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| Author: | mgonzales [ Thu Dec 10, 2009 6:39 am ] |
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Okay, I've been going out and doing pretty well with pick up. What the problem now is that my sisters old friend from high school just moved out here and she is staying with me while she finds a job and a place (on my sisters reccommendation). She is drop dead gorgeous and got a job as a model. Normally this wouldn't bother me, but she isn't just some chick I'm trying to get with for a night. See in the time she has been here we have built a strong rapport. We've had intimate conversations about each other, basically getting to know each other pretty well. We've had a lot of one on one time on lunches and just cruising the city showing her around. The issue is I like her and want to tell her, but I don't want to make things weird as she is staying with me for a while. She's very hard to read. I mean a lot of the basic signals are there, the ones that can't be hidden, all the general signs, but digging into her brain and figuring her out is not only challenging but pretty fun. Everything I know about pickup revolves around going out and finding girls at bars, clubs, bookstores, the market and stuff like that. Here's a girl I have a limited history with who seems to like me, but on what seems like a very general level. Maybe my games fucked up because it seems like she's inadvertently tugging out that old oneitis. I don't wanna go topsy tervy over her and get too invested, but i don't want to miss an opportunity. The good news is that we will see a lot of each other over a long period of time. But on the bad side, her staying with me and seeing me come home every day and basically seeing me every day is taking away from any value my presence has. I don't want to make myself scarce in my own home. I invite her and her friend out to have fun I want to show them I'm a fun guy. This one is tough. I know what I should do; be honest and just tell her how I feel. But with her staying with me I don't want anything to be awkward if she isn't into the idea. What's more is by me keeping my distance I feel I might be slipping into the LJBF zone even though I throw signals to her to try and slow or halt the process. She's a super cool chick and to be perfectly honest the first one to really have characteristics and values i identify with. Everything about her draws me in, everything about the situation keeps me at bay. i'm at a loss. Any advice? |
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| Author: | Jav [ Thu Dec 10, 2009 1:37 pm ] |
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Next time you type a long story use the enter-button a few times. This is annoying to read. |
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| Author: | TheJ [ Thu Dec 10, 2009 3:04 pm ] |
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I agree with Jav... because of that I didn't finish up your post. But to what I've read, you need to move somewhat quickly if you stand a chance to avoid the LJBF zone. The two of you knowing eachother well = friend zone. Knowing kills wanting. Now don't TELL her anything. Never tell her or any girl your feelings. Show them. Now your way would be to kino escalate. Push/pull ('my god you look amazing today, too bad you are not my type' kind of comments). Oh and if you are already in the friend zone, I would seriously consider keeping her around for social proof and maybe even introducing you to some of her firends. |
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