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Author:  trackjunkie [ Wed Jun 24, 2009 6:19 am ]
Post subject:  Meeting the parents. How do I respond to these questions?
She tells me her parents want to meet me.
She's 20, still lives at home.
I'm 21, live on my own.
Her parents don't want her having a boyfriend.
Her dad is asian, and from what I hear very strict.
Her mom, isn't as strict.
We've been dating for the past 5 months, with a 3 week break.


I'll get the usual questions, what do you do? What are you studying in school? Where did you grow up?

Then will come the more awkward questions like:

What do you want from my daughter?

What are your intentions with my daughter?

How would you guys answer these questions?

I found out what his favorite movies are, im going to watch them before I meet him in case he makes a reference I can say "oh yea, that's from this movie"

Other than looking up current events the day of, or a couple days prior, is there any research I should do.

I'm a waiter at a restaurant and i get along great with the older, middle upper class people, because I don't talk to them, I know what they want, and I don't waste their time with bullshit.

Any other advice, pointers, hints? I haven't met a girls parents for 3 years now, and last time I was so scared.
Author:  Slowburner [ Wed Jun 24, 2009 8:14 am ]
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Have you thought of just politely declining this meeting with her parents? Meeting them will put you into a position of very little power and what will you gain?

Are you dating the girl or her father?

Reject the meeting but not the girl. Maybe you can get her to conspire against it. If you can get her I think her parents opinions will not matter one bit. Be prepared that she may bail out as it is sometime very tough to go against parents.
Author:  Feist [ Wed Jun 24, 2009 9:17 am ]
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I don't see why you would decline such an invitation.

These parents aren't demons that are going to eat your soul! They just want to know if you are a guy their daughter can be happy with.
And propably it is going to be an awkward conversation or moment, but haven't we all faced those and survived in the end. The girl doesn't judge the answers on those questions, only the parents do and it sends a way better message to these parents if you show up and just do it then declining the offer.

Parents know very good how you feel in such a situation and mostly they won't bust your balls as much as you thought before they would.

As for the questions, just say what your intentions are with this girl. Since you guys have been together for 3 years I suspect your intentions are good and that you want the two of you to be happy together or something.

That would be my opinion, at least I think this sends a better message than, how polite it may be, rejecting the invitation

Good luck brother, you will survive (unless they really are demons of course)
Peace, by Feist
Author:  trackjunkie [ Wed Jun 24, 2009 9:43 am ]
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haha, we've been together for 5 months, not 3 years.

I don't know what my intentions are. Someone with moral fiber and someone I can relate to, is all I really want, of course sex is nice, but really just a companion.

It's the same girl that thought I cheated, she told her parents. She got over that little tiff, and we're better than before.

I'm not going to decline the invite, I'll just be well informed before I go, so I don't look like an idiot.

Her parents play a huge role in what she does, she always wants to appease them.
Author:  Feist [ Wed Jun 24, 2009 10:29 am ]
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lol sorry about that, I thought I read 3 years ;)

But if you say that (someone with moral fiber and someone you can relate to) you'll be fine, as long as you don't say sex (the asian protective dad might get a heart attack, and even though that looks like a solution now, it's not ;) ) you will be alright if you give them some things they want to hear

And I think you and her should both explain that the cheating thing was a misunderstanding (it was right?) and that you guys are better than ever. There aren't a lot of parents that will confront you when you say that with her by your side!
Author:  870 [ Thu Jun 25, 2009 8:42 pm ]
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See if this post I wrote a long time ago helps you out: seduce-the-parents-vt33356.html?highlight=

Your boy,
870
Author:  tutankamon [ Thu Jun 25, 2009 8:55 pm ]
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when you do sales....you find out anything you can about your customer.
now you are gonna sell yourself :)
so the same thing applies.
Author:  Minos [ Fri Jun 26, 2009 7:52 am ]
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It's actually pretty simple man. If her dad asks you what your intentions are all you have to say is "only good". As soon as that's said, it disarms him and usually just changes the subject to something else. Other than that, put on a polite and charming personality which is what your girlfriend would obviously assume and appreciate you doing as a first impression and everything will go smoothly.
Author:  Brendan [ Sun Jun 28, 2009 1:17 am ]
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I've never done well with chick's parents.. I remember one time when I was making out with a girl in her room and she was 15 at the time. I was 16. Her dad walked in and busted us so I threw her off me, jumped out of her bed and just stood there looking up at this big man with my pants half down. He told me to follow him so I did.. He took me into his shed, showed me his shotgun and told me that if he ever sees me again, he's blowing my balls off! After that I've always had a fear of meeting parents..
Author:  Manda Chuva [ Sun Jun 28, 2009 1:21 am ]
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Just be you'reself and be educated show the that you're a man of character

relax and have open body language, mr and mrs its so nice to met you i have herd so much about you she just kept talking my parents wanted to meet you and im like awesome

be ureself and relax asian girls though theyre parents are tough
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