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Author:  Constantine00 [ Wed Jul 01, 2009 12:00 pm ]
Post subject:  Fighting to get over a bad case of one-itis
For the last 6 months I've had a serious case of one-itis. I'm in a wheelchair due to a car accident and my friend's ex-gf is a hb10 that lives down the hall. We became really good friends at first but I did catch feelings for her and I really didn't care about sarging or any other women; I only wanted her. I tirelessly searched for a way out of the friendzone and became more depressed and more miserable. Our relationship/friendship hasn't been what it used to be for a while and now that she has some white trash bf that she is all in love with, being around her is painful to the point where I just get dispondent. So I've cut her off completely. I cannot be around her because of the agony she unintentionally inflicts on me. I hate her but I still love her and I'm fighting to get over her. It still hurts; not talking to her and all but I know I need to get her out of my life. I guess I just had to post this somewhere. I've been so consumed by her for so long and now I need to pick myself up and get back to where I was.
Author:  Jav [ Wed Jul 01, 2009 2:00 pm ]
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Go meet other women.
Let your pain be your motivation.
Atleast go and do something.

We all been there.
Author:  Billionaire [ Wed Jul 01, 2009 2:42 pm ]
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I believe Oneitis comes from the belief that opportunities to get attractive girls are scarce for you. Like if you suddenly had the magical power to get 1,000 HB10's right now, would you still be obsessed over her? If you learn more pickup skills and you start believing in your ability to get hot girls, then she won't matter so much, because you start believing in abundance.
Author:  hollywoodd [ Wed Jul 01, 2009 11:36 pm ]
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i feel for ya
i had one-itis for a girl for years and after a long time i ended up asking her out, and the date i thought went well, then she invited me in to her place after (i was a teenager so techincally her parents place) and it kinda just went downhill and crash and burn. but for sum reason. i suddenly got over her. its all in your head.
u really gotta go experience other women and other things for ur mind to be occupied. i used to go into depressions too. it was no bueno. but now after all these different experiences ive been through and realizations. i know theres plenty of other things that will make me happy.
Author:  Reo [ Thu Jul 02, 2009 12:17 am ]
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This isn't suprising No you didnt want to listen to me
Author:  Head First [ Thu Jul 02, 2009 1:28 am ]
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rule number 32- the best cure for a woman is another woman
Author:  tutankamon [ Thu Jul 02, 2009 3:44 am ]
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rule num2. : can´t have you, then get out of my life :)
sooner the better
Author:  Constantine00 [ Fri Jul 03, 2009 5:50 am ]
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Quote:
This isn't suprising No you didnt want to listen to me
I didn't want to listen to a lot of people...
Author:  Constantine00 [ Fri Jul 03, 2009 6:03 am ]
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Quote:
I believe Oneitis comes from the belief that opportunities to get attractive girls are scarce for you. Like if you suddenly had the magical power to get 1,000 HB10's right now, would you still be obsessed over her? If you learn more pickup skills and you start believing in your ability to get hot girls, then she won't matter so much, because you start believing in abundance.
Still obsessed? I don't know but if you lined her up next to 999 other hb10 i'd still choose her because I love her (and I DO NOT use that word loosely ever). The issue however is that I'm confined to a wheelchair... I've gone out sarging every night since this post and I've gotten 1 # from a girl; an old friend I've known for 10yrs. I'm not like the rest of you. It's close to impossible to compete with guys that are ablebodied even if I edge them out in looks. No matter how I present myself, women act as if they're afraid or uncomfortable with me?
Author:  avk [ Fri Jul 03, 2009 7:46 am ]
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Hey Brother ,

I read your thread and I just had to talk to you regardin yourself.
The only problem residing right now first of all is not the oneitis my friends , its yourself. Yeah sure your on a wheel chair and to you this may come as a deficiency but think about it lets role play for a moment.

Lets say that one day you have this strong steel built affirmation inside your head that you will go out and get rejected rejected rejected rejected and still rejected untill at a certain point where you accept the fact that your on a wheel chair and start not making it as a disadvantage but as an advantage.
Bro I know a man who has a serious case of herpes yet he goes out and sarges and even sometimes he tells girls he has herpes and doesnt give a crap because he beleives that he offers much more than that , it is when you accept yourself that others will accept you. You cannot take away what happened but you can always make it something positive to the point where you say "I am proud that this happened to me and I love each second of it "
check out the cycler armstrong or whatveer his name is , he got the chick and the fuckin power of self power.
So being on a wheel chair is not that bad , it could have been worse trust me. Thus I told you this before take the wheel chair use your own creative imagination and make it the coolest sh!t in the world. Once you have accepted who you are and you dont give a flyin toto about people who dont includin girls thats when you will have the power to be the sh!t you deserve to be.

