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Author:  Jarule [ Fri Dec 04, 2009 5:39 pm ]
Post subject:  Interpret This Sequence... (re: texting)
So I've been gaming this girl in my college class. I got her number last week but was unable to use it because I was out of town for the holidays. We have class twice/week and she didn't show up to either class this week. I decide to text her:

Me: Wow 2 straight skipped classes, you're quite the rebel

Her: haha well my bday and my godson was just born! lol oh well! hows it goin babe? take good notes! lol

Me: I'm good other than being stuck here. when was your birthday?

Her: aww hun. Wednesday! im 23, fuken old babes!

Me: well if it makes you feel better u look good for ur age ;) (I was unsure of where to go after her last response; eventually settled on a complement)

At this point she didn't respond. About 20 minutes went by, and I was unsure if perhaps she just wasn't ready for my last response (i.e.-came on too strong?). I decided to just move on and ask what she was up to since she wasn't in class. About 2 hours have now gone by without response, after her first 2 responses came in the span of about 2 minutes each.

Did I screw this up? I find it hard to believe a girl calling me "babe" and "hun" so many times could be so offended by a complement that she would start ignoring me, but it appears that I'm wrong. I was planning to ask her out for this weekend. What should my next move be?
Author:  Molson [ Fri Dec 04, 2009 5:42 pm ]
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Sounds like she calls anyone and everyone babe and hun. Keep texts short and sweet, don't double text..
Author:  Tommyverlang [ Fri Dec 04, 2009 6:03 pm ]
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I doubt it's this, but I'll throw this hypothesis out.
Wasn't it like a hoop game? She expected you to say that 23 isn't old at all, by saying she looks good for HER age you actually negged her, now she feels confused or wants to freeze you out.

Just a thought, someone with more experience please comment on this.
Author:  Angelz [ Fri Dec 04, 2009 6:21 pm ]
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Hey man,

OK firstly it's not a good idea to text her while you were in class ( if that's what you did), it shows you miss her hence you texted her. This of course displays too much interest. She responed to the first two, perhaps out of politeness, but once you dropped the compliemnt - it was comfirmed - YOU'RE DEFINATLY DISPLAYING WAY TOO MUCH INTEREST. Other than that, it could also be becuase of logistics, you cant say for definate.
Next time, dont display to much interest too quick in the interaction. Make her work for it.
Good luck
Angelz
Author:  Jarule [ Fri Dec 04, 2009 6:35 pm ]
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She's given me a lot of ioi's the last few weeks (hugging me when I finally # closed, calling me "hot"). I don't think I've ever really heard her say hun and babe, although admittedly I haven't seen her interact with other guys outside the few in the class. I would also consider her fairly long text responses to be an ioi as well (shorter responses would obv mean lack of interest). The timing just seemed too convenient with her stopping responses after the complement.

So now what do I do/say?
Author:  VinceWagner [ Fri Dec 04, 2009 6:49 pm ]
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Don't know if this will help you but it once worked for me.

I had been text-flirting with a girl for a while and all of a sudden she didn't reply.. so I gave it some time.. just in case she was busy.

24 hours passed without response and I was ready to text again BUT realised that wasn't a great idea - I didnt want to seem needy or desperate.

I needed a way to get HER to text me first.. Then I had it sussed. I left it for a couple of days and then...

....I sent her an e-mail along the lines of this:

"Hey! Just a quick one.. sending this out to everyone. My phone is being a gay and has lost all of it's numbers. Could you text it back over to me please! Hugs, Vince! x"


It worked a treat. Within a couple of hours (I guess she wasn't online at the time I sent it) she text me a brief message.. plus it was like starting a conversation from scratch and erasing whatever I had previously said that stopped her from replying.
Things went from strength to strength after that and we ended up dating and she came home with me. Ka-ching.. result.

Hopefully you guys will be able to make use of this lil' tactic. What you think everyone?

Best of luck with the girl, by the way!

