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| Author: | Korruptx [ Sun Apr 19, 2009 6:22 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Dilemma! argh |
Guys I have a dilemma, unfortunately for me, game goes out the window when an HB 9 or 10 starts talking with me... its ridiculous I know but I just freeze up and just think "shit"! All I can muster is a "how you doing" and then suddenly I go totally blank, I can't think of any push-pull conversation or ways to create kino, and suddenly tons of AFC beliefs come flooding back into my brain like "your not good enough for her" or "it's about looks" or I start getting fidgety or nervous. I become increasingly aware of my actions when I'm around a real 9 or 10, and I find the only thing that helps me alleviate this problem is when I go out I get into the mindset of not expecting to get any action, so there is less pressure on me to perform. Is that normal? I can't get out of this old mindset guys... whenever I see a 9 or 10 I start worrying like hell about the way I look, the way I'm carrying myself, and the way they perceive me. I usually get so anxious and worried that I dread going to talk to them instead of making it out to be a fun thing.. PLEASE tell me how to get some inner confidence! Thanks from the UK |
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| Author: | Lucky D [ Sun Apr 19, 2009 8:41 pm ] |
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Put on some nice, brand new shoes, get a haircut, dress and impress! Then, when every 10 has her eyes on you, you won't be worrying so much! Honestly, you gotta hang out with more beautiful women! If she ain't a 8 or more, then don't bother. But more than all that, you're looking for the wrong thing in a woman! you gotta look deeper, inside... Her personality is where the beauty is. Beauty is common, but a great personality is rare. from the moment you start talking with her, you seek her flaws. If she has none, then marry her! I understand, if u wanna get laid, then a 10 is the holy grail... but a lot of them are used to guys melting for them and they'll abuse you if you're weak. Just because she's hot doesn't mean she's nice, doesn't mean you'll like her, doesen't mean she smart, doesn't mean anything! You gotta be hard! you gotta be nice too, but when she tests you, when she tries to abuse, you let her know that you ain't soft. |
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| Author: | All-American [ Sun Apr 19, 2009 8:45 pm ] |
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I'm no whiz here...I need to improve when it comes to establishing kino and I don't intentionally run a ton of game (I'm just being me). However, I have no problems treating 9's and 10's differently than anyone else. Why? Well...what makes them so good? Their looks? Is that it? For all you know they could be psycho, they could be an idiot, etc. The point, is, they're not special! If you believe that you're just as good as any of those girls (or even better), you won't be looking up to them at all. Just don't put them on a pedestal. |
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| Author: | Johnny27 [ Sun Apr 19, 2009 10:16 pm ] |
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OK, the only thing that's wrong here it's you and the way you see yourself.. You gotta have your confidence really high, no matter what, if you don't trust yourself, no one else will. you have to be good and show that you know that your good.. You asked how do you solve your inner game problems.. You have to think. Think like a PUA, what's the worst thing that can happen when meeting a girl? And you see that you have no reasons to go blank. Don't give much importance to a chick just because she's a 9 or a 10..Treat all the girls the same way.. HAve them seeing that's they have to pursuee you, no matter how great they look.. Oh and if you have problems with looks, you may have to improve them by getting a haircut, wear nice clothes, as someone said above.. Remember, you gotta love youself before they can love you! |
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| Author: | SUB-ZERO [ Mon Apr 20, 2009 6:32 pm ] |
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Have you ever tried NOT giving a Fuck??? Quite caring what she thinks. She is thinking one of following or more... Is he a player or a weirdo? Will he hurt me? Is this guy safe? Is this guy a cheater? Does he only want sex? Blah blah blah... IMO the next time you see one of these 10s, go back to the basics and try to take it as far as you can. If you can open her, great. If you can tease her and kino, awesome. Just go as far as you can. Set your goals for the gaming lower than F-closing. Right before you approach say to yourself, "I want to open her, tease her at least once and lightly kino this woman". Than fucking DO it. If you reach those goals with her in small steps, add another step. Keep adding baby steps untill you are # closing or kissing. Get used to chatting with 10s. They are just as insecure and gamable as 6s and 7s only they have a higher social calibration and give you a little less room for mistakes initially. Even if you are getting nowhere closer to fucking this 10, you are getting used to talking to stunners while adding pre selection rep to yourself to the other HBs in the bar. I dont care as much about outcomes with HBs. I totally could care less what the fucks going on in her head about me. I care about her feelings. Make her feel good and she will like you. Be an AMOG. Only beta AFCs get scared or intimadated by a womans beauty. |
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