what are you worried about though? Like are you worried that you dont know how to go through the motions, or worried about lasting long enough or what?

Theres a story about a man who was trapped in a Vietnam prison camp. He was horrible at golf, but in the camps, with nothing better to do, he mentally envisioned his swing. Over and over again for 5 years, he mentally practiced his swing. When he was rescued and returned home, he went to play golf. He shot a perfect game.

This was a story told to us at our local lair meet. (Thanks CC)

The point is, if you envision yourself doing something enough times, you are actually practicing. While this may not apply in regards to the desensitization of your member, it still applies in regards to technique and mind set (your anxiety). I'm sure you've watched enough porn to know exciting moves, so the next time your rubbing one out, try to imagine yourself getting through foreplay, taking off her panties, insertion, position switching, slowing down when your about to blow (so that you dont), and eventually, ripping off your condom, beating off in her face, and saying "take this."

If you get yourself in the habit of mentally doing exercises like approaching or fucking, it actually makes for an easier time when it comes time to perform. You feel better prepared.

Hope this helps!

Rule of thumb: If you want to get over a fear of something, do that thing that you fear.

Fear of heights? Ride a roller coaster.

Approach Anxiety? Approach.

Sexual Anxiety? Whip your dick out, put a condom on, and do what you were born to do.

If it was that easy, I wouldn't've made this topic -_-

It is that easy. You're just making it harder by fighting yourself about it.

It's like, if you're afraid of heights, and you go bungee jumping. The first step off that cliff or bridge may seem really hard, and you might want to make a long post on a forum about how to get rid of your fear so that you could become courageous enough to take that first step, but in reality it's really easy to put one foot in front of the other.

Just breathe and take action.

Seriously, did you even read the couple posts I made earlier about it, or did you just read the title and go from there? I see it as an honest problem, and came here for a well thought out answer (ie: what Crowd posted), not something that's borderline high school.