I would by no means consider myself a pro, or expert at the game, but I am definately a student of the game, and have come a long way since first reading Neil's book in September.
I had a oneitis that I finally got over in April. Since then the ladies have been flocking my way. Here's how I did it: The first thing I did was went to the gym. The majority of your communication with people is non-verbal, and I am in agreeance that you don't have to look like Brad Pitt to get hott chicks, it does help. I lost 60 pounds from November to April and got in pretty good shape.
Another thing I did was work on my tan, and shave my body. yeah, it's a little metro, but I seem to get more compliments then negs about it.
The third thing I did was make an investment in clothing. I decided to "peacock". Nothing too over the top, because boas aren't really my thing unless it's halloween, but I just got some affliction-knock off t-shirts. Shirts with roses, tye die, wild colors, funny sayings.
The next was body language. I made sure to never place my hands in my pockets or cross my arms unless talking to AMOGs. I swelled out my chest, flexed the arms slightly, walked with my theighs slightly apart (as if to create the illustion that my nuts are so big i cant walk with my legs close together). I call this my "strut." I started walking with a little swagger in my step.
I also did away with my contacts and wear my glasses 24/7 now. I've found that chicks love glasses.
I decided to shave my head. Not completely bald, but a #1 all the way around. Women really seem to like the smooth body look, and i've gotten some positive feedback from it.
Last but not least, I fully submerged myself in negging and being cocky-funny. This has worked like a charm. Since then I have slept with Doctors, lawyers, CPAs, and hooters girls. I've been with european women, and the ex that oh so brutally kicked me to the curb 6 months ago tried to come crawling back to me last weekend, telling me how much she missed me, and how sexy I am.
Be that as it may, I've had a LOT of fun in the past 2 months. I did find a girl that I really like, and that really likes me for me, not for "the game." I still peacock around her, and do a little c&f to her, but nothing over the top. She really likes me for me, just the me that has a little more confidence.
The biggest thing ive learned through all of this is that confidence is king. Although ive had an amazing 2 months, im now with an HB9 that is super-smart, and likes me for me. I'm a lot more confident about it, and instead of being jealous and insecure, i have the attitude that i'm not afraid to lose her.
Key note...biggest thing i've learned..YOU CAN NOT BE AFRAID TO LOSE HER. When first starting out, you may lose a few, and that is fine. It may seem like the end of the world at the time, but once you truley own it, and make it your own, they always come crawling back. People want what they cant have. Don't be afraid to let a girl go, and she will love you for it.
I am in no way proclaiming to be a king gamer, or a master, but i am just simply sharing what has worked for me thus far. It took 7 months of research and 2 months of SOLID sarging, but i've had a lot of fun. Will the route I take work for everyone? Absolutely not. But it is a good guide, and a great story for newbies to show them what you can become.
Now i'm a happy guy, looking good, confident, with a great chick in my life that i'm assuming will end up being my girlfriend some time in the next couple weeks. My intention in the game wasn't to have years of banging hott chicks and getting my numbers up, it was more of a way to find confidence within myself, and meet some great people along the way. I feel every girl i met was just a stepping stone to the girl i'm talking to now.
Am I putting this girl on a pedestal? Is she a new oneitis? Well, perhaps...but I can assure you that she isn't as big a oneitis to me, as I am to her
Best wishes.
Ace
, i agree with the whole thing a little change up goes a long way. I bet your outer look also added a lot to your confidence. I just wanted to get ur opinion on this, I am reading the book and slowly picking up sarging but i really dont feel like having sex with anyone just because... I want to be in love or oneitis i think is a better word for describing love, but I want to do it with THE PERSON and i want to feel comfortable, do u think going in with that attitude will effect my game, knowing at the end of the day im looking for LTR not just a one night stand...what your opinion on that?
"), it won't affect anything i believe.