watch comedians and look at what they do
use hand motions(don't go crazy/overboard with it), get people involved by showing them what happened, use voices, etc.
comedians are the perfect example of how to captivate an audience
so i just recommend watching them
as for the whole fun thing and being cool and confident
before i go out my routine is to have a strut around my house
and blasting music that makes me feel like a bad ass
while singing and strutting to this music
i picture myself talking to girls and having a fun time
then on my way somewhere either by myself or with a friend
i listen to Dane cook, Ralphie may, someone that makes me laugh so i have the
fun laughter mood
so when i talk to people it just radiates off of me
and everyone sees that im having a good time wherever i am
and whatever i am doing
another tip is to really enjoy the conversations you have! get soaked up in them!
too many guys always worry about trying to say the funniest line
or what can i say to make people think im really bad ass
the truth is there is no amazing lines to do that
just be yourself, have fun, and really enjoy the social interactions you have with people
hope some if not all helped
cheers,
mike