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Author:  PokerFFace [ Sat Jan 09, 2010 6:12 pm ]
Post subject:  negging sometimes doesnt work?
Hello, i was really into the negging thing and it worked for me a lot, but this one girl when i negged her, she got offended and didnt talk to me, what am i supposed to do than, am i supposed to just not give a shit and go lookin for other tail, or try to get her back? (and how)
Author:  The Persian [ Sat Jan 09, 2010 6:28 pm ]
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Did she tell you she is hurt? or she just walked off?

Neggin is suppose to be "accidental insults" so you don't have to acknowledge that you knew what you said is offensive, and I'd say yes, you should act as if you don't give a fuck. But I assume a push/pull would work better after negging!
You neg her and without giving her time to respond you continue talking, and in the mean time, analyze her body language and facial expression, if she seems annoyed, offended or hurt, you try to find that out and give her a small compliment!
If she does say that she is hurt and explain what you said is offensive and why its offensive, maybe respond with "oh I didn't mean it to come across that way" as Neg has done its job anyway, so you got nothing to lose and you could even carry it on with saying "oh did ya get offended princess? awww Im sorry" in a sarcastic/playful way.
What I found about negging tho is, it works best on hot, confidant girls more, so don't neg a shy, naive girl. They respond to compliments better in my opinion!

I could be wrong, its just my opinion on it :)
Author:  pullhardr [ Sun Jan 10, 2010 5:49 pm ]
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The beauty of a really effective neg, is that it comes across as a compliment. In this way, she really has no basis for being mad at you personally. Having said this, I agree with shahnam, the hotter the girl the more intense the negging. If this girl is a 7 and somewhat shy, maybe just go with a bit of teasing instead.
Author:  Ezo [ Sun Jan 10, 2010 7:05 pm ]
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The fact that you are asking this on the forum about a girl means that you are doing it wrong.

You should have asked yourself that question about 30 seconds into the conversation. After 15 minutes the set is normally over!

You are clearly gaming a girl in your social circle and that is normally a bad idea. If you are gonna do that you gotta know exactly what you are doing. Normal "game" and routines and shit doesnt work. Thats something you use to avoid the pitfalls in the first conversation you have. The only thing that you could have going for you is an understanding of the mechanisms and concepts behind attraction, comfort and sexual tension.

Negging has no place in your social circle. Do not even think about starting being a player with someone you already know! The only thing that does is tell the person that you are behaving in a wierd way. That you are unnecessarily mean and rude to them. Why would a friend suddenly start saying strange things???

If I do stuff I do push-pull and cocky funny. But thats just because I can IMPROVISE these things. It comes naturally! Its not a neg! And its part of my personality.

A neg is used to lower the bitch shield and remove all thoughts that you are interested. Do NOT overdo it. Only use negs if you have that problem! Otherwise stay as far away from them as you possibly can!

Ezo
Author:  R.G. [ Sun Jan 10, 2010 8:15 pm ]
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Negging is lame.

I never neg.

Compliments are the way forward.
Author:  PokerFFace [ Mon Jan 11, 2010 3:20 pm ]
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so a 7 who is really shy, might take the neg to harsh offense, so i should use more compliments on the 7, and if its a 10 who thinks shes hot shit, than negs need to be used more than compliments,
Author:  Alex88 [ Mon Jan 11, 2010 5:20 pm ]
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everything somethimes dosent work
Author:  Female*Artist [ Tue Jan 12, 2010 12:17 am ]
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"this one girl when i negged her, she got offended and didnt talk to me"

Right PokerFace, this is a NORMAL reaction of a healthy minded girl. It's actually a good sign in my opinion.

I really don't understand negging. I think I've had negs before, and my reaciton has been "Oh dear, you really are and asshole aren't you".

Rafiel is right, negs are lame. Women with good self-esteem won't resond to them, they'll just think your pathetic.

This won't work on confident women - which is what shahnam thinks. Negs work on someone's doubts, their fears about themselves - do you really want to attract women like that. Sure I've come across quite a few women that come across as really confident - but by their behaviour and how they treat others it's obvious they have self-esteem issues.

If it's a neg mixed well with a compliment, I wouldn't say anything to your face, but I sure would think "Jesus, he has a LOT to learn".
Author:  Marc [ Tue Jan 12, 2010 12:26 am ]
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I am not convinced that most guys in here know what a neg is, including me sometimes. I neg once in a while but it should be soo funny that the girl starts laughing and doesn't feel INSULTED or HURT. I disagree with the post above me that says girls with confidance do not react to negs - They do ! And they know that you are having fun and not trying to hurt them.

Why would any social person in his right mind try to bring someone down !! Forget the Mystery gamit of guys, they were socially awkward and need all this to bring up their own 'value'.

So unless you really know teasing, being playful and funny don't try negging. You would end up hurting a lot of girls.
Author:  Ezo [ Tue Jan 12, 2010 12:40 am ]
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Well, Female*Artist...

Negs are not always bad. Only if they are done in the wrong way. Unfortunately many people misunderstand what a neg really is.

Some people use them as insults which they are NOT! That kind of negs suck!

If a neg is done correctly it releases tension. It helps the conversation. A neg is really a false disqualification. Which means that it is a comment that reduces the feeling that someone is just trying to get into your panties (which they are hence the "false").
Anyways, you know sometimes when guys come up to you to tell you a lot of nice things and you just think "hey have I heard that line before", those people show very clearly that they are out to get some action. Or at least to get some romance with the possible sideeffect that they are gonna be annoying. (Unless you are already attracted at which point you forgive a lot of their behaviour.) But we are talking about the guys who are not immediately attractive.

People treating girls like they are just a body with some clothes are creepy. With a correct neg it can feel like that guy is actually not that creepy. You are not sure if he is interested or not. He might be but he is not so totally into you that he starts complimenting you for everything and treats you like a body. He may even treat you like a person. Which leads to that he doesnt creep you out and you end up talking and he turns out to be a nice guy.

Most people out there are good. The problem is that most guys dont get very far in conversation. They transmit too much interest which creeps the girl out and he is OUT! Lessen the initial interest and the girl will accept him for a longer time so that either:
A. He can show her that he is a great guy.
B. He can show her that he is a boring loser based on his personality instead of his looks.

I hope you understand more about the neg theory now. It is a confusing theory, especially the way some people use it. But the gist of it is: Dont be too on!

Ezo
Author:  richyritch [ Tue Jan 12, 2010 3:17 am ]
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I think negging does have a place, but not in a malicious way. Like "we would never get along, we are too alike." "you can dress her up, but cant take her anywhere....god!" But negging can be taken the wrong way if you use it as an insult.

Compliments are the same. I read a few times that if you compliment a women, it will positively affect her whole day. People are drawn to positivity by nature. I don't EVER think you would get a "fuck off" reaction from a female if you say "Hey, I saw you while i was walking, and you are the prettiest girl I've seen all day. I'd kick myself if I didnt at least get you name."

Remember both negs and compliments need to be timed and be used properly. You're not necessarily and asshole if you neg. Women like to be playfully teased a little. But follow it up with a compliment to make them feel special. Push/pull duh!! You make a girl feel special and make her laugh, she'll do anything.
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