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Author:  Snirz [ Sat Dec 05, 2009 2:13 am ]
Post subject:  feeling so bad right now..
Hi. I've just came from a party in my friend's house. im feeling terrible about what happend..
I approcahed something like 8-set(most of them i know, some of them boys), i set a target. she was sitting on my friend. so i approcahed to other girl and said:
ME: " hey listen. i gotta show you something. choose a number betweeen 1-10"
she:"ok.."
me:"is it 7?"
she:"OH MY GOD! I cant belive it!"
i sat down on a chair, she was little bit drunk and sat on me(i was very supprised, but i liked it :))
we start talking between us, somethimes she hugged me.
i was looking at her lips, she smiled a little bit and licked her lips(IOI).
she:"my hands are cold.."
me:"what should i do with this info?"
she:"Well...if you don't know what you should do with this, i guess i would warm them by myself.."
i really didnt know how should i isolate her. i have not read this chapter yet :(
she took her head back. we were very close. i started moving my head to her lips...very close...and then she moved her head.
i said with a little smile : "i wouldnt waste my kiss on you anyway"
suddenly, she stood up. she:"What did you just said? i want to hear an apologize"
she was very serious. i didnt know what do, especially when the whole group was looking at me. i said : "common, i was cute until now!"
she walked away...found other boy, and i couldnt even approach the target after she saw me trying to kiss her friend.
so so close........i am feeling so bad about that....i cant remember even other neg besides that one. what did i do wrong? :cry:
Author:  Mr. Valmont [ Sat Dec 05, 2009 2:55 am ]
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you went in for the kill too soon.
there wasn't enough escalation.
plus, with her being drunk (even only a little bit), her emotions were overexaggerated by taking offense to your "i wouldn't waste my kiss on you anyway" line.
also, how exactly did you deliver this line?
was it in a playful manner or were you too serious about it?

then, when you said "come on, i was cute until now!", that kind of sounded like watered-down desperation...girls hate desperation...

always make sure you're coming across as someone who doesn't give a damn.
you're the prize...not her.
if she doesn't wanna kiss you, you won't waste your time. don't be mean about it or anything, but go find some more hotties to game.
Author:  Snirz [ Sat Dec 05, 2009 10:01 am ]
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but damn, she licked her lips, she gave me a clue that she want to give me a HJ, we locked our eye contact a lot and she smiled and hugged me alot, i cant belive that the KC did not happen! i got 3 IOI's(and even more, but this is thr big ones), what i've should be waiting for? (sorry if you cant understand my english)
Author:  *olie* [ Sat Dec 05, 2009 4:04 pm ]
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haha thats hillarious, you shouldent feel bad about that just call it a learning experiance and move on... yeah sounds like you went for it too quick and she went a bit nuts when you acted too cocky

p.s. some girls are just nuts and react harshly to diffrent things
Author:  Chillburg [ Sat Dec 05, 2009 4:59 pm ]
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to be honest, if i would have been that girl getting a line like that, i would be insulted too. You probably felt rejected and there is no way you could have delivered that line being cocky/funny or whatever. next time you're better off asking "would you like to kiss me?" and if she says NO you tell her "i didnt say you could, but you looked like you had something on your mind" (by Mystery)
Author:  StreetLight [ Sun Dec 06, 2009 7:56 am ]
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I say don't feel bad, you tryed and learned, you should have felt bad if you DIDNT try to kiss her, but you did.

so its cool, and forget her, the world is full with HB
Author:  Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Sun Dec 06, 2009 4:14 pm ]
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Classic over-negging disease. A couple of negs here and there are good for attraction stages. If you feel you already have attraction, you DON'T need to keep negging! Also, I can see this line only working if you did it with a super big smile and really playful, and kind of shoved her away a little bit, like a 6 year old kid saying "you've got cooties" or something. I imagine you probably did it straight faced or with little humour or jokingness, at which point it's a fucking idiotic insult.

Also, remember A NEG IS NOT AN INSULT!!! A neg is a backhanded compliment, said in a playful way with a smile, calculated to keep her guessing about whether you like her and generate fun sexual tension. It is not EVER said with actual seriousness, malice or anger, and it should NEVER be too hurtful, or about their looks/weight, etc.
Author:  DonPua [ Sun Dec 06, 2009 4:21 pm ]
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Don't be too hard on yourself. You are learning. Everyone makes mistakes in the beginning. You have to look into the far future. Every mistake you make now, is going to make you better at pickup in the future. Now, the neg was indeed a bit harsh. There was no reason to give her such a hard neg. She was sitting on your lap and being very sexual with you. Hard negs are for HB's that are giving you a real hard time in the beginning of the conversation. A better thing you could have done is tease her. Something like "When I saw you first I thought you were really an adventurous girl ... now I saw you are too scared to kiss I have to change my mind about you". You have to tease her that she is scared of kissing you; she will try to prove you the opposite.
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