She didn't show up...
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| Author: | Onoma [ Tue Nov 17, 2009 4:14 am ] |
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I'll try to keep this short, basically I met this girl and gotten some IoI's, but I didn't get a chance to get her number. A couple months later I happened to see her on a business page in Facebook while I was looking at an event they were holding, so I sent her a quick message saying basically "I saw you while I was trying to decide if I wanted to go to this thing and decided I'd say hi..." Obviously some other stuff and a quick joke, and she replies with some stuff and "I'm planning on going. Hope to see you there." So the problem is I had decided against going (she hadn't RSVP'd or I probably would have) and I think it's too late to get any of my friends to go. Am I better off going solo, trying to talk one of my friends into going, OR telling her I had something else to do and suggesting we get together some other time? If it matters the event is supposed to be a business mixer. Not necessarily sure if it's more normal for people to go to something like that solo... |
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| Author: | Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Tue Nov 17, 2009 9:51 am ] |
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Go early and make a real effort to game the entire event and get to know as many people as possible. That way you won't lose any value in her eyes when she does arrive (if that's what you're worried about) because she'll see you talking to lots of people and assume you know them. You can even make introductions between your new friends and whatnot and come off as a facilitator and leader. Lots of PUAs go to venues solo and, as long as you have good inner game and confidence, it can really help because it gives you that extra drive to open open open because there's no wing or group of friends you can just fall back on and be lazy and avoid opening sets. You must go in there with the mentality that you are the shit and everybody will love you and you will have a great time. |
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| Author: | Onoma [ Wed Nov 18, 2009 2:07 am ] |
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Went solo, talked to a bunch of people. Here's the basic summary of how things went: Now for the... hrm... uncertain news. She walked in late, kind of seemed like she was looking around for me, then like she was trying to avoid looking at me, then we mad eye contact and waved/smiled (someone was giving a short presentation at the time and she was trapped at the door.) After we all presented our businesses she started talking to someone and I went across the room to talk to a graphic design chick (still not happy with the Dear Vesta logo.) We talked a bit at the bar, she said she wanted to go mingle which kind of bummed me out. I thought she would have talked to me longer... but I ended up talking to this really hot asian girl for a while. She had a boyfriend, but I was hoping Sue would see me talking to her and realize she had competition... Anyway, eventually I wandered back into the snack room and ended up talking with some of the other guys there. she wandered over to join our group, and we talked for a while. I saw the graphic design girl (I had missed her earlier and ended up talking to someone else) and left to go get her business card so I could get in touch with her about the logo. While I'm talking, the group dissolves and Sue kind of waits nearby and tells me she's leaving. I thank the graphic design girl, go get my coat and then end up waiting for Sue because they started talking. In the end, we walked out together and she started talking about checking for a meetup soon. I suggested maybe we could get together Friday because I have some passes for an improve show... but she already has plans. She made it sound like she would show up to my meetup on Thursday, but I'm kind of wondering if she was just rejecting me... So thoughts? |
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| Author: | Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Wed Nov 18, 2009 10:08 am ] |
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Honestly sounds like you did a good job man. She probably actually does have plans. This is not some kind of big rejection. Make whatever your meetup is on Thursday as fun as you can, and if she does show up, then I would take that as an IOI and start trying to kino escalate right from the start. If she doesn't, then forget about her, game other women and see if she gets back in touch with you or sees you at another event, and then try to move things forward again. |
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| Author: | Onoma [ Wed Nov 18, 2009 1:43 pm ] |
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Cool, pretty much what I was thinking. I just wanted a second opinion... |
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| Author: | Onoma [ Fri Nov 20, 2009 3:16 am ] |
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She didn't show up...
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