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Author:  vizzy [ Sun Nov 22, 2009 4:20 am ]
Post subject:  Weird Proximity Situation
Ok short story, shorter...

I was at the mall. Noticed a girl who was eyeing me, she was with a guy who I assumed was her boyfriend so I ignored it as coincidence. I noticed she kept coming closer to me when her boyfriend wasn't near and when he'd come back she'd quickly return to him. At one point I was standing at a sandwich place and she was behind me, I bought something but she didn't end up buying anything, she just kind of lingered there. This was when I noticed she was giving me proximity for sure. Her boyfriend shows up again. I had about a 1 minute time gap to approach. But I didn't. I just felt like the positives gained from actually acting on this girls hints would not be enough to overshadow the possible negatives. I already have several girls I'm texting currently so it's not like I care what happens/happened.
But I need some advice, what should I have done in this situation?
(Obviously what I did was ignore it, so what would YOU have done in that situation??)
Author:  Mortal [ Sun Nov 22, 2009 5:26 am ]
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Sounds difficult to think that a girl would be stalking you in a mall, and even more absurd that her boyfriend would be leaving and coming back every few minutes. In any case in this scenario it's really all up to you. It's hard to say what you should have done when you made no verbal contact whats-so-ever. If you were interested with her physically then by all means it doesn't hurt to open her up and according to your morals take it from there. This question will be answered diffrently by an PUA or AFC for that matter. If you think picking up girls with her boyfriend is present is ok then sure... you messed up. :)
Author:  vizzy [ Sun Nov 22, 2009 7:29 am ]
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Sounds difficult to think that a girl would be stalking you in a mall, and even more absurd that her boyfriend would be leaving and coming back every few minutes. In any case in this scenario it's really all up to you. It's hard to say what you should have done when you made no verbal contact whats-so-ever. If you were interested with her physically then by all means it doesn't hurt to open her up and according to your morals take it from there. This question will be answered diffrently by an PUA or AFC for that matter. If you think picking up girls with her boyfriend is present is ok then sure... you messed up. :)
It was a fairly small shopping mall which is why it would be easy to bump into her on more than one occasion. Her boyfriend went to check out some other shit in a different store, or I think so anyways. And he wasn't coming back and leaving every few minutes, they were in the same store at one point but she moved away from him when they were in the store.
And you misinterpreted what I meant with my OP...I didn't "mess up", the reason why I didn't approach was because of the obvious fact that she had a boyfriend and I didn't feel comfortable with the situation. I generally stay away from girls with boyfriends.
I though I made that quite obvious from my post.. :?

What I was asking was, what other people would have done in my situation.
Author:  CureFear [ Sun Nov 22, 2009 10:53 am ]
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Good job dude. Respect the guy code and leave chicks with boyfriends alone. It's not really worth the headache.
Author:  Mortal [ Sun Nov 22, 2009 6:01 pm ]
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It shouldn't matter what other people think, if you wern't comfortable with the idea then it's not for you. In my standing, I do stay away from girls with boyfriends cause it always end messy and it's really not fun for me to break some guys heart because he lost his love of his life. IMO you did the right thing.
Author:  LaVitaèBreve [ Thu Nov 26, 2009 12:56 am ]
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psh, dude you did the right thing. You could have easily tried to game her but, like you said the negatives outweighed the positives AND you already had some other chicks you were already talking to. Besides, you wouldn't want someone to try and pick up your girl.
Author:  TheJ [ Thu Nov 26, 2009 2:38 pm ]
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Can you be suer it was her boyfriend?

Anyhow, I might of ran a few quick lines. something like (when standing in line perhaps)
"hey you are not stalking me are you?"
they usualy giggle in response and usually add "No!"
"Good, because that's rude. Oh I know it, you got kidnapped by that guy that is with you and you want me to give a note to your parants so they come and rescue you? Alright, do it quick! He may be back any second now!"

Then you should know if it's her boyfriend or not. You can hand her a piece of paper at that point too.

Not the best but gives you a shot into those quick sitiations.

You can also go the classic route and approach the set. Ask for a oppinion (ask the guy too) on somehting you are shopping for and ask the typical "How do you guys know eachother". You'll know then.
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