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Author:  pse [ Fri Oct 09, 2009 4:18 pm ]
Post subject:  Mindblock when I 'know' I like a girl
I just realized that when I know for sure that I really like a girl and try to talk to her I have a mindblank and have NOTHING to say to her.

I don't mean open-wise. Most of the girl I pursue are in my social circle.

Like for example (one-itis you may call it) The girl that im after now, we've been friends for a while now, and she broke up with her bf. Anyway, after I realized that I really do actually like the girl, I had a mindblank at a party when trying to think of something to talk to her about.

This has never been an issue, before I realized I actually liked her, conversations flowed like water, but earlier today, I barely said anything, and if it wasn't for the text messages I got from her afterwards, I would have given up all hope.

Would you guys suggest improving inner game for this issue, any similar problems and solutions?

Thanks again...
Author:  MindCoach [ Fri Oct 09, 2009 5:01 pm ]
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The mindblank is caused by the fear of rejection, a fear you didn't have before you decided that you 'really like her'.

To overcome your fear of rejection, you need to get out of you own way (worrying if she likes you) and continue to communicate with her as a friend (for now), drop some hints that you are interested in her, read her signals. You can save yourself from 'rejection' if you do this right. If after, dropping some hints, or suggesting you get together one-on-one, she doesn't respond favorably, you can just back off.

I also suggest doing some mental rehearsing in advance to help reduce and overcome your anxiety when seeing her.

In short, relate to her from an internal position of strength. If you feel 'needy' or worried, you are not likely to get anywhere.

I hope this helps and good luck to you.
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