This all comes down to evolutionary impulses vs. relationship expectations (In your brain its the reptillian complex vs. limbic system).


Whether we want to or not, our reptillian brains are always seeking out new potential mates; This is true for male and female. Its a biological thing that can happens very subtly that you're often not aware of it. This is a survival oriented evolutionary behaviour not a sign of infidelity or horniness. With the skills of the community can naturally teach yourself to have the right body language when this checking out and nonverbal rapport happens all of a sudden (instant flirting) but it will still happen when youre in a relationship.

The limbic system, the emotional part of the brain is responsible for maintaining a deep relationship. Just how close you are in the relationship is a result of <i>limbic resonance</i>. If you are very close and you consciously want to avoid flirting with anyone else, involuntary reptillian behaviors can confuse your sense of the other persons emotions or your own emotions toward your partner.

The good news:

By accepting flirting as a contemporary adaptation of a naturally occuring process, you can agree to <i>accept </i> that it can and will happen, and know that such physical impulses wont affect how you feel about each other. Let there be a balance between each part of the brain. Its relative where you draw the line but there is a difference between accepting impulse flirting and letting your evolutionary impulses <i>override</i> your emotional rationality (doing something you wouldn't want her to know).

The bad news:

Relationships are maintained only by being present in the relationship. Limbic resonance develops in the presence of one another and to keep it going it has to happen frequently. Even with videochat you can't experience what it feels like to be right there with them, having limbic resonance, the unspoken emotional bond, the deep rapport only you two could have with each other.

Over time in the long distance realationship limbic resonance will break down from atrophy; physical distance turns to emotional distance. This astronomically increases the probability that both of you will be more open to whats around you, and whoever it happens to first the other one or both of you get hurt.

Not saying you couldn't manage to pull it off until you can move closer, but its scientifically proven that long distance relationships = fail.

A friend hooked me up with her cousin from another state. The whole purpose was to get me a date to prom. The night i first met her, we really connected on a very intimate level and everything was perfect. We cuddled, kissed etc. on the very first night. We went to Prom and pretty much hit it off with a bang. So last week after she went back to her state. I asked her out and now we are going out. Everything is going great so far. I want this to work. So i'm taking steps to make sure that it does. By consulting with the PUA community.

C: Girls are capable of with-holding from temptation, contrary to most under-tones in the community, if she is serious about you and is mature enough, then she probably won't cheat.