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Author:  NAB [ Sat Jan 09, 2010 11:15 pm ]
Post subject:  How do I get her out of the gym?
A little background story about myself to get you into the right mindset:

I'm doing practical work at this gym and meet alot of pretty women in there (anything from a 7-10). Usually they come up to me and ask for a workout (which I then give to them, and start chatting with them etc etc) or I go up to a girl and just start talking. Usually I start out with something like 'how's the workout going?' or whatever.

It all goes well, but after a while either I need to go and help someone else, or she's done with her workout. So the convo's arn't all that long(say 5 mins, maybe 10 max) and stay pretty shellow most of the time.


Now I was wondering how I could get these girls out of the gym? Just boldy ask them out for a date (without calling it a date ofc)?

Or should I just forget about picking girls up at the gym at all, as it might effect my job? (girls rejecting me and feeling awkward next time we see eachother there)

cheers,
NAB
Author:  poodogr [ Sun Jan 10, 2010 6:25 am ]
Post subject:  You got it man
omg, with what you're talking about, I have no clue why your rep isn't any higher (that'll change soon, don't worry), and that nobody has even replied.

Girls are COMING UP to you in the gym?

I don't know, maybe it's my town or something, but from 5-9pm, anyday, it's really a 20's crowd, and oh yeah there are some hot chicks. But what I've always seen is they wanna keep to themselves.

- Girls who've put on globs of makeup to go to the gym.
- Girls who get on the treadmill / elliptical / stairmaster in heels.

...and they don't seem to really wanna be talked to...

In fact, usually, nobody talks to anyone at the gyms I've been to. (I've been to about 10 in my metro area; many play lots of top 40's hits blasting, etc. so it's a real hip,young 20's crowd.

It's just this gym thing I'm trying to crack.

But to answer your question, dude, you've got it set. If they're coming up to you, start some conversations, are they from here, in school, what do they like to do, etc. and you got it.!

It's not necessarely about holding up your hand like "STOP. I would like to ask you out on a date!" (no, not that u would do that, but u know what I mean.) Dude, you're ahead more than most people can hope for.

Find some common ground, and not the chodey, "You like chilli dogs? I like chilli dogs too!" kinda stuff. Anything that can hook and give you an excuse to say, "Hey, can I hit u up sometime?" Usually you're good to go.

Don't wory about the awkwardness next time you see them, because there is none. If the girl says, "Well....I have a boyfriend." Say, "Oh, shit, that's cool, well I'm sure I'll seeya in here sometime. Done.

If you do happen to see her again, wave and smile, say "Hi (Name)" and you'll get a smile back. If the vibe was right, and it sounds like it's been right for you, she'll probably come up to you again.

I'm wondering how you engage the hot chicks on the treadmill / escalator machine, etc., b/c usually these ones are smoking hot. I mean, do you get on the mahcine next to them and start talking while they're huffing and puffing.....it's a tough call.

This is a great thread that def. deserves some more input, since the gym is a big component of pickup, and we do run into lots of hot girls in gyms. I'd be a chode to say , "Oh no wait, these girls are off limits b/c we're not in a bar."

Anyway, anyone is invited to give their feedback on this one. I'd love to hear what others have to say about this, b/c I see so little about gym game in the forums.

Alright guys, have a good night.!

- PoodogR
Author:  The Persian [ Sun Jan 10, 2010 6:31 am ]
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You don't get your bread and meat at the same place!
But if ur keen to try, have a deep conversation in the short amount of time they have, while she is at the peak of convo, cut her saying "shit, I need to get back to work, is there anyway we could carry on this conversation later one?" or something like that, and if she offered her number or email or facebook, its an IOI!
Author:  Marc [ Sun Jan 10, 2010 6:50 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How do I get her out of the gym?
Quote:
A little background story about myself to get you into the right mindset:

I'm doing practical work at this gym and meet alot of pretty women in there (anything from a 7-10). Usually they come up to me and ask for a workout (which I then give to them, and start chatting with them etc etc) or I go up to a girl and just start talking. Usually I start out with something like 'how's the workout going?' or whatever.

It all goes well, but after a while either I need to go and help someone else, or she's done with her workout. So the convo's arn't all that long(say 5 mins, maybe 10 max) and stay pretty shellow most of the time.


Now I was wondering how I could get these girls out of the gym? Just boldy ask them out for a date (without calling it a date ofc)?

Or should I just forget about picking girls up at the gym at all, as it might effect my job? (girls rejecting me and feeling awkward next time we see eachother there)

cheers,
NAB
The key is to chat with these girls outside of the gym very briefly. thats the place that could ask them out. If i were you I'd advise them to get an energy drink after the work out. Most gyms have an energy drink counter or a health bar or even a vending machine. So I'd walk them out, help them choose the drink and continue the conv. from there. I'd not do the whole let me have your number thing at work but would ask them to join me with their friends at(Location) at(time).

