. She puts her hand on my leg and I push it off, laugh, and act like it makes me uncomfortable. I loved it, but i had a good read on what kind of girl she was, and knew what would come next. As predicted, she playfully put her hands all over me, asking "does this make you uncomfortable?" We both laugh. End of the night, the girls are walking to the car, I stay back for a minute to talk with my roomie. I ask if the girl has a boyfriend. Before he answers, from behind me, I hear, "Why?" I turn around. The girl is standing right there. She says, "are you iiiinterested?" She says this with exaggerated seductiveness. She's being playful, but she has caught me and is trying to embarrass me a little. I am extremely embarrassed, but i dont show this for a second. I was so emboldened by this whole night, that i pulled confidence out of my ass, looked her unflinchingly in the eyes, and said, i was just wondering. But my smirk/smile (that i've practiced hundreds of times in the mirror to make sure it's not too corny and not too sleazy) said yes, i'm very interested. She wasn't expecting that and can think of nothing to say. I step past her and walk to the car. Very end of the night, I'm dropping the girls off at their place, and the girl i was talking to walks around to my window. I lower it. Nobody except me can hear or see what she's saying. She says she had fun, and that Derek(my roommate) has her number and I should get it from him. She then kisses her index finger and presses it to my lips. This is the greatest moment of my life. Goddamn this is getting long, but bear with me. Karma says if u help me it'll come back to u someday (err... but i cant promise that). I'll try to shorten this up. Ok, so, I tell my roommate what happened. He says she does, in fact, have a boyfriend. Long distance. He doesn't outright say it, but i can tell he feels uncomfortable giving me her number, so i dont press it. I just figure I'll see her next weekend. I do see her the following weekend(today). She. Does. Not. Say. One. Word. To. Me. She won't even make eye contact. She wasn't pissed. It was like she was embarrassed. I'm unable to talk to her because I now know she has a boyfriend and I'd feel like such a scuzbag flirting with her. I pretty much left it up to her to initiate anymore chatting. She didn't. Halfway through the night, my confidence is shot. I cant stop wondering what she's thinking about me. Is she regretting that she talked to someone like me? Do I look bad tonight? Was it the drinks that made her like me last time? WTF? I don't talk to anybody for the rest of the night, I leave with my roommate when the bar's lights come on, and now i'm writing this. What's on this girls mind? I want to just say, fuck it, if i can get a girl to dig on me on my first night here, I'll definitely be able to do it again with other girls. But I can't just dismiss this. This girl is hot. Can I salvage this? I would try to figue this out on my own, but I don't wanna waste the time. I wanna see her again tomorrow. What's my next move? |
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| Author: | leftytheking [ Mon Feb 01, 2010 5:57 am ] |
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From what I can tell is, you're way too much in your head about this. Given your background it's completely understandable to be stressed about it. But still, she can feel your stress, and whatever she's thinking, your uncomfortable-ness is not helping. I would suggest being up-front about it and talk to her. Your "I'm very interested" line pretty much blew away her defenses so she really couldn't pull any silly games with you. From what she saw is, you've got the balls to say whatever you think. So follow up with that. Be direct with her and ask her what she feels about you. Tell her why you haven't called yet. Get things straight. It's possible that she wanted you to call and you haven't yet, so SHE is freaking out wondering pretty much the same things YOU are. Again- use the balls, man. Face-to-face, talk it out. If you act like it's no big deal, she'll think it's no big deal. Overthink it- like you are doing right now- and you'll blow it. |
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