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| Author: | mercer [ Thu May 28, 2009 9:50 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Am i doing the right thing? |
So i had mad oneitis, way over it now even though id still like to hit that im not obsessing on the level that i wanna marry her like i used to! You know how it is. Anyway she lives out of town and i text her the other day about somethin, just a quick question, nothing in it. So she calls me straight after the text and says 'oh im glad you text me coz it reminded me to call you coz im in town'......ok whatever. So the conversation was just fluff talk, kinda catchin up, she hasnt been in touch because shes been busy......then goes on to tell me how many books shes read coz shes not working at the minute.......again ok whatever. So im starting to go off this girl and im gettin negative on the phone, she asks when im taking her to london and if i'd take her to ascot for the races, i say no and shes shocked because lets face it shes a 9.5 and guys must throw themselves at her and she knows she can get what she wants. She also knows how much i used to like her. Her effortless attitude just pisses me off and i aint wasting any time on that, theres a hell of allot more out there. But like i said i'd still like to hit it so am i doing the right thing by not really being that interested and jumping to her every demand? She may just think ok i'll find someone that will jump, and if she does so what? theres more out there, or she may wonder why im not jumping and make an effort to try and make me. What do you guys think? |
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| Author: | Ezo [ Thu May 28, 2009 10:11 pm ] |
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Yes, you are doing the right thing. If it feels like the right thing to you then trust your instincts. There is absolutely no reason to jump at her demands. Why would you take her to London? She can go alone if she wants it so bad. |
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| Author: | mercer [ Sun May 31, 2009 11:05 pm ] |
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Update on this situation, basically what im trying to do is be like ive gone off this girl (which i kind of have) because i made the fatal error of showing how interested i was and how much i liked her way too early and it turned her off. So im hoping that by showing more disinterest now i can reverse it. Worth a try i figure, got nothing to lose so why not? Anyway like i said i knew she was in town and she told me she was hitting a club last night, i just said thats cool, im at the races all day and im busy sunday so maybe i'll catch you next time your in town or something. So i went to the races all day and then ended up goin to this club, obviously knowing she'd be there. I bumped into her and she was all excited to see me and said she'd missed me so much and was like 'oh my god why didnt you call me to say you was coming here!' I just said i wasnt sure what i was doin and said hi and told her i'd catch up with her later maybe, just played it cool. She called me today and said she was shocked that i practically just walked past her and didnt seem too bothered by seein her when she was actually really excited to see me, at this point i will admit i was pretty much smashed out my head after a day and night of drinking so cant really remember much but she filled me in on the details saying that we had a little dance and we were goin to get a drink but i walked off when she left to get her bag and was gone too long. So i played it cool, acted like i wasnt interested and i guess it worked by the response i got from her today telling me all about it, she was obviously bothered by it. So where do i take it now? Do i just wait for her to be in touch more? Which to be honest is pretty unlikely, shes away at uni and she doesn't stay in touch with people from home much because she misses everyone too much, but if i make too much effort she's gonna go off me again, how do i get back to the point where she wants to call me and text me everyday like she used to before i told her i really liked her? |
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| Author: | Billionaire [ Sun May 31, 2009 11:35 pm ] |
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I can't give you a simple quick answer. There's a whole lot of things you can do to work a girl like this. You have to do a lot of reading from a lot of different PUA materials to get a good understanding of what to do. You could use cocky/funny humor on her to play on her insecurities. Swinggcat has a good ebook on how to make yourself the prize and make her reach for you. Act like she has to prove her worthiness to you. Criticize minor things about her, such as her makeup and clothing. Act like she doesn't quite measure up and that she needs to improve a bit. Take advantage of her insecurities. Yes it's a big mistake to act like you worship her. It may already be too late for you, but who knows. Maybe you can salvage it? Yeah you definitely should not do favors for her in general. You have to come from a frame that you're higher value and status than her. When she asked you to take her somewhere, your attitude should be "what's in it for me?" Like you should do it only if she will do an even bigger favor for you. If she's not going to do anything for you, then definitely DON'T do her a favor. That just makes you look like a low value, pathetic choad that she can take advantage of. One important thing is to get her to do favors for YOU, even if it's a really small favor. Then she has to backwards rationalize that she likes you and that you have value. Then get her to do bigger and bigger favors for you. It's not important to do favors for her. |
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| Author: | mercer [ Mon Jun 01, 2009 7:45 pm ] |
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Thanks man thats a help, i normally do act cocky/funny most of the time and she laps it up. She's such hard work though because when i do speak to her or see her she says how much she misses me and we have a great time together and when we talk its for hours but thats when we talk, i just find it hard to get her to call me or text me back and stuff, so why wouldnt she if she really does miss me and can talk with me for hours etc? And what kind of favours do you think i could get her to do for me? |
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