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Author:  Good Life [ Thu Jan 07, 2010 6:48 am ]
Post subject:  Slut defense? Am I going to get laid?
For some quick backstory:
I sent an off hand message to a girl on facebook regarding her status. We write on each others walls a couple times, and I sent her a message and without any trouble, I got her number.
For a couple weeks we've been texting back and forth, and on the 10th, I'm going to visit her an hour and a half away, out of state.
We text pretty often I guess, usually a couple texts back and forth a day. We've spoken on the phone a few times, and SPAM and shit. All of this is stuff I hate doing but have had to resort to due to distance issues.
Anyhow, earlier today, while IMing, she sends me a text,

HB 9 "so, do you have a sleeping bag you can bring with you?"
me 10 "for you?, of course."
HB 9 "no silly, for u! :P, nice try"
me 10 "yeah, i'll bring one so you don't have to sleep on the cold, hard ground"

This seems to contradict the signals I've been getting from her, is it just slut defenses?
Author:  Plays Upfront [ Thu Jan 07, 2010 7:23 am ]
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could be just her defense but I'm feeling a good vide on your story. you are on the right track so carry on soldier!
Author:  Good Life [ Fri Jan 08, 2010 8:05 am ]
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You don't think I should worry about it? Does anyone else have input?
I'm sure that I'm over thinking this, and I'm assuming that that was her way of telling me, along with herself that we wont have sex.
Is there anything I should do?
Author:  _Alias_ [ Fri Jan 08, 2010 8:26 am ]
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Quote:
You don't think I should worry about it? Does anyone else have input?
I'm sure that I'm over thinking this, and I'm assuming that that was her way of telling me, along with herself that we wont have sex.
Is there anything I should do?
First of all you have to realize that just because you are sleeping over a girls house doesn't mean your going to get laid. I know it sucks but that's just the way it is. However this doesn't mean you wont get laid either. If she is letting you spend the night at her house then you are on the right track with this girl. Basically when your over there have fun with her and don't charge into anything. Kino is always a good idea but make sure she is responding well before you escalate. After all her house is your place to sleep that night. Make things fun and playful with her and you really cant go wrong. She isn't asking you to stay over her house because she really likes you as a friend so don't worry about that. Hope this helped.

Alias
Author:  Good Life [ Tue Jan 12, 2010 6:46 am ]
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EDIT: Not sure how to delete posts. This had a violation of terms in it.
Author:  Royalty [ Tue Jan 12, 2010 10:51 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Slut defense? Am I going to get laid?
Quote:
For some quick backstory:
I sent an off hand message to a girl on facebook regarding her status. We write on each others walls a couple times, and I sent her a message and without any trouble, I got her number.
For a couple weeks we've been texting back and forth, and on the 10th, I'm going to visit her an hour and a half away, out of state.
We text pretty often I guess, usually a couple texts back and forth a day. We've spoken on the phone a few times, and SPAM and shit. All of this is stuff I hate doing but have had to resort to due to distance issues.
Anyhow, earlier today, while IMing, she sends me a text,

HB 9 "so, do you have a sleeping bag you can bring with you?"
me 10 "for you?, of course."
HB 9 "no silly, for u! :P, nice try"
me 10 "yeah, i'll bring one so you don't have to sleep on the cold, hard ground"

This seems to contradict the signals I've been getting from her, is it just slut defenses?
HB: So, do you have a sleeping bag you can bring with you?
Me: OMG We're going CAMPING??? You should have told me! Damn, I wish I paid more attention in Boy Scouts...
HB: LOL no, so you can sleep on my floor
Me: Ok, but you'd better not come try to violate me at 2am! ;p

In any case, just remember that you're not just ACCEPTING her terms and going along with what she says. Your terms are equal to (or more stringent than) hers. Remember: you're the selector. About the "LMR"... um, not sure how young you are, so I can't quite say.
Author:  Good Life [ Tue Jan 12, 2010 10:14 pm ]
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HB: So, do you have a sleeping bag you can bring with you?
Me: OMG We're going CAMPING??? You should have told me! Damn, I wish I paid more attention in Boy Scouts...
HB: LOL no, so you can sleep on my floor
Me: Ok, but you'd better not come try to violate me at 2am! ;p

In any case, just remember that you're not just ACCEPTING her terms and going along with what she says. Your terms are equal to (or more stringent than) hers. Remember: you're the selector. About the "LMR"... um, not sure how young you are, so I can't quite say.[/quote]

We're both 20. And as far as accepting her terms, I ended up sleeping in her bed ^^
Author:  Royalty [ Tue Jan 12, 2010 11:02 pm ]
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Ok cool. I know there are a lot of younger guys on the forums (high school)

Yes, not wanting to sleep with you because you "just met" or she "doesn't know you well enough" etc... is Anti-Slut Defense, and if it is done leading up to sex, it's a form of LMR.

Style had some outstanding techniques for dealing with LMR that he outlined in the book. I'm guessing you can find them online with a search. As for ASD that is not LMR (like before you even get physical)... build more comfort and make sure she knows she's not just a notch on the bedpost. Ross Jeffries had some good NLP-inspired phrases for that
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