I have had this happen twice inside of a year. So I meet this one chick early last semester, HBdarkness. We see each other one other time and then on a night when I was bored I txt her. The txt game I pulled was fucking perfect, I mean grand-fucking-slam perfect. I go over to a friend of ours and we make out and grope for like an hour. First time I ever kissed a girl. It felt like God, just the most insanely awesome thing I have ever done. (I did not fuck her because I had no rubbers and she did not want to go back to my place, she would have rather had me penetrate her in my 94' Isuzu Trooper) When we were making out, I told her I did not want anything to serious and she felt the same. Anyway, after that whenever I tried to establish contact w/ her, my depression (been battling that shit for like a year) got in the way or she would flake. At the beginning of this semester, I see her at this same friends house and try to kiss her, she would not. She tells me that there is some other dude who she is twitterpated with and asks to be friends. I did not because my reality was that she wanted to be physically intimate with me. I also in a really nice way and without offending her, told her that it felt like everything was ending before it got started (I ain't what you say, it's how). HBdarkness agreed that if she ever changed her mind, she would contact me.
So than like three weeks ago this korean HB basically asks me out. She is not a girl who I would have normally approached but because she did most of the work, I said "Okay." The date went well, no kiss but whatever. So today we have lunch and it all goes well, though I noticed that she had some issues w/ me touching her. Whatever. So in the car I ask if I may kiss her. She then goes on for a bit about me being just a friend. I say that I see us as more than friends. I was cool with that, but my expectations were different, and I let her know that. She actually was shocked that I would have sex with a HB who wasn't my gf. I told her, that I would only do stuff off campus w/ me if she changed her mind.
Though I am still a virgin gentleman, I feel that I handled myself well in each situation. My frame, my reality, was strong, not stronger than theirs but of equal strength. I was honest about my intentions and expectations and was totally chill that theirs differed.
Remember guys, frame most of the interaction around sex even if it is day game. (The language barrier may have made this difficult with the korean HB but I feel that I acquiitted myself well in spite of that.) Bust on them for making you talk in innuendo and for all your actions when you touch them whatnot.
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