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| Author: | Friedrich [ Mon Jan 04, 2010 1:38 am ] |
| Post subject: | Denying i have oneitis when i have it. |
Right, not even my best mates know i have oneitis but i know i do. I know that i can game pretty easily, its been around 2 years of gaming where i was gaming pretty much non stop for a long time, it became my prime hobby. But at college i really liked a girl i never got with (i also had a gf but part of the reason we split was that i really liked this other girl, the gf never did find out). I don't even know how it happened, i just loved her humour and how she looked. However, i began college as a skinny beta kid who knew very little about game and consequently i fucked up on dominating up the social ladder and making it mine. I bulked up a lot and gamed a lot more but still this crush from my afc days still eluded me (even though i only first met her in second year), it just tore me inside that i could have girls that i didn't give a shit about outside college but not her. The thing is, cockblocking was an epidemic with relationships as well as attempts to get a girl for anyone. You can try to pick up as many women as you want but even my mate on here knows that i don't particularly enjoy it, i'd much rather have one girl in truth who i really like for her personality and her looks as well. I really had less control over my feelings when i was an afc so she became a oneitis and its stuck with me since. It's absolutely shit but what can i say. It was a weird sorta infatuation really but i just want to put that part of me away for good. Here's the thing, my old mates were ok mates but they were cockblocks, pretty standard. But i'm on a gap year and she is still at college, i have a chance to grasp the opportunity and go to the club the college goes to every week and play my night game and probably win but feel very bad at if i fail. Thing is, i can't decide on what to do... i don't want to leave it hanging. I feel bad for lying to myself but i'm trying to forget. And can't. Part of the reason i had such success after meeting her was because i didn't really care about the girls i gamed, my feelings were somewhere else. They still are much to my annoyance. |
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| Author: | Ezo [ Mon Jan 04, 2010 1:41 am ] |
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Maybe you are in love. |
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| Author: | Friedrich [ Mon Jan 04, 2010 1:46 am ] |
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Quote: Maybe you are in love.
I just really want to snap out of it tbh, its like a constant depression.
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| Author: | Ezo [ Mon Jan 04, 2010 1:48 am ] |
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In that case, sarge other people. Keep busy. Surround yourself with really good friends that can keep your mind occupied! |
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| Author: | Friedrich [ Mon Jan 04, 2010 1:53 am ] |
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Quote: In that case, sarge other people. Keep busy. Surround yourself with really good friends that can keep your mind occupied!
Sensible advice, but if you were i and tried your best not to get feelings in your mind when gaming her would you at least try to get her? Thing is, since my best mate left for uni to Nottingham i have no one to jam around with anymore, i would be by myself since all my mate have gone to university. |
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| Author: | Ezo [ Mon Jan 04, 2010 9:31 am ] |
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I would definately try to get her! |
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| Author: | safety [ Tue Jan 05, 2010 2:25 pm ] |
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i have oneitis too. so i kno what you are feeling. all these guys who say "move on" or whatever make an extremely valid point but it is just too hard to let go. i am so close to getting my oneitis (touch wood) and i did it through dhv's to her friends/brother because i knew i would fuck up if i tried to game her. now that i hav value it is much easier and is pretty much frame control. i advise this,because u havent spoken to her in a while make it as tho ur a new person (which u are) and she will be interested. |
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| Author: | witmann [ Tue Jan 05, 2010 3:08 pm ] |
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I've been through all this oneitis stuff and it surely is a hard time for your nerves and emotions. After some time I realized that it is better to know the answer whatever it is than wondering "what if". So, my advice is as follows: try to get her! If you succeed you'll be hell of a happy guy. If you fail, you will know, that she's not for you and it would be A LOT easier to let her go and move on to looking for someone else. Love is a really fucked up emotion, but it's there and you have to handle it, whatever it takes. Succeed and you win all. Fail and you get some time of pain and sadness, but also some experience for the future. Just make sure that all those emotions don't change the way you behave in front of her. Don't become AFC-like (which your heart will surely guide you to), just keep walking your own path. Good luck! |
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| Author: | Friedrich [ Tue Jan 05, 2010 3:53 pm ] |
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Thanks for the advice guys, i know what i have to do. I know if i game like i normally would with the sets around me i have this in the bag. I have good social proof in her year as a lot of mates there use to hang around with out year. I can win the set she's in pretty easily too as i'm not actually doing anything extraordinary by winning over the friends. Only problem is the beta males that can be mistaken as gaymogs in her group of friends (why oh why does there always have to be beta/gay mogs lol), i gotta be careful about them as they can be protective to an annoying degree. |
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