Hey chaps,
Theres a few things ive come to realise since first finding out about the community! Its taken a while for it ot sink in and im very much a beginner at this still, but its become a lot more fun and empowering!
There is an awesome post somewhere on this forum with a link to a video which talks about negative emotions, limiting beliefs etc which in my case, play a big part in interations with girls. What I've come to realise from this is that these beliefs that I hold are all created by experiences.
Right, that makes sense! Pretty much every negative feeling I have I can consciously link to specific events that have happened in my past! The realisation of this however is that this is just a feeling of a memory!
On you tube there is a tapping video which to be honest, has helped me and I think if theres any of you who are also like me, pretty socially anxious, this may help!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ccYxqH2itaA
After doing this a few times, Ive fouind that generally, Im a lot more lively, confident and generally at ease whilst opening and talking to girls, and the conversation doesnt seem so awkward or forced. Im not big on prescripted routines, having treid and awkwardly failed a few times, so what i try to do is just improvise and wing it!
Right now im having fun, trying to breach my comfort zone and generally feeling happier about myself! Im out with this girl tonight so hopefully this should be a damn good night!
I will keep you postedCambria