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Author:  TeeRex [ Sat Jan 02, 2010 7:53 pm ]
Post subject:  6 months in and she says she doesnt feel it
Looking for some advice on my situation.

Im 25 years old in a 6 month relationship that I thought was going well until yesterday. She tells me she doesn't feel it for me and I dont know what to do. Im in love with this girl and she gave me the I love you back about a month ago. And now says she said it too soon. Is there any hope in me creating a "spark" or if she hasnt gotten it in 6 months is it best to move on? I really love this one and I know there are 3 billion others out there. But I have had very little luck in being a pick up artist lol. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.
Author:  ghostdog [ Sun Jan 03, 2010 1:23 am ]
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Looking for some advice on my situation.

Im 25 years old in a 6 month relationship that I thought was going well until yesterday. She tells me she doesn't feel it for me and I dont know what to do. Im in love with this girl and she gave me the I love you back about a month ago. And now says she said it too soon. Is there any hope in me creating a "spark" or if she hasnt gotten it in 6 months is it best to move on? I really love this one and I know there are 3 billion others out there. But I have had very little luck in being a pick up artist lol. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.
sorry friend.

if she says she ain't feeling it...there's NOTHING u can do...

its time to bail...otherwise likely she'll hang around till she finds something better OR really gets tired of you.

the best thing you can do to create a spark is to walk away.

if its there, she'll feel it and come back 2 u...

remember- this is Pick up artist- not LTR artist...
Author:  Marc [ Sun Jan 03, 2010 5:51 am ]
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Looking for some advice on my situation.

Im 25 years old in a 6 month relationship that I thought was going well until yesterday. She tells me she doesn't feel it for me and I dont know what to do. Im in love with this girl and she gave me the I love you back about a month ago. And now says she said it too soon. Is there any hope in me creating a "spark" or if she hasnt gotten it in 6 months is it best to move on? I really love this one and I know there are 3 billion others out there. But I have had very little luck in being a pick up artist lol. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.
Actaully there is something that you can do about it. Firstly, the 'I Love You' thing that she told you means nothing. Get over it. Secondly, what are you doing, she seems like a nice girl because she is trying to be with you. You just aren't able to trigger emotions in her for her to get attracted to you.

So first, stop having a 'relationship talk' with her. If she tells you that she doesn't feel it for you just act normal and say something like ' I hear you ' just very casually playing it down. At this stage of your interaction with her something like a cocky funny style works great in sparking attraction. Look up some articles and see if you can get a hang of the cocky funny stuff.

Try to NOT PRESSURIZE her in commiting into a relationship but instead spark attraction with the zillion tech. in this forum. There are a number of things that could be done in this case to spark attraction but at the moment you are better off backing off the whole 'I Love You' talk. God, do men still say that !!!

Short answer is YES YOU CAN SPARK ATTRACTION.
Author:  TeeRex [ Tue Jan 05, 2010 1:55 am ]
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Thanks for the advice. I played the whole thing down and backed off a bit. Seemed to work, she spent the night and seemed more interested. Im going to give it a few more weeks and ask her how she feels. Not sure if I should even bring it up again. But I would rather know than have a relationship going nowhere.


I do realize this is a pick up artist site but it seemed to me that a lot of things from pickup cross over into relationships. That's why I came here for advice. Thanks again.
Author:  Lodewijkp [ Tue Jan 05, 2010 3:40 pm ]
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what to do + a fact from experience:backward-engineer the relationship until you get to the point where you can create attraction. i have been in a relationship with someone who lost ''the feeling of love ''twice , HOWEVER i have been able to create attraction/ a spark 2 times and we got back together 2 times.
Don't treat your relationship like a relationship because you love her way more than she loves you HOWEVER what she says doesn't always correspond to what she thinks.

how to trigger her emotions : some things work on other people and some things don't, you should do things and be more romantic. my girl and me did some improvised games and took a road trip, there are enough things to get that feeling back. treat her like a friend with sexual interests - stop pressurizing and stop talking about the relationship cause a relationship without the proper emotions isn't a healthy one. the main reason she lost feelings is because you dozed off... you dozed of after fucking her and the relationship became to boring from her point of view.
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At this stage of your interaction with her something like a cocky funny style works great in sparking attraction. Look up some articles and see if you can get a hang of the cocky funny stuff.
it's not only behaving with certain charactistics , It's doing things that will create a emotional band like the road trip i took with my girl.

second option: investing could have a adverse effect tho , you could leave her alone and see if see misses you. maybe that feeling will come back and therefore taking a break isn't a bad idea, alot of relationships fail because they didn't took a break and forced themselfs up eachother.

one tip ... don't ask her how she feels - she will show you when the time is right.
ASKING can be PERCEIVED as forcing.
Author:  IML [ Thu Jan 07, 2010 12:05 am ]
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I had the same problem you're dealing with right now, a few months ago. We are still together and things are going so much better!

1st - sit down and talk about it, why doesn't it work for her?
2nd (if she still wants to try) - give her space, don't contact her, she'll contact you.
3rd - when you're "back together" and you'll try again, show her that you really care about her, but at the same time don't be needy - don't be available at all times, do something unexpected and allways, i repeat, ALLWAYS be positive when you're around her, if she calls or if you text. This will only give her positive thoughts about you, and trust me - it will work.
4th - ENJOY YOUR LIFE !!! the world doesn't evolve around her!
5th - Have a great relationship!
Author:  wuenemy22 [ Thu Jan 07, 2010 3:25 am ]
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good tips
Author:  Bloodmuffin [ Thu Jan 07, 2010 5:45 am ]
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I think this would be an appropiate time to use the forbidden patterns. Just google it.
Author:  Johnny B. [ Thu Jan 07, 2010 2:40 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: 6 months in and she says she doesnt feel it
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Looking for some advice on my situation.

Im 25 years old in a 6 month relationship that I thought was going well until yesterday. She tells me she doesn't feel it for me and I dont know what to do. Im in love with this girl and she gave me the I love you back about a month ago. And now says she said it too soon. Is there any hope in me creating a "spark" or if she hasnt gotten it in 6 months is it best to move on? I really love this one and I know there are 3 billion others out there. But I have had very little luck in being a pick up artist lol. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.


Usually those who dont have a good succes rate finding a new women/ are being affraid of not finding a new one, they tend to hold their girl tighter than usually due to those fears. Its like you squeezing that puppy of yours too tight because you are affraid to loose it. You simpply give too much attention and love that suffocates it.
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But I have had very little luck in being a pick up artist lol.
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Is there any hope in me creating a "spark" or if she hasnt gotten it in 6 months is it best to move on? I really love this one and I know there are 3 billion others out there.


Instead of leaninng more to her direction, start standing on your own two feet. Be a man and stop seeking validation from her.

Even if you manage to " spark " that flame again than is this something that is permanent and will improve your love life in the future if things wont turn out as you thought?
Could this be one of your problems in your life? Is this your sticking point of not finding a new women or not having enough options between girls you want to meet?
If so, than where is the root of this problem?
What is keeping you in that shell of yours and stopping you to have what you want?

Do you really want to hang on to a one string (that seems to be getting cutted ) and live your life in fear for the rest of your life instead of seeing this as an opportunity to grow and develope?

Your road, your choise.

[ Johnny B ]
Author:  PUA_CHRIS [ Thu Jan 07, 2010 4:39 pm ]
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I think this would be an appropiate time to use the forbidden patterns. Just google it.
Agreed, use "The Door" pattern.
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