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| Author: | [Vegas] [ Tue Dec 29, 2009 10:00 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Food For Thought. Odd Situation. |
This is a bit of an odd situation, and I think I know how to play it, but I figured I would go ahead and throw this out there. Background: Met this girl at the beginning of this semester (August) and thought she was pretty cute so I decided to game her. Things went well and after a bit I ended up 'sealing the deal' for lack of better terms. What I didn't know: She had just broken up with her boyfriend previous to starting this last semester and I was her first guy after him. Turns out that she ended up becoming emotionally attached and let's just say she isn't the best at expressing emotions. Instead she went to my roommate and told him she was into me. Not consulting me, my roommate told her that I was a player and she didn't have a chance with me because I had a bunch of other girls into me as well. Apparently she cried over this. The downside: This was back in September when she told him she was into me. He JUST told me a week ago about this. So from late September to now she was discouraged from talking/flirting/hooking up with me. I didn't know this happened, but I found her behavior around me much different and I couldn't figure out why until my roommate told me this. Meanwhile: Since she figured she had no chance with me, she has been hooking up with other guys, and I have since hooked up with multiple other girls, including one of her best friends. Now: I haven't spoken to her at all this Christmas break while being back from college. I don't feel I am in the friends zone at all. I already "f-closed" her previously but I think what my roommate said to her was proven true through my actions without my knowing. Summary: Met a cute girl. Was into her. Got distracted by other girls. Didn't realize she very into me. Roommate told her she didn't have a chance and it sunk in. Now I want to go after her again. Question: How would you guys approach this or would you just leave it? I already moved on with other girls so no, I'm not caught up on her, I just want to go back to her and see how it goes. My plan: Well, she was into me before when I just ran my game, so I'll use this winter break as a short month long freeze out and when I return, it's game on again. I considered facebooking her (due to lack of texting which sucks) and joking about a "play date" she said she owed me way back by just saying "You still owe me!" and taking it from there. I know for a fact she would bite the bait and play into agreeing on the date. Conflict: Although I said I want to go back with her and see where it goes, I also don't know if I am ready to put down my somewhat "playboy" college lifestyle. I also understand that me being the first guy after her ex of a few years can cause "fake emotional attachment" and I know I was a fallback at the time... I'm just wondering if it's recoverable and if I can respark that connection or if my roommate's words and my actions killed it. --------------------------------------------------------- Well I'm open to suggestion and input. I plan on seeing what happens and reporting back on this topic. Just thought I'd throw out there what is going on through my head right now. I won't be disappointed no matter how it turns out, I just want to see what will happen if I act on it. |
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| Author: | trixsta [ Tue Dec 29, 2009 10:24 pm ] |
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I actually have a very different approach to this but I know this is what has set me apart and made me more attractive than other guys in the past (for a fact); I'm probably gonna get bashed for this post but I reckon some good old AFC stuff can sort this out. It's called honesty. Give her the truth. Tell her that your roommate JUST told you what he said, and since you didn't know what he'd said and she had started acting differently, you figured she wasn't into you and, since you're single (emphasise this) you didn't see any problem in having fun and getting with other girls. You had no idea she had cried and now feel a bit bad. However, now you know why she acted weirdly you see the whole situation differently, you'd like to get to know her better and she should meet up with you after Christmas. If she's a relationshippy type girl then tell her you take the idea of a girlfriend VERY seriously (she will love this) and if you're going to settle you want to make sure you're fully committed to it. The reason that this will (I think) work is because you've already created attraction and you're not some dumb guy telling her your feelings after talking for half an hour. Consider my advice but whether you heed or disregard it is your choice! Take it at your own risk. Let us know how it turns out. |
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