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| Author: | psychosylocibin [ Tue Aug 04, 2009 1:13 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Purposely preventing yourself from develop "feelings&qu |
alright, so I have not had much trouble getting laid in the past year or so. My problem is that I tend to develop feelings for these girls afterwards, and in situations where it is probably NOT going to work. This usually leads to the inevitable emotional clusterfuck where you are thinking about the girl all the time, wondering where she is, making up stories in your head...basically WASTING precious time and energy on something that is not going to go anywhere. Here is an example: Met a girl through a good female friend of mine (easily a HB 8 or 9). This was pretty much a fun "set up" since thought I was attractive (based on pictures). Anyways, I meet her, play it very cool and sit back and watch as 2 guy friends of mine completely blow it with her (I knew it wasn't going to happen with them so I just sat back and let it crash and burn). About 4 hours and little rapport later, I F-closed her. I thought of it as a casual "fun" hookup, until we talked in the morning and I realized that this was person was very interesting. It was fun, she was good but this set off a huge alarm in my head: -If she was willing to sleep with little rapport and in such a short time frame, there is a high chance she would do the same with others....if I were to enter a dating mindsight with her I would become very insecure and watchful. -She is moving somewhere in about 3 months (temporarily for about 7 months to a year) The mere fact that I am thinking about the logistics behind this situation so much and so far ahead of time based on having hung out only three times tells myself that I need to hold back, take a breath, and focus my energy somewhere else. Although I cannot deny that I have feelings for this girl that WILL probably continue for sometime, focusing less mental energy on this girl will make it more manageable. My MAIN point is that feelings typically develop during situations where I deep down inside know that nothing is going to come out of the situation other than a few hookups. After writing this, I have realized that if you hang out with a girl and develop rapport and mutual attraction, feelings are going to develop. You just have to go with it and accept the fact that there is a chance someone is going to get hurt. You can't deny your emotions. Alright looks like I answered most of my question myself but would be open to other opinions/thoughts.... |
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| Author: | Exerio [ Tue Aug 04, 2009 1:47 pm ] |
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Heya! Everyone get feelings, and in your case you liked the girl so why not pursue them? Pick-up isn't about getting rid of emotions, but rather giving you the tools you need to be able to get the girl you want. If you try and she doesn't like you back, then you cut contact and move on, but until then you will have more problems with your feelings if you don't try. - Exerio |
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| Author: | Overture [ Tue Aug 04, 2009 1:58 pm ] |
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I dont see any problem here. Hah! Call her, have her meet you, go do something fun, create chemistry. This is why you looked up the PUA community, isnt it? |
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