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Author:  rookie1234 [ Fri Jan 22, 2010 10:01 pm ]
Post subject:  Buying drinks on a "date"
Any advice on how to politely inform a HB that you are not prepared to buy all her drinks while you are hanging out? I'm not mean, I just dont believe its appropriate to be spending excess money on a girl I'm not in a relationship with, I'd feel like less of a chump if we were doing rounds.
I was thinking of just telling her outright (in a slightly jokey way of course) to buy me a drink, when its her round
Thanks
Author:  Royalty [ Fri Jan 22, 2010 10:22 pm ]
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Frame it in such a way that there is no expectation of who is paying for whom. Spending money isn't a big deal, but you aren't obligated, either.

If it's on a Day 2 or later, say something like "SINCE I'm a gentleman, I'll pick up the first round."

If you just met her, get her to buy you a drink. Pull her into the frame that women buy drinks for you, not the other way around. Play Style's Five Lies game. Make a "bet" with her. Etc...
Author:  J-Dub [ Sun Jan 24, 2010 4:56 am ]
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I agree with Royalty. I would say something like 'I'll buy the first round if you buy the second round', in a cocky/funny manner.

Believe it or not, some girls go out on dates just to get a free meal/drink ticket, then say they have something planned after the date.

Whenever a girl tells me that they have plans after a date, I end it right there...They do not pass GO and will not collect $200.

You have to keep control of the situation. If not, they will shit test you all night and walk all over you and then you end up $60-$150 less.

Best,

J-Dub
Author:  StreetLight [ Sun Jan 24, 2010 5:11 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Buying drinks on a "date"
Quote:
I'm not mean, I just don't believe its appropriate to be spending excess money on a girl I'm not in a relationship with
off course you're not mean, actually it's quite unfair if YOU will be the only one paying
Quote:
SINCE I'm a gentleman, I'll pick up the first round
That's a perfect line

furthermore, I would set the frame in the first lace that this is not a "formal date", were just 2 people hanging together, which means we share the outcome of the bill as well as anything
Author:  Jaybot [ Sun Jan 24, 2010 10:40 am ]
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On dates it is ok to buy drinks just say something like "I'll grab the first round", if she later says I am going to get a drink straight out say "could you grab me a beer?" she won't say no.


As for a girl you have just met I just say " I don't buy women drinks, other guys do but I see it as an attempt to buy affection ... isn't that prostitution?". They won't ask after that. Another thing I used to rock out which works amazingly well is "nope I won't buy you a drink but I am sure one of these other saps will, how about that guy?"
Author:  J-Dub [ Sun Jan 24, 2010 2:46 pm ]
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Quote:
On dates it is ok to buy drinks just say something like "I'll grab the first round", if she later says I am going to get a drink straight out say "could you grab me a beer?" she won't say no.


As for a girl you have just met I just say " I don't buy women drinks, other guys do but I see it as an attempt to buy affection ... isn't that prostitution?". They won't ask after that. Another thing I used to rock out which works amazingly well is "nope I won't buy you a drink but I am sure one of these other saps will, how about that guy?"
Those are some pretty good lines JayBot..

Best!

J-Dub
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