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Author:  pse [ Sun Dec 20, 2009 9:39 am ]
Post subject:  Ignoring, or power game?
So I'm looking into various topics which I disregarded or didn't need as much in t he past, such as framing, shit tests, etc.

This girl that I like just came back from holidays to see her brother, any I tried to do the whole thing of waiting for her to talk to me first, and it worked. Anyway thats a general rule and you need to put in effort, so I asked her when she was coming back, hence:

ME:
Hey :D:D
when do you get back?

HER:
tomorrow morning at 10:))
need to catch up soon!

ME:
Lets have Dinner or lunch soon! I have to give you your xmas present haha

HER:
yeah soon, maybe tuesday?
like u got me any present hahah is this pressure for me to get sth for u:oo

ME:
No it's fine, just something I saw at work. Seeing you again can be my gift :D:D

I'm working everyday next week, but I finish at 3 on Tue. We'll figure something out!

*banter about booking a room near the beach for new years*

HER:
*continues the conversation but talks about accomodation*
_______

I've asked several of my close female friends, (i've been close friends with this girl for quite some time now) and i've had mixed responses:

some saying to give up and the fact she didn't respond to me saying that she can be my gift, obviously shows shes not interested since it was such a big hint.

Some saying its sweet

Some saying she could have just been nervous


I know overanalysing is bad, but i'm study economy and its just a habit.

She did immediately plan a specific day (she has a habit of saying maybe to everything in general), she responded to each message quickly, she continued the conversation. We're also probably going to spend new years eve together which is always a plus

That being said, and being unbias she didn't pick up on the hint or reply.

Not that i'm fishing for approval or anything. I released the other day that attraction is so illogical in many ways when I was talking to a good female friend about how her relationship didn't work out. It could just be amind game where she wants to be chased or something.

I usually get so much comfort with girls and escalate so lately that it sends mixed signals and the line between friendliness and flirting is blurred

Anything I should do, any notes? etc?

Thanks guys
Author:  Djkingmatt [ Sun Dec 20, 2009 10:46 am ]
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I would pay attention to your message length and the amount of "lol" "haha" and ":)" you put in your messages. I usually never write more than she does (try to match her length) and don't use the lol/haha/smileys much. I've seen that the smileys and extra fluff in the form of "well" "because" and stuff like that, leave it out. Try to be more to the point and leave some words out with more time typing; it's all about anticipation on her part, even if it's over the computer IMO. ~King
Author:  spl1nt3r [ Mon Dec 21, 2009 5:36 pm ]
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First of all its quite obvious that you like her and that you value her alot (wanting to meet up with her and buying her present?!?(DON"T BUY WOMEN A PRESENT UNLESS ITS A SPECIAL OCCASION OR YOU KNOW YOUR GAME), which at point is really bad.
I'll highlight the worst parts
'need to catch up soon'
'Seeing you again can be my gift'
'I finish at 3 on Tue'
You pull her way to much to you, you look needy
Attractive women are used to having men get
nervous, excited, and ‘interested’ when they talk to them.
An easy way to set your self apart from the beginning
is to simply appear uninterested.
This really throws a woman off… and of course, her
reaction is to wonder WHY you aren’t interested in her.
the only power a woman has over you is
THAT WHICH YOU GIVE HER and you have given her plenty.
Author:  pse [ Tue Dec 22, 2009 9:30 am ]
Post subject: 
The gift was a reference joke from a roadtrip we went on but I still see what you mean.
Also she was the one that wrote that we need to catch up soon, I never use the word need.

I think I might just cut her off for a few weeks, I have done this, but for shorter occassions. Her birthday is coming up but I think she'll be spending it with her family, who are visiting

I do know for a fact that she'll come to me if I don't talk to her for a while.

Thanks for bringing up the neediness thing though, though im only doing this to be somewhat more clear of what our friendship is
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