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Author:  magnum45 [ Tue Nov 10, 2009 9:07 am ]
Post subject:  What wrong with Inviting myself?
I saw on facebook status some of my friends are going hiking. I love hiking. Is it socially unacceptable to invite myself? I hear about how invting yourself is not good, but everytime I do it i get to go places. What do you guys think?
Author:  Maverick69 [ Wed Nov 11, 2009 3:33 pm ]
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Don't be that guy who has no friends and has to invite himself everywhere. Instead, why don't you be the guy who sets up cool events like this and YOU'RE the person who is in charge of inviting people to come along with you. That way you're the dominant and alpha one and you're the one who dictates who is cool enough to hang out with you. That's how it should be done.
Author:  Jav [ Wed Nov 11, 2009 3:57 pm ]
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Don't be that guy who has no friends and has to invite himself everywhere. Instead, why don't you be the guy who sets up cool events like this and YOU'RE the person who is in charge of inviting people to come along with you. That way you're the dominant and alpha one and you're the one who dictates who is cool enough to hang out with you. That's how it should be done.
Party invites 5$
balloons 2$
party cake 10$

finding out you have no friends
Priceless.
Author:  Corey [ Wed Nov 11, 2009 8:10 pm ]
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Don't be that guy who has no friends and has to invite himself everywhere. Instead, why don't you be the guy who sets up cool events like this and YOU'RE the person who is in charge of inviting people to come along with you. That way you're the dominant and alpha one and you're the one who dictates who is cool enough to hang out with you. That's how it should be done.
FFS Why does everyone care so much about this "being alpha" shit? Just be yourself. Though I can see where you're coming from on being the guy thats friendless and invites himself somewhere. Thats a bit odd.
Author:  Brah [ Wed Nov 11, 2009 8:14 pm ]
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I saw on facebook status some of my friends are going hiking. I love hiking. Is it socially unacceptable to invite myself? I hear about how invting yourself is not good, but everytime I do it i get to go places. What do you guys think?
Yes, that would be very uncool to invite yourself. this isn't a party or something where if you invite yourself to tag along with a friend, he can ignore you the whole time if he doesn't want to spend time with you. Hiking is a much closer experience and if they don't want you there, you're going to come off as an inconsiderate, socially retarded, asshole for inviting yourself along.

The above posters that said to suggest that it "sounds cool" and that you'd be in to doing something like that, are right. Just let them know that you are available to be invited. Give them that knowledge, and let them make that decision without any pressure from you.
Author:  Jav [ Thu Nov 12, 2009 12:16 pm ]
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Don't be that guy who has no friends and has to invite himself everywhere. Instead, why don't you be the guy who sets up cool events like this and YOU'RE the person who is in charge of inviting people to come along with you. That way you're the dominant and alpha one and you're the one who dictates who is cool enough to hang out with you. That's how it should be done.
FFS Why does everyone care so much about this "being alpha" shit? Just be yourself. Though I can see where you're coming from on being the guy thats friendless and invites himself somewhere. Thats a bit odd.
I don't get why you're still posting here. Everything you post reeks 'I don't want to change myself'. Which is totally cool. But please don't enforce that thought on others that still have the motivation to push themselves to being better people.

Pick-up is mainly about personal growth and self-actualization.
Author:  PUAdave [ Thu Nov 12, 2009 3:36 pm ]
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I used to be in the same boat with "friends" my 1st year in college. Basically looking back I was just a tag along with what I thought was the "in crowd" or the highest status people I thought would accept me, & I was a leach trying to get value and status off this group of "cool" people. Several of them treated me like shit (& I deserved it), would half invite me at times after but always wait until I came to their dorm room or make me ask to go. Totally giving my power away.

Eventually I found real people that genuinely liked me and wanted me to come where ever they went. They were typiclaly less "cool" by most superficial standards, cloths, money looks etc, but I had a blast every time I was with them & our friend circle was 20 deep so we would roll to parties and would be the party Fun times, but I was still a clueless follower, just with a group of people that accepted and liked me around.

Interestingly there were also tag alongs value takers that wanted to be in our group that weren accepted just as I wasnt in the other group. Key is just knowing you are on their level and being yourself just like in pick up. If I had done that with the 1st group they'd have accepted me too if I didn't give my power away. That's the glitch.

Im out of college and moved and had to start over. Basically I learned to be self suffient and go out alone, vacation alone, go to the beach alone, if I wanted to hike I could do that alone. Do whatever you want independent meet people there. You'll find that when you have this attitude and people see you doing this they will gravitate to you if you are congruent just like I did as a follower. They will ask you to come with them or either ask to come with you if you don't invite them.

That's the key man IMO. #1 find better friends, real people that want you there, treat everyone the same you encounter , be on your path and do what you want to do, meet people doing it, & if they want to join you in other adventures you have cool if not enjoy the activity just as much and meet other people there.
Author:  mazinga_zed [ Thu Nov 12, 2009 4:29 pm ]
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Don't be that guy who has no friends and has to invite himself everywhere. Instead, why don't you be the guy who sets up cool events like this and YOU'RE the person who is in charge of inviting people to come along with you. That way you're the dominant and alpha one and you're the one who dictates who is cool enough to hang out with you. That's how it should be done.
FFS Why does everyone care so much about this "being alpha" shit? Just be yourself. Though I can see where you're coming from on being the guy thats friendless and invites himself somewhere. Thats a bit odd.
Because alpha people get what they want. Rather than post on the interbuttz asking if it's OK to but in some gay ass camping trip.

I say, fuck hanging with dudes in the woods. Go and get a hot chick and do whatever it she wants during the day, so you can fuck her at night. Duh.
Author:  desertEagle [ Thu Nov 12, 2009 7:36 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: What wrong with Inviting myself?
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Just reply saying how tight it sounds, seeing if they will invite you.
...yea , usually i descretely start talking about the generic event...like for your situation its hiking... start talking about camp and fishing.... hiking.... biking ......hiking agian ......im 95% sure that will work it ll get you an invite and probably a group of friends as well
Author:  Corey [ Thu Nov 12, 2009 7:55 pm ]
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Don't be that guy who has no friends and has to invite himself everywhere. Instead, why don't you be the guy who sets up cool events like this and YOU'RE the person who is in charge of inviting people to come along with you. That way you're the dominant and alpha one and you're the one who dictates who is cool enough to hang out with you. That's how it should be done.
FFS Why does everyone care so much about this "being alpha" shit? Just be yourself. Though I can see where you're coming from on being the guy thats friendless and invites himself somewhere. Thats a bit odd.
I don't get why you're still posting here. Everything you post reeks 'I don't want to change myself'. Which is totally cool. But please don't enforce that thought on others that still have the motivation to push themselves to being better people.

Pick-up is mainly about personal growth and self-actualization.
Yeah, maybe I worded that one a bit wrong. Not ALL of my posts are like that, however most are, I suppose. Though theres nothing wrong with wanting to become a better person, I just dont get why people have to throw a label on it. Truthfully, I always thought pick-up was about being better with the opposite sex =/
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Because alpha people get what they want.
Thats kind of a childish thing, always getting what they want.
Author:  magnum45 [ Tue Nov 17, 2009 2:57 am ]
Post subject:  Re: What wrong with Inviting myself?
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Just reply saying how tight it sounds, seeing if they will invite you.

Very good Advice. Works like a charm
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