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| Author: | Tyler_S [ Thu Nov 05, 2009 2:46 am ] |
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I am really scared of opening girls, i don't know what is the reason of this scare... sometimes i think she will ignore me and it will hurt me a lot, sometimes i think that she is busy and don't want someone to disturb her.... When girls approach me i try to talk to them but after some phrases there became a silence.... I have nothing to say... maybe because i don't know english well... Can someone give me some advices ? |
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| Author: | Foxtrot 5 [ Thu Nov 05, 2009 2:50 am ] |
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Here's some advice: Don't give a fuck. Seriously, don't. If you go out, go out to have a blast. Think of approaching girls as a video game. If you fuck up then you can just restart with any of the other groups of girls. Your really not going to get anywhere unless you make the jump and just approach. |
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| Author: | Tyler_S [ Thu Nov 05, 2009 3:03 am ] |
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thank you i know that there is nothing scared... and sometimes i really want to... but there is like something in my throat... and i am s scared that i even can't say a word.... its so terrible... |
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| Author: | Foxtrot 5 [ Thu Nov 05, 2009 3:16 am ] |
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We've almost all been there but it's something that if you keep pushing to do, it'll just become more and more natural. Keep at it. |
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| Author: | Tyler_S [ Thu Nov 05, 2009 4:13 am ] |
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But who do i motivate myself ? What to think of ? How to change my views ? |
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| Author: | slash555 [ Thu Nov 05, 2009 4:17 am ] |
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There are several ways u can make urself more confident: 1)if ur not confident in ur masculinity, you can start weight lifting about 3-4 times a week to put on some muscle. 2)Try to stand up tall with ur chest out and ur shoulders back. 3) you just kinda got to act like ur the man and that u can get any girl u want and that if she isnt interested in you just think about it as her losing out on you. hope this helps you! |
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| Author: | Foxtrot 5 [ Thu Nov 05, 2009 4:18 am ] |
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Your asking the right questions, but I can't (and I don't think anyone else) can give you a 100% answer because everyone is different. For me, I get to the bar or party and my FIRST priority is to be the fun party guy everyone like joking around with. Meet people, drink, dance, whatever you do just have a blast. This is when I approach and attract. Everyone thinks of PU so seriously when they're out in the field. The main thing is HAVE FUN and just DO IT. Whether it's indirect or direct. It gets easier and easier if you do |
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| Author: | [Vegas] [ Thu Nov 05, 2009 4:25 am ] |
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Do you feel that you are an approachable person yourself? Women are people too and enjoy interaction, so why have that interaction be with you? Go out and have fun for yourself and then invite them to join in. |
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| Author: | Fattie [ Thu Nov 05, 2009 5:11 am ] |
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Quote: Here's some advice:
I agree, especially when approaching strangers (as in not someone in your class/work) If for some reason you do blow it, what are the chances you'll ever see that chick again? So why worry about what she thinks of you, there are literally billions of girls out there. Like Foxtrot said, restart with another chick.Don't give a fuck. Seriously, don't. If you go out, go out to have a blast. Think of approaching girls as a video game. If you fuck up then you can just restart with any of the other groups of girls. Your really not going to get anywhere unless you make the jump and just approach. Also, get in the mindset that the girl is the lucky one for being able to talk to you, not the other way around. I know its easier said than done, but its something to strive for. |
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| Author: | Tyler_S [ Thu Nov 05, 2009 7:34 pm ] |
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Thank you guyz, its So great that you are ready to help...about masculanity - i go to gym 2 times a week and i am not an ugly guy or virgin boy, i am 21 and i had 8 girls and 3 of them were ltr.... So i approached them somehow but firstly we were friends ... Unfortunately my problem is more global i cant start talking to any stranger.... Firstly because i have in my mind that why should i disturb someone, second because i dont know well english i am russian but 2 months i live in toronto... I dont have any friend here ... 2 month past since i came here.... I am shy not even to talk to girl but also to keep eye contact.... MAybe i need to go to psychologist i dunno....i just need to kill all barriers...i am trying to do it in my head.. But i just cant .... Did you have the same problem? |
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| Author: | Foxtrot 5 [ Thu Nov 05, 2009 7:51 pm ] |
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Going to the gym or not doesn't make you any more or less manly. Anyway I think you should battle one problem at a time. Focus on eye contact. Keep it strong and even practice in front of a mirror (Don't worry, it's not weird). Then on the street keep your head up and keep eye contact with girls walking by until they look away. I've been doing this around school and I've actually been able to maintain it and get better. Secondly, keep the mentality that these girls are bored out of their minds and your conversation and personality is what is going to save them. If their busy, their busy. So What? Move on. If you practice your Day Game your going to be killer at night. |
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| Author: | jpow1981 [ Thu Nov 05, 2009 7:58 pm ] |
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I used to have the same problem. You're always a little scared no matter how much practice you have doing it, but there are ways to cope with the stress. 1. Learn technique. Read the game if you haven't yet. Watch David Deangelo's approach DVD. Learn at least 2-3 canned routines. Once you're armed with technique, you'll at least know what to do. 2. For me, I have to get myself into the zone. I become a third party observer. Its almost a trance, and sometimes I don't remember how I got to the girl that I'm approaching. If you're well versed with technique, you can do it automatically. turn your brain off. Don't think, you just do. 3. Once you run out of things to say, you use an artificial time constraint and make your exit. Always leave them wanting more. Eventually you'll become good enough at it that you'll be able to pick the best time to leave, but for now, you'll want to be as good as you can be, for as long as you can and then leave before flaming out. 4. Practice makes perfect. Every time you approach a girl it gets a little easier. You could also build up to it. Start off by canvassing for your favorite charity. You'll have no choice but to approach lots of people. Once you get used to this, you could try approaching random people who you're not even interested in. Eventually, you'll become comfortable enough with talking to strangers that it won't bother you as much. |
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| Author: | Punchl!ne [ Fri Nov 06, 2009 1:00 am ] |
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All right, I think jpow1981 jotted down the basics. It's enough to get you started. However, I want to push on point four. That is the most important of them all; practice makes perfect because this is a learning-by-doing business. You'll get there. It's all about having an open mind and be willing to change yourself. |
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