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| Author: | pratik [ Sun Sep 27, 2009 5:30 am ] |
| Post subject: | How to control emotional attachment |
Have this question as to how does one control from getting emotionally attached while pickup and getting out of a casula relationship without being emotionally messed up. |
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| Author: | magnum45 [ Sun Sep 27, 2009 8:46 am ] |
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Tell me more about your story. Use sentences and commons in your description. I will give you a response that can benefit you. |
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| Author: | Soviet Hero [ Tue Sep 29, 2009 7:19 am ] |
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lots of alcohol im just kidding, just dont care too much about it, its just another short term relation ship in your life, among many other im sure, just remember that its just a little bump in the road, not a cliff |
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| Author: | Exerio [ Tue Sep 29, 2009 10:03 am ] |
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Why would you control your feelings? I see no point in not being attached to someone, just do it on a healthy basis. Even if you are attached you should be able to live your own life. By reading your post a bit more carefully: The strong person is the person who can say to himself, "Wow, that was a nice person. Too bad it did not work out" and continue." Just don't make yourself the belief that it has to be, just acknowledge the thought that it would be nice. - Exerio |
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| Author: | Johnny B. [ Tue Sep 29, 2009 8:38 pm ] |
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There is nothing wrong to get attached to a women if you really like her. A healthy relationship is much more rewarding than casual one night stands. So dont be affraid if you feel that you have feelings toward someone. After all, we are all humans. [ Johnny B ] |
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| Author: | Onoma [ Tue Sep 29, 2009 8:42 pm ] |
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Well, if you're as bad at this as I am you'll constantly get hurt until you start to get numb, start hating women, and don't really want to deal with it anymore. Something to look forward to, eh? |
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| Author: | Radham [ Wed Sep 30, 2009 6:01 am ] |
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yeah, even if u dont like the person that much and we indifferent to them, when they cut it off it can still suck/hurt, weird huh |
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| Author: | Visionxxxxxx [ Wed Sep 30, 2009 8:58 am ] |
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Quote: So dont be affraid if you feel that you have feelings toward someone. After all, we are all humans.
I agree. if you find yourself UNABLE to start getting emotionally attached to someone i would say THEN you have problems. There is nothing wrong with getting 'attached' ...the problem normally comes in where your game changes with that particular girl because you now have feelings for her. its so much easier to come across as needy etc when you like her but this can be controlled by watching your actions closely.I have gradually 'practiced' to still remain a challenge and maintain composure even when i start to like a girl...i do however still have a problem at the point where i feel im losing her and that she is about to give me the LJBF speech. that is when my thoughts start getting a bit irrational and alot of AFC thoughts enter my mind and i have to stop myself from giving in and saying shit to her like 'why have you been so off to me lately etc'. im working on this though....i am a fairly emotional being so i need to work quite hard to control my emotions. it has its perks though! once i can control them i will be unstoppable. (watch this space). funny thing is that even gaming multiple girls at once (having options) sometimes does not alleviate emotional hurt if youre really that into one girl. i also love the way alot of guys on this forum tell you to just 'not give a fuck'....that in itself is alot easier said than done. only once you are the master of your emotions can you 'not give a fuck' at will....else youre just fooling yourself. there is a big difference between truely not giving a fuck, and simply blocking it out (which is unhealthy and will eventually f*ck you up). one thing i do stick by....if i feel myself starting to like a girl, and KNOW that she doesnt feel the same (ie. a case of oneitis coming on)...run for the hills immediately! it works every time. |
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