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Author:  wrapper [ Sat Jan 23, 2010 9:05 pm ]
Post subject:  next step after hookup
I'm a freshman in college, and I hooked up with a girl last night at a party. I like her, and I'm considering making her my gf. I also got her number.

What's my next step? Facebook friend her/talk to her on facebook? Text her? Call her? How long should I wait before doing this? Should I tell her to get a bite to eat with me tomorrow or invite her to watch the nfl playoffs tomorrow with me in my dorm room? Any better ideas?
Author:  a large farva [ Sat Jan 23, 2010 11:29 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: next step after hookup
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I'm a freshman in college, and I hooked up with a girl last night at a party. I like her, and I'm considering making her my gf. I also got her number.

What's my next step? Facebook friend her/talk to her on facebook? Text her? Call her? How long should I wait before doing this? Should I tell her to get a bite to eat with me tomorrow or invite her to watch the nfl playoffs tomorrow with me in my dorm room? Any better ideas?
better idea. your first mistake is wanting to make her you gf already. don't look at it like that. how well do you know her? is this the first time you guys met?

my suggestion would be to wait a day or two. if she calls/texts you the next day even better. tell her your doing something with friends (like watching the game and having some drinks in my dorm) and she should come hang out. group setting is the easiest for comfort building with someone you recently met.

just don't look at like, you want to make her your gf. who knows you may find something out about her you don't like down the line. just go with the flow and if it happens, it happens.
Author:  wrapper [ Sun Jan 24, 2010 1:22 am ]
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its the first time we met, but we have a lot in common. also, she hasn't called or texted me yet.

advice anyone else?
Author:  Filmmaker78 [ Sun Jan 24, 2010 1:47 am ]
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I'm fairly new to the PUA world (and just joined this forum), but not to dating. If you're interested in turning it into something more, you need to text her within a couple of days of hooking up. Otherwise (assuming she's interested in it being more than a random hookup) she's going to feel cheap if she doesn't hear from you.

For a number of reasons, she probably isn't going to text you first.
Author:  wrapper [ Sun Jan 24, 2010 4:09 am ]
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filmmaker, would you invite her to watch the nfl playoffs with me on sunday. or should i invite her to do something else?

if so, what should i invite her to do and when should i invite her to do it (i can't think of things to do during the week)
Author:  ealltech [ Fri Dec 25, 2015 6:35 am ]
Post subject:  Re: next step after hookup
If you're interested in turning it into something more, you need to text her within a couple of days of hooking up. Otherwise (assuming she's interested in it being more than a random hookup) she's going to feel cheap if she doesn't hear from you.
Author:  ElijahGuru [ Fri Dec 25, 2015 9:21 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: next step after hookup
Dude,

Why would you want to make a girl you hooked up with your gf? Girls usually hook-up with guys to get back at their boyfriends, to validate themselves, a combination of both or for reasons only she would know. Usually when girls hook up with guys, they aren't looking for a day 2, they would much rather move on and look back on the event as "it just happened". Let her be, have her chase you, if she doesn't then c'est la vie, if she does, then get to know more about her and if this some girl you see yourself with for the rest of your life, boink her brains out and make sure she never feels the need to 'hook-up' with another dude again.
Author:  R.C [ Sat Dec 26, 2015 5:20 am ]
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Or because they simply want to fuck, Elijah. You're kind of making it sound as if she made some sort of a taboo mistake.

Anyway, op, he's right about one thing. Don't take party hookups seriously. As in don't think in terms of making her your girlfriend after one drunken haze, lol. Also, did you have sex? Because hookup means different things to different people and with this forum you can never know.

You can text her. Be casual, light and fun. See where it goes, just don't plan the wedding just yet.
Author:  JackZero [ Sat Dec 26, 2015 5:29 am ]
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We should all go out and celebrate this posts sixth birthday next month.

Ealltech brought it back to life so he can sneak in links to his business.
Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Sat Dec 26, 2015 4:51 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: next step after hookup
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We should all go out and celebrate this posts sixth birthday next month.

Ealltech brought it back to life so he can sneak in links to his business.
This dude doesn't get the thread locked and the link deleted? What a bunch of bullshit... I post a link and the mods get up my ass. Almost 4000 posts and I can't promote my shit. But This asshole has 12 and it's cool.

This isn't the first time I've said something like this either.
Author:  Dragula [ Sat Dec 26, 2015 7:27 pm ]
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Dude,

Why would you want to make a girl you hooked up with your gf? Girls usually hook-up with guys to get back at their boyfriends, to validate themselves, a combination of both or for reasons only she would know. Usually when girls hook up with guys, they aren't looking for a day 2, they would much rather move on and look back on the event as "it just happened". Let her be, have her chase you, if she doesn't then c'est la vie, if she does, then get to know more about her and if this some girl you see yourself with for the rest of your life, boink her brains out and make sure she never feels the need to 'hook-up' with another dude again.

WTF

It's opinions like this is why meeting girls is so hard for a guy. Why don't you just let people do what THEY want to do with THEIR life? Projecting much?

I have met some amazing girls i've hooked with on the same night, the fact that I don't judge girls like that ironically makes girls want to hook up with me faster than the the traditional way or what society expects of them to do. I also save 3 dates worth of time in the process, I hope you handle this sticking point of yours.
Author:  199Flags [ Sun Dec 27, 2015 3:17 am ]
Post subject:  Re: next step after hookup
When you say hookup do mean sex or kissing? Either way go for it and try not to be all self conscious about every move you make. I've been there and it's only as weird as you make it. If she likes you, she will enjoy your company if she was drunk and randomly made out with you, you may not here back.
Author:  AFCEastChampion [ Mon Dec 28, 2015 11:56 am ]
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Whatever the dude was gonna do he did it 5 years ago.
Author:  oceanx [ Mon Dec 28, 2015 1:43 pm ]
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We should all go out and celebrate this posts sixth birthday next month.
:lol: :lol:
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