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| Author: | Magdiel [ Wed Jul 01, 2009 5:29 pm ] |
| Post subject: | I think The Game just messed me up even more, help |
I get nervous around attractive girls, My cousin who has been like my best friend since i was born ive been getting nervous around her! cus she is really attractive and i just end up thinking ok i dont want to seem like the other guys who she finds annoying (by the way Im not into my cousin thats gross) but i try to use things that i learned from the game on her like showing preselection and other stuff ofcourse non of the sexual stuff but i just wish things could go back to normal when we would have tons and tons of fun and me not thinking of DLVing and negging and all of this other stuff. I dont know if you guys understand me but it seems i get nervous around every attractive girl i see even if im not interested in them as a girlfriend or anything like that. That use to not happen to me before, Ive been trying to think of solutions to getting rid of this problem cus i really like her as a best friend/cousin and i dont want her to end up hating me, so i thought i just need to become comfortable around attractive girls but then i think How can i become comfortable around attractive girls when i cant even become comfortable around my own cousin. What the hell's going on with me please help me i really need it. |
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| Author: | ShadoWSlash [ Wed Jul 01, 2009 5:38 pm ] |
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Hey, Magdiel! I think you are doing that to your cousin, because ur going out and sarging enough...so you end up using her as a test because ur not fulfiling your objectives  .So just go and sarge as much as possible...and then you can relax with your family and friends, because ull feel archived. Your friend, Shadow 
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| Author: | DonPua [ Wed Jul 01, 2009 8:41 pm ] |
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I think it is normal you apply the techniques on her. I have a similar problem. Without wanting it, I sometimes use these techniques unconsciously. Sometimes I use routines on girls I don't like and sometimes even on male friends. The thing is that I do it unconsciously. But it doesn't matter. These techniques are fun. If you ask a male friend "if you could chose to be Spiderman or Superman, who would you want to be and why ?", which is an opinion opener, there is nothing wrong with that. That doesn't mean you want to pick anyone up. You just start a goofy and fun conversation. There is no problem in teasing a male friend or a cousin. This is normal behaviour. I used to tease my friends and family even before I knew about The Game. The things you do when you apply The Game are actually things that you apply anyway with people you are comfortable with. That is why these techniques are such a succes, me think. You go to a HB and you treat her like if she was your little cousin/sister. That is the whole essence of The Game. At the other hand, it is clear that you don't sarge due to approach anxiety. Do something about it. Go to one of your best friend and start talking to him about The Game. It would be a good advice to chose a friend which has less approach anxiety than yourself. Than go sarge with him. You will see that your friend can open a set easily and as such that will give you a confidence boost to open a set yourself. Good luck. |
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| Author: | hollywoodd [ Wed Jul 01, 2009 11:02 pm ] |
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well first of, no matter what happens, when you are blood related, there is nothing that will make you fully hate eachother. im not going to lie, my cousin is attractive (after all she is related to me haha kiddding) but my friends always tell me they are going to hook up with her and shit. so i know she is desirable to men. but u shouldnt feel nervous around her. i am an OBNOXIOUS ASSHOLE around my cousin. she since we've been close since birth just like u and yours, she doesnt care. i even dont realize that i tell DHV stories to her. shes older than me but she sees me like a big brother cuz ive told her about the pickup world and she knows about all the gorgeous women i get with. so i dunno...srry i tend to ramble on... she says im more like a brother than a cousin to her because of the way i act. just be yourself around her. when u can feel comfortable around an attractive woman, even if its your cousin, it helps you so much around other women. when u feel nervous aruond ur cousin again, think about when u guys were kids, and u played in the kiddie pool or something. dont try routines on ur cousin, cuz trying to attract your cousin, may turn out bad. she may not feel the attraction cuz well..ur cousins, so the routines will seem like they failed. just treat her as one of ur guys friends but not all the way. and things will turnout for the best. i sometimes have a problem eating females are around. i have to like tell myself that "the girls around me at the table arent attractive, they are just cool guys with long hair" but now its just whatever to me. like if you are confident with yourself, then the women are confident in you. so work on your image of yourself and find YOUR comfort zone |
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