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| Author: | Ezo [ Thu May 28, 2009 6:03 pm ] |
| Post subject: | How long should you court her? Eeeer WHAAAAT???? |
A lot of the posts here are along the lines of: Hey there is this girl, we have known for a while and she is not texting me. or Hey, how long should I wait for her to call? or Hey, what to do if she doesnt respond? or Hey, why is she flaking? Obviously there are 2 sides of this problem. 1. The obvious one is... You did something wrong during your sarge. And in most cases I would say that no sarge even took place, it is all about a girl you see at school but never really talked to. Or, you missed one of the following parts: Attraction, Comfort, Emotional involvement, Our world conspiracy, buying temperature, Showing a weakness, sharing. Anyway, that kind of answer assume one thing... That you should go after her and get her. 2. The less obvious one that most experienced guys can tell you is that you should let her go. And the silent response is always, yeah easy for you to say but this one is special. Yes it is easy for us to tell you this. But lets take a closer look at this. Where can we find the major part of this problem? Is it because you are not that much of a player, that you allow yourself to have feelings? NO! Thats a good thing. The secret is timing. You let yourself get emotionally involved too soon. You expect too much! Now "soon" is not based on time here but on where you are in your relation with her. You get into her inner circle and you think to yourself, well this is great! Its gonna work this time! Everything is gonna freaking work! And you allow yourself to become attached and treat her like your new girlfriend. All is well until she starts to get fed up with quilification, bored and dumps you in a humiliating way. Truth is, you overstepped your boundries. You can not be sure that you are her next BF until she tells you. She might wanna keep you around as a friend, as a lover, as a potential BF, whatever but she never promised you anything. A girl may kiss you, it means she likes you. A girl may make out with you, that means shes attracted to you. A girl might invite you over for dinner and sex, that means that you are in comfort. A girl might sleep with you every day of the week, that means you seduced her. None of these things means that you are her BF! None of these things means that you have any rights to her whatsoever. She does what makes her feel good at the moment. If she is willing to get serious with you, she will let you know. If you understand this, you can refrain from getting too involved too soon. Her signals are meant to keep you around, no guarantees that she wont hurt you. This is clear to her, it should be to you too. So, how to get out of One-itis... Never enter. Ezo |
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| Author: | Jaybot [ Thu May 28, 2009 6:36 pm ] |
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This should be stickied great post but yar my bro recently over invested too early and I think you sum it up well, relationships require restraint to begin with. |
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| Author: | Clooney [ Fri May 29, 2009 11:00 pm ] |
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Ezo, this is a great post. I want to remember this everytime I mistake an HB's responses. Thank you. |
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| Author: | Builder [ Sat May 30, 2009 8:24 am ] |
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Good post, think that I needed it. Any tips on not allowing yourself to get emotionally attached..? |
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| Author: | Ezo [ Sat May 30, 2009 2:27 pm ] |
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Yes... Im not saying never get emotionally involved. Just dont get there too early. Most of us get involved when we think that we have a chance, or that we have a good chance with this girl. The key is to learn what she means with her signals. Treat every hint of interest from her (not talking IOIs but real interest as a GF BF thing) as a bit less promising than you normally do. Be critical to your chances, rather assume that she is not interested yet if you are unsure. That way you will not get there too early and not care too much. It feels worse to think that you lose a girl you had than to never get her in the first place. |
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