Keep it Short and sweet, build a lot of comfort. Because at work you dont want tosound like the creepy guy trying to pick up chicks
Author:  NAB [ Sun Jan 10, 2010 11:10 am ]
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At poodagr; I work there as an instructor, so it's not all that special they walk up to me. I think ;) And whenever they're on the treadmill / escalator machine or whatever, I can just stand next to it and start a convo. Though I guess I can get away with that being an instructor there! I might be weird when you're just some guy training there aswell. Though I guess getting on the machine next to it is pretty good.

All of these cardio machines are actually really boring (you're running for 15 minutes without moving an inch!!). So just start chatting with them. Most of the time they will be happy as the time will just fly away when chatting.



Anyway, I had this girl coming up to me a couple weeks ago for a workout and helped her out. We were getting along pretty good and all. Gave her some kino (although it was more work-related then to seduce them) by feeling if she had a straight back or was squeezing her shoulderblades together etc. Like I said, not much seduction related.

So, she usually comes in on friday's (that's when I work there), but she wasn't there last friday. I guess that can happen. I went to do my own workout the day after (saturday), and she came into the gym when I was just about done with my workout. So I waved and said Hi. She came up to me and I asked her where she was yesterday (meaning friday). She told me she had some trouble with the traffics and didn't got home till 2030 hours, and couldn't come. We had a little convo and I said something like 'Well at least I still saw you this week', smiled and she initiated a high five (kino?).

I'm not sure if that's an IOI (or multiple, as she came over to me when I said Hi) or she's just being nice and friendly. What do you guys say?

Anyway, to come back at my original question. I should just go and chat about something deep, and break up the convo somewhere in the middle. Then ask them to continue the convo later on, but suggest somewhere outside the gym?

What if they respond with something like 'next week' or anything suggesting the next time they're in the gym? Can I take that as a way to say they're not interested?


I'm pretty new to this whole community, hence all the questions. Also pretty insecure about myself and tend to onverthink alot. Though I have to say I'm getting more and more secure the longer I work there.

Cheers,
NAB
Author:  drewski [ Mon Jan 11, 2010 9:03 pm ]
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Hey! This is a fantastic thread, but it could use a little more content. I hit the gym 4-5 times a week and have really been trying to find a technique that will work effectively on the really hot girls. Some of the hottest girls go to the gym, however it's a difficult SPAM to open in because everybody's busy! In addition to that, everyone wears HEADPHONES!!! Headphones are a tough obstacle to get around, but once you do, it can really pan out nicely because if you're worth interrupting her tunes, than you must be worth talking to. By then she's curious and wants to figure out what you're all about. Before you can do that, you really have to address your presence in the fitness area. NAB - you've got it made because all these girls (doesn't matter what they look like) are coming up and talking to you. With this you can establish yourself and show you're about SOMETHING. They maybe asking for fitness advice, but really try sarging on those girls and lay down some kino and if you can get her to laugh and smile (while you are too of course - don't try to be tough, because that's what every other AFC in the gym is trying to do) than your other targets will see this and become more interested. I go to a collegiate gym so there's plenty of young, beautiful girls there. Luckily I know some that go there and without them even knowing, I use them as a sort of wing man.

As for getting them out of the gym - I'm sure there's like a lobby or something in your gym, and since you're a trainer, you probably know the person at the front desk so it won't be weird for her to see you chillin in the lobby and maybe talking to the deskee. There, if you've sparked up a good convo earlier during workout and are getting some vibes from a girl you wanna pursue, you can wait! THEN, as she finishes her workout and walks by in the lobby, you can use any opener that might work for that situation and even (if you feel comfortable enough) use the lobby guy as a wing man! Since you had already established conversation in the fitness area, she will already be on a comfort level with you and you won't have to worry about any bitch shields or anything like that.

I am relatively new to this stuff so I've been doing a lot of experimenting, especially in the gym. Try this and let me know if it works for you!! Good luck and happy sargin
Author:  The Persian [ Tue Jan 12, 2010 5:11 am ]
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I'd say, maybe, as PUA is an exception to the rules, one of the effective ways to impress girls is to show u care about ur fitness, but don't dress like those jocks or act like them! I guess modesty in gym gets girls better than checking urself 20 times in the mirror, or trying to walk like a tough guy and shit!
Thats what I think, I could be VERY wrong as I never tried to pick up in Gym, guess we gotta ask Female*Artist for this matter! :p
Author:  NAB [ Wed Jan 13, 2010 11:29 am ]
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Alright. This is helping me! Though I still have to try it in practice.

I guess you mean showing that you're high value / socialable guy, by interacting with the less attractive (or even the attractive ones). Making them laugh and just stay cool with them?

Then the hot girls will see that, think subconsciously something like "oh that guy is social and has girls talking to him. I need to talk to him!". And when I approach those girls, they will be happy to put down their Ipod and start a convo with you?

Sounds cool, have to try it this friday! Already got some girls in a comfort level with me there, so starting a convo with them will be easy. And my boss just told us we need to interact with more people (not just the hot ones ;-) ). So I guess that's 2 birds with 1 stone!

Great, I'll let you guys know how it goes.
Author:  The Persian [ Wed Jan 13, 2010 1:18 pm ]
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Make us proud tiger! ;)
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