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Author:  tweeby [ Sun Dec 20, 2009 5:42 pm ]
Post subject:  Really really stuck need advice for moving forward
OK guys, I feel I've come a long long way this year.

This year I've managed to hook up with five girls on dates. But they never really go any further than this because I'm scared to pull the trigger. I'm confident that it could have if I had the confidence.

Also, I tend to focus on pickup 24/7 and it is taking its toll.

My friends suggested that my problem was that I was already infatuated by these girls I was dating, so much so I wouldn't be able to pull the trigger if I wanted.


They suggested I try hitting on lesser (ugly) girls and practising with them to change my mindset and for the meantime to forget about pick-up and the end goal and just enjoy life a bit.

What do you guys think?
Author:  paxis [ Sun Dec 20, 2009 5:59 pm ]
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If you started something with them, you should finish it.
Just take the next step.

What you are doing is quiting. Giving up.
What you are doing with there HBs is what you're going to do with other girls, no matter how cute (or not) they are.

There is this sticking point. "Damn, I want to kiss her, but what if she rejects?".
Well, guess what, what is preventing you from "pulling the triger" is the fear of rejection. It's going to happen with any girl, so you gotta overcome that.

Fuck, if you grow up a pair and try to kiss them there are 2 possible scenarios: either she rejects you or she goes along. If she kisses you back it's fine, otherwise she'll reject you either because she wasn't prepared, and then build more comfort, or she's not into you, in which case guess what, you're dating 5 girls, 1 of them rejects you, you got the other 4.


Just put this in your mind "damn, let's drink some Vodka, surf and think 'oh fuck, I'm going to kiss them, it's the easiest part. When I start something I finish it."

So... finish it :)
Author:  tweeby [ Sun Dec 20, 2009 6:09 pm ]
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Thanks for the advice.

Every date I have is a learning curve. I told myself if i ever get a day 2 i would try to kiss her regardless.

You see I don't have a problem with girls I couldn't give two shits about. In fact one of those 5 girls I dated I managed to kiss, but only because she was a dog and I didn't give a shit.

But my fear is crippling. All my friends say the ONLY way to get over that is to practise with ugly girls. Then eventually it will come.

I feel the only reason I fuck up with the girls I actually like is because they can sense my lack of confidence and experience. Then they brush me off.
Author:  paxis [ Sun Dec 20, 2009 6:17 pm ]
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It's indifferent if you pratice with a 10HB or a 0HB, the problem is in your core.
Just kiss them. Just try. The only thing that you're going to know is if she likes you or not. And if she does, isn't that worth taking the shot?

Well, go for it. Kiss them.
Don't pratice with crap. If you do it, you're not being honest with yourself.
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