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| Author: | Integra94 [ Sat Oct 31, 2009 10:32 pm ] |
| Post subject: | How to get out of current stage w/ girl |
So I wasn't too sure where to put this, but my understanding is that one-itis is very AFCish, which is obviously a newbie character trait. So newbie section it goes. At the end of my freshman year of college, I met this girl. We hang out a good bit, but it was during exam week, and she went home for summer a week after we met. She portrayed a lot of interest, she spent the night a coulpe times, and she admitted that she liked me. Over the summer, I continued living at college, and she came down to see me twice. Nothing super planned out, and she didn't come specifically to see me, but she came when it was convenient / she had a reason to be there. She stayed at my house every night she was in town. Fast forward to school starting again, and she moves back down here. We have been hanging out a decent amount, and it's obvious that I'm not in the friend zone, but it's at a moderately awkward / stalled stage. I can't seem to get her to open up like she was at the end of last year. She hasn't even stayed the night once this year, granted she has her own house (not a dorm), and a car. I've got other excuses as well, but in all honesty they're bullshit. I haven't even kiss-closed her since we came back. I can't seem to spark the fire, but I feel like I've got a good foundation for it to spread quickly once I can get it lit, ya know? My wood isn't waterlogged or anything, like if I was in the friendzone. Do I need to just say something? I was thinking about it recently, and I was mad she hasn't said one thing that was directed towards a relationship / romance. She hasn't said she likes me (which I understand. I lost interest over the summer too), she hasn't given me many compliments, etc. However, I realized that I haven't really opened up to her either. What/how do I do this? I've been searching recently, but most help I get from this site is PU - related, not girlfriend - related. And I guess it's one-itis to an extent, but imo it's not really that. I want this girl to be my girlfriend, eventually. But it's not like I'm not doing work on other girls, nor did I waste a whole summer waiting for her. I've got a couple other things in the works, but I'd be willing to stop that for her. But the reason it's not one-itis, is because I'm willing to drop her if something better comes along. There are just a lot of character traits that make this HB8 a fucking dime in my opinion. All the other girls are just girls I enjoy having sex with. And another thing to clear up. It's not really important to me either way, because sex has never been a huge deal in my life, but I don't want yall to assume anything. I didn't f-close this girl last year or over the summer when she spent the night. Pretty much one of those girls that don't have sex until they're dating the guy, which is +1 in my opinion (in this situation). tl;dr - I know I like to ramble when I'm baked as fuck, and I tend to get off topic. So as readible as that entire story is to me, it might not flow so well for yall. So I'll try to make it simple and run down the important parts: -Girl from last year, started off great but after knowing for a week she moved home for the summer -Came back to school, and its obvious we're both still interested, but it's at an awkward stage. I can't open up to her, and she hasn't opened up to me. No kiss-close since we moved back close to each other. -My overall question: What the hell am I doing wrong? I want to either move tihs on, or end it. I'm tired of not being in control of this relationship, and either want to drive it to her being my girlfriend, or at least figure out I don't have a shot and I'll move on with my life. Thanks for the help guys. I know this is my first post so you're not as likely to want to spend some time helping me, but I appreciate any effort in advance. I've been frequently reading this website lately, but I'm still in the process of absorbing as much knowledge as I can, and I don't have too much value in posting in other peoples threads. |
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