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| Author: | Pro [ Thu Jan 28, 2010 8:55 pm ] |
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Hey guys, I'm 16, I'm in highschool. I know this stuff could apply very strongly to highschool, but I'm just not sure how to fit it in. What do I do, where do I start? I make great first impressions, people love me up until I open my mouth. Then I shoot myself in foot. I've got the body language down, I'm a pretty good looking guy, atheletic, I've got all the looks stuff down. It's just the important stuff I don't have, social intelligence, social skills, conversational skills, basic stuff. I get off mostly on my kindda positivity, I can make people feel good about themselves. That's about it. I need people to intitate stuff with me, I don't know what to say. My social intelligence is pretty non-existant. So what do I do to get that up? I just needa learn how to be a cooler guy, women are kindda secondry. I wanna learn how to be a cool guy, where do I start, and then what? |
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| Author: | Dkat [ Thu Jan 28, 2010 10:55 pm ] |
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Practice. Go out with your friends, and talk to people. Make new friends, learn to be a social person. Guys or girls, just go introduce yourself. Try and just have a laid back conversation as if it was you and your boys. If you can do this, your already improving your social skills. If you yourself know you have a problem, your the only one who can fix it. |
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| Author: | Nr2 [ Thu Jan 28, 2010 11:08 pm ] |
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One thing you can do if you struggle with talking to people is take a look at a ebook called How to make great conversation and small talk by Sean Mcpheat. You can find it for free on the internet. He has some good advice on topics and how to keep a conversations going. Other than that, just practice. You can read how much you want, but you wont make real progress until you actually start doing. And when you say you have the body language down, that is not necessarily true. You can have some nervous habits that you dont even know that you have. |
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| Author: | Ezo [ Thu Jan 28, 2010 11:12 pm ] |
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I think you have misunderstood what bodylanguage is. Many of the rules here apply to real life, in my opinion highschool is before real life starts. The girls are not socially trained, they have not been clubbing ever. Still some of the concepts will help you! |
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| Author: | Mercurial [ Thu Jan 28, 2010 11:21 pm ] |
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Good place to start would be to pick up and read a few books on the subject, The Game and Mystery Method are good places to start. They will show you that anything is possible and mystery method will give you a better understanding of it all, other then that just take a look round the forum and start to get a basic understanding on everything |
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| Author: | Spairert [ Fri Jan 29, 2010 12:33 am ] |
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Take a cursory look at all the different schools of PUA available. Mystery Method, Speed Seduction, Double Your Dating, Real Social Dynamics... there are many different methods that all have lots of similarities between them as well as some big differences. I'm personally a fan of inner-game and natural game heavy schools like DYD and RSD. I imagine they'd be more useful in a high school/college setting since you'll be interacting with the same girls on a pretty regular basis. The big things that helped me the most when I got started were to learn to identify and respond to shit tests, indicators of interest, and just generally getting a strong cocky/funny going. |
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