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Author:  dc203 [ Sun Jun 21, 2009 2:04 pm ]
Post subject:  "I'm not gonna have sex with you"
Hey guys I pulled in a night club and she seemed well into me but said outta the blue she wouldn't sleep with me. I'm thinking it was a green light but she was trying not to appear like a slut? What do you guys reckon?
Author:  M.Rhythms [ Sun Jun 21, 2009 2:26 pm ]
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Need more info please. Whats her rating? (HB_) What routines did you use or openers etc. Did she send you IOIs?

Maybe you could of said in response:
"I think that's great that you won't sleep with random people, but I don't think the whole world needs to know (; "
Author:  Bennn [ Sun Jun 21, 2009 2:50 pm ]
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In the broader picture, because she's telling you that she will not sleep with you - sex is on her mind. It would be wierd for her to say that she does want sex, especially if you haven't known her for too long. You could act like you misheard her, look her in the eye and ask, "Wait a minute, what about sleeping with me?" She'll inevitably say "I'm not going to sleep with you." The point is your making her say it to fit into your frame. You can do a lot of things here. I'd probably look at her in a wierd way, because it's a wierd thing to bring up out of the blue and it's not a reaction that I'm used to. Than I'd just say, "That's amazing. I really admire your willpower. I just enjoy sex too damn much to tell girls that I won't sleep with them - unless they want me as a boyfriend, then it's best that we don't have sex."

She'll probably ask you about commitment and stuff. Just stick to your guns and tell her, "I'm not boyfriend material, I enjoy making memories with girls and enjoy sharing an amazing time in the bedroom. I'm a boy friend, I don't judge and I don't get jealous. It's just that right now in my life I have my own stuff to sort out."

This can also be your way of opening up. You can end it with, "Thanks for not judging me. I really feel like I can open up to you. Even if I didn't want to fuck you I'd still enjoy hanging out with you. (Credit to someone...I've definately heard that line before.)

The last line is the kicker. Don't give her time to say anything. Your just stating how you feel, and she is not in any place to tell you otherwise. Just casually follow it up with another thread like, "Do you like the show House? You remind me of one of the doctors."

The point is to show that your desire to have sex does not change regardless of what she says, and that it's something that you can mention comfortably. Pay attention to her body more than what she says. If a girl says that she will not sleep with you it means nothing. If she stiffens up when you give her a hug, however, you may want to rethink whether she's a viable option.
Author:  Billionaire [ Sun Jun 21, 2009 6:20 pm ]
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Yeah she wanted sex with you and she blurted out to try to stop herself.
Totally Green light.
Did you have sex with her?
Author:  dc203 [ Mon Jun 22, 2009 3:15 pm ]
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Hey guys thanks for the messages and I'm definitely going to take all this advice on board and remember it for next time.
I was quite drunk so my memory is hazy as it was a pure day of drinking, but I think she was hb 5 or 6 so nothing to be concerned with...got to aim for the 8's and above!
I didn't have a routine I just simply was being confident (due in part to alcohol and fact she wasn't overly hot)

I said to her 'you have really pretty, and deep interesting eyes but why the builders hands?' - is this a neg?'

I didn't sleep with her, just pulled her in the club for a while, if I had said right come back to mine I think she really have...

It's all experience I guess and I can't wait to excel at all this stuff
Author:  Billionaire [ Mon Jun 22, 2009 5:52 pm ]
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One time I had a therapist and on the first meeting, after about 30 or 40 minutes she said "I can't be your girlfriend." I was thinking "WTF?" I was kind of irritated because I never asked her to be my girlfriend and I thought she was shooting me down even though I never even asked her. I thought it was kinda mean. A week later I had my 2nd session with her, and she came dressed with her cleavage showing and her hair was fluffed up so that it would look fuller and better. In the first session, she had been dressed very conservatively.

Now with all the pua materials I studied, I know now that when she said "I can't be your girlfriend," she actually did want to be my girlfriend! I haven't seen her in a long time, but I have all her current contact info from her web site. I might email her. She was an 8 or 9.
Author:  Wolfus [ Mon Jun 22, 2009 6:16 pm ]
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Yeah as Bennn said, she's thinking of having sex with you. Mostly a shit test & anti slut defense.

I'd just brush it off in a cocky & funny sorta way e.g Woah! hold your horses, you havn't even charmed me yet ;)

Maybe since she was a HB5-6 she was just being insecure and assuming you thought she'd be an easy lay.

Same reaction either way though, maintain your frame & just continue normally.
Author:  minsok [ Wed Jun 24, 2009 7:26 pm ]
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"I said to her 'you have really pretty, and deep interesting eyes but why the builders hands?' - is this a neg?' "

Bwahaha! That's a high stakes neg. If a girl says she's not gonna have sex with you and you weren't even talking about sex, you are so in.
Author:  silverito [ Mon Nov 21, 2016 6:51 pm ]
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Sorry for a bump, but had to answer - this is almost always a yes sign, you should continue. Unless her body language says otherwise.
Although I am basing this on +-5 girls that said that to me, may be too small of a sample. Any other thoughts from those who heard this quite a few times? :)

And I do not come back with anything witty, just either smile and ignore or say "ok" etc and continue as if she did not say that.
Author:  JackZero [ Mon Nov 21, 2016 7:14 pm ]
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Sorry for a bump, but had to answer
Yeah...this one wasn't worth the bump until I read this and it gave me a good laugh.
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One time I had a therapist and on the first meeting, after about 30 or 40 minutes she said "I can't be your girlfriend." I was thinking "WTF?" I was kind of irritated because I never asked her to be my girlfriend and I thought she was shooting me down even though I never even asked her. I thought it was kinda mean. A week later I had my 2nd session with her, and she came dressed with her cleavage showing and her hair was fluffed up so that it would look fuller and better. In the first session, she had been dressed very conservatively.



Now with all the pua materials I studied, I know now that when she said "I can't be your girlfriend," she actually did want to be my girlfriend! I haven't seen her in a long time, but I have all her current contact info from her web site. I might email her. She was an 8 or 9.
Kind of makes me believe that there was a real necessity for this guy to be in therapy.
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Back to the topic that was originally being bumped...

The bottom line is that you shouldn't worry about the statement. If she means it or doesn't mean it, she's telling you something for that specific moment. It doesn't mean she will feel the same way or reveal how she really feels an hour later. That's the entire point of seduction. It's getting her in the mood to do something that she may not have originally wanted to do.
Author:  Johnny Utah [ Sat Nov 26, 2016 6:16 am ]
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Wow your therapist either wanted to hook up with you or she was intentionally being a cocktease...which is pretty counterproductive with regard to her job.

I wouldn't put it passed certain women to become therapists to either have a variety of men in need of fixing up, hook ups or men they just want to cocktease on a daily basis. This of course goes for male therapists as well.
Author:  R.C [ Sat Nov 26, 2016 8:28 am ]
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It's been 7 years guys. I think the OP may have moved on.
Author:  PUALearning2PUA [ Sat Nov 26, 2016 10:07 pm ]
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It's been 7 years guys. I think the OP may have moved on.
Wow good catch.
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