V.
Author:  Jarule [ Fri Dec 04, 2009 7:40 pm ]
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I don't have her email. So are you saying you think it's a bad idea to text (or call?) her again tomorrow?
Author:  VinceWagner [ Fri Dec 04, 2009 8:29 pm ]
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I would avoid it.. if she doesn't text back then just move on.

IF you are really hung up on her then text her but start a fresh conversation about something specific.. have a reason to text her. Even if its to ask her out for a date. Certainly don't mention the fact that she didn't text you back.. it'll seem a little too interested if you do.

I guess it depends on whether you;re looking for a relationship or a one-night thing too.
Author:  Jarule [ Fri Dec 04, 2009 8:44 pm ]
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That was pretty much my first instinct: to text her tomorrow, pretty much ignoring today, and attempting to set up a date for this weekend.

It's not that I think I'm hung up on the girl or anything. I'm just very curious about what exactly happened here. For one minute I felt like I was in and then the next the carpet is pretty much pulled from under me.
Author:  Tommyverlang [ Fri Dec 04, 2009 9:08 pm ]
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You could also text like as if you were texting a whole group, or even better, text a whole group.

Like, "Guys, let's meet tomorrow 7'o clock at [bar], bring your friends!" or something like that; or you could go more conversational, like "... wanna go tomorrow to [bar] at lets say 8?"

That way if you really set up the "meeting". You gain a lot of social proof because she'll see all these people coming "for" you right?
Author:  Brendan [ Sun Dec 06, 2009 12:25 am ]
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she's not purposely not replying or ignoring you. just wait for a while man
Author:  Jarule [ Sun Dec 06, 2009 11:45 pm ]
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Decided to try again today, with goal to set up a d2 for today:

Me: How's my favorite little rebel doing? :) (which was a callback to the 1st series of texts)

Her: Who is this??? hahaha rebel huh??? (wtf!?!? how did she know it was me the other day and not know today?)

Me: Well u did skip class for your birthday. I'd say thats pretty rebellious.

Her: hahaha whatsup hun??

Me: Well the Jets aren't playing today so im feeling very lost. thinking of maybe doing some hardcore laundry (wow what was I thinking!?!??!)instead. (I was attempting to eventually lead-in to suggesting something for us to do later)

Again, the convo stopped at this point. I guess the upside from my pov is that I didn't double text this time.

But what do u guys make of all this? We have class again on Wednesday, so I figure I shouldn't text again before then. What should I say if I see her in class?
Author:  Chillburg [ Mon Dec 07, 2009 12:08 am ]
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To be honest I dont think you're getting anywhere. Quit texting her. Instead, when you see her in class, dont give her too much attention, but AFTER class..talk to her and throw in a little neg at the start, kino her, keep it short, and walk off...leave her thinking about what you said because that will keep her thinking about you, and she might text you again.

If that doesnt work, it's a lost cause, move on bro.

Best of luck,

Chillburg
Author:  Brendan [ Mon Dec 07, 2009 9:21 am ]
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Quote:
To be honest I dont think you're getting anywhere. Quit texting her. Instead, when you see her in class, dont give her too much attention, but AFTER class..talk to her and throw in a little neg at the start, kino her, keep it short, and walk off...leave her thinking about what you said because that will keep her thinking about you, and she might text you again.

If that doesnt work, it's a lost cause, move on bro.

Best of luck,

Chillburg
I second this.
Author:  JasonDursing [ Mon Dec 07, 2009 2:51 pm ]
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^^ Third it.

T_T

From the looks of those txts she calls everyone she talks to Hun and Babe...trust me, that isnt an IOI.

Shes trying to be all like, im so important when she says who is this...I do it to chicks im not interested in...unfortunately, it works wonders and they txt back all like how can you not remember me...im like...coz i dont want to...nah lol...but then I just freeze them out something chronic, as well as being abit to mean, until they stop talking to me...which is mean...

She MIGHT be doing the same thing to you, hard to say.

But as aboves said you dont seem to be getting any where...you came off to strong as well as seeming way to needy...also you talked about last convo which we told you not to mention xD...so that failed epicus...
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