Thats one. i.e. innergame

Two, after you have gone out sargin and have built yourself a strong frame from the inside comes in field exposures , this is where you keep going out and out and out buildin friends goin to nice events , maybe even going to the gym and workin out on your biceps and upper body. Start wearin unique stuff that make you look the person you want to be even on a wheel chair, who gives a sh!t.

Once this is establish results will come by itself which include women , but focus on buildin yourself first the rest will come my friend. Think of it as a superhero dillemma after the events of a tragedy they had superpowers and become the sh!T and this is you , you can become the first guy on wheel chairs who gets laid like a pimp.
How much respect will you earn from your pees , most importantly how much respect you will earn from your own self.
Just BE

your brother
AVK
Author:  strimpboi [ Fri Jul 03, 2009 2:32 pm ]
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Hey bro, I understand the oneitis thing. I'm getting past one right now. Best looking girl I ever had a shot at, that I knew about. I got in to pick up after being rejected by her and my thinking has been, how many girls as good looking as her have I had a chance with but just walked straight by them because they didn't give me upfront obvious IOIs? How many are as cool as her but I didn't know it because I didn't try to get to know them? I've been finding, that the more you get to know more women, most of them (especially the hot ones) are really cool/sweet women. Just gotta keep playing the game.

Oh, and the wheelchair thing, I'll never be able to understand that, honestly. I can't put myself in your shoes, but I can send you a little inspiration. Go to you tube and search for Sean Stephenson. He does a lot of work with David D and he is in a wheelchair. He does great with women.
Author:  Jav [ Fri Jul 03, 2009 3:01 pm ]
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Author:  tutankamon [ Fri Jul 03, 2009 11:16 pm ]
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i kind of ignored the fact you are in the wheel chair when reading your thread......and i think you should do the same.
Author:  Constantine00 [ Sat Jul 04, 2009 9:29 pm ]
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First I have to say this: I am literally going to commit suicide if 1 more person tells me to check out Sean Stephenson.lol I have probably watched every video he's ever made. Enough said. Second thing that bothers me not just on here but in life is the belief that "once you become paralyzed, you will never walk again." That for a long time in the medical community was the belief. It has since been disproven and as someone on the inside, it may be that within 10 yrs, wheelchairs will become obsolete (at least for those who have the use of their upper body). If you listen to old school dr.'s and seek conventional SPAM, you will never walk again. However, there is an entire new approach that says if you put someone in a wheelchair, medicate them and tell them they'll never walk again, what is going to happen? They'll never walk again! but if you believe that you will walk again and you work at it with therapy working out your legs and your lower body, you just might. There is also new technology and surgeries that are proving effective as well. I have seen with my own eyes at Project Walk in Carlsbad,CA and The Center for Spinal Cord Injury Recovery in Detroit, MI people who were paralyzed and told they would never walk again walking. I'm saying this because I'm tired of hearing people tell me to "accept" this is who I am. Do I accept that I'm in a wheelchair today? Yes. Do I accept that I'll be like this forever? It will be a cold day in Hell when I do that. Honestly, I don't just believe, I know that I have far more to offer than most guys. I have self-respect. I dress the way I do because I want to. I respect the peacock theory; when I was in high school I stopped giving a fuck about what girls thought and started dressing radically punk rock and I got more ass then, than I ever have in my life but I'm not going to go out of my way to look different because that's not who I am today. What I am seriously lacking is confidence, less so in myself and more so in the female species. Will THEY ever realize there is more to me than a wheelchair? I've been rejected more times than I can count because during my case of one-itis I would hit on the hottest girls in the club because I was more concerned with showing my oneitis that I had balls than I was with their response. The girl I love, she was my best friend, she knows me well, we get along great and trust each other(now I can't even answer the phone when she calls)...besides, I've seen her bf and I KNOW that the ONLY reason she and I aren't together is because I'm in a wheelchair. If she couldn't be with me, I really don't know who will.
Author:  Chief [ Sun Jul 05, 2009 12:25 pm ]
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What a crock of bologna.

Didn't Beschatten or somebody here go sarging in a wheelchair, pretending to be crippled?

You do realize that internal beliefs manifest themselves as your external reality, right? If you believe that your handicap status is unattractive, then it will be unattractive.

Do you even WANT to change your beliefs? I don't know if you realize that your beliefs are what you need to change FIRST. THEN you start seeing positive results. That's how it works.

...Do you even want to see positive results? Or do you just want to whine?

Well, if you actually want to see some fucking change, you're in luck. I just wrote a blog post about "Adopting Sexy Beliefs." Click on my blog link in my signature to check it out. If you just want to keep bitching about how you refuse to change your beliefs, then I'm going to have to tell you to check out this cool guy named "Sean Stephenson" lol
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