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Author:  BombshellBrunette [ Thu Oct 15, 2009 7:56 pm ]
Post subject:  should i give a note to shy guy?
hes unattainable...i can never find him on campus.
we have talked for 1 hour 3 times in september....i just want to talk and hangout. I assumed if he would ask me my number, but he never did. when we 1st met, he said hes a shy guy. basically his class is next to a computer lab. last week he poked me when he saw me and said hello. so i was thinking i could go in the computer lab and when I see him walking, approach him and slide my number to him and walk. what do you think?

If a girl slide your number to you, what would be your 1st reaction?
Author:  speed3770 [ Thu Oct 15, 2009 8:01 pm ]
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if a girl id talked to last in september just randomly slipped me her number, id be thinking "psycho or just into me"?


dont come off as psycho and you'll be fine
Author:  Johnny B. [ Thu Oct 15, 2009 8:41 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: should i give a note to shy guy?
Quote:
hes unattainable...i can never find him on campus.
we have talked for 1 hour 3 times in september....i just want to talk and hangout. I assumed if he would ask me my number, but he never did. when we 1st met, he said hes a shy guy. basically his class is next to a computer lab. last week he poked me when he saw me and said hello. so i was thinking i could go in the computer lab and when I see him walking, approach him and slide my number to him and walk. what do you think?

If a girl slide your number to you, what would be your 1st reaction?
Here is what i would do:
1. You said that he is shy so i think that its obvious that he is affraid to ask your number because he doesent know how you react if he asks you out. He might be affraid of getting rejected because he might not have so much experience concerning women.
2. IF he is affraid to ask you out he´s eather:
A) is affraid allso to go out with you even if you make the move because he has little experience to go out with a hot girl OR
B) He is JUST affraid to ask your number and goes out with you. Its the first step that is hard for him. Suffering from AA.

So how would i solve this?
- I would rather change numbers than just giving it ( now you have his number and you can use it later on ) and ask him if he wants to join to a party ( or what ever where he can bring his mates with him so he feels secure ) where is you girlfriends with his male friends. Than you can isolate him and just start to buid up comfort.
POINTER: This prevents that he wont get cold feet so easily because you asked HIM and HIS FRIENDS to join you with your friends. Now he feels more secured and the date aint so offical because it aint ONE ON ONE.

PS. I hope this helped to open the situation for you :)

[ Johnny B ]
Author:  Saint Pixie [ Thu Oct 15, 2009 8:56 pm ]
Post subject:  There ya go!
If he is a 'shy guy' then he MOST likely not experienced with girls, and suffers from somthing similar to aproaching anxiety; although, it isnt quite AA because he walked up to you and poked you the other day. What his problem is more of denial anxiety. He has no problem IN conversation, and is comfortable with you (obviously) but he prolly gets nervous asking numbers because he doesnt want her to not call, im going to guess thats the problem.

So i see no problem with 'slipping him a note' and id write somthing on it, like "Now you wont have to ask :) (number)" so you dont seem like a creep pushing ur number on some innocent kid. lol

But if you get cold feet in doing this, follow the advice above ^ where you invite him AND some friends out. Thats a really good idea aswell

Good luck!
Author:  Slywalker [ Fri Oct 16, 2009 12:02 am ]
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I heard enough about this idiot by now, you are a cute girl if he ignores you he is nothing to waste time on.

Like I have told you before, either forget about him or spit in his face and see how he reacts!
Author:  Reo [ Fri Oct 16, 2009 12:31 am ]
Post subject:  Re: should i give a note to shy guy?
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and ask him if he wants to join to a party ( or what ever where he can bring his mates with him so he feels secure ) where is you girlfriends with his male friends.
This prevents that he wont get cold feet so easily because you asked HIM and HIS FRIENDS to join you. Now he feels more secured and the date aint so offical because it aint ONE ON ONE.

[ Johnny B ]
I don't like this advice that is something a woman would do bring all her buddies. If a man needs his buddies to feel safe around a woman then he's not a man at all he's a complete wimp.

Bombshell you should just slide him the number and if he can't take a hint after that then he's not the guy you should be hanging with.
Author:  Johnny B. [ Fri Oct 16, 2009 7:11 am ]
Post subject:  Re: should i give a note to shy guy?
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Quote:
and ask him if he wants to join to a party ( or what ever where he can bring his mates with him so he feels secure ) where is you girlfriends with his male friends.
This prevents that he wont get cold feet so easily because you asked HIM and HIS FRIENDS to join you. Now he feels more secured and the date aint so offical because it aint ONE ON ONE.

[ Johnny B ]
I don't like this advice that is something a woman would do bring all her buddies. If a man needs his buddies to feel safe around a woman then he's not a man at all he's a complete wimp.

Bombshell you should just slide him the number and if he can't take a hint after that then he's not the guy you should be hanging with.
Im just suggesting the possibility that they go out in a group to have some fun. After that, its easier for her or for him to make the first step because you two know each other better and at the same time you will see what kind of person he is. Whether ask him out in a real date or not.

[ Johnny B ]
Author:  jurupa [ Fri Oct 16, 2009 7:45 am ]
Post subject:  Re: should i give a note to shy guy?
Quote:
hes unattainable...i can never find him on campus.
we have talked for 1 hour 3 times in september....i just want to talk and hangout. I assumed if he would ask me my number, but he never did. when we 1st met, he said hes a shy guy. basically his class is next to a computer lab. last week he poked me when he saw me and said hello. so i was thinking i could go in the computer lab and when I see him walking, approach him and slide my number to him and walk. what do you think?
My guess is that he is just not that into you. Instead of pursing him, cut him loose. If he comes around great but stop going after him.
Quote:
If a girl slide your number to you, what would be your 1st reaction?
That really depends on how and when she does it. Because I may loose interest or be more interested in her.
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