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Author:  mindheaven [ Tue Apr 07, 2009 2:20 am ]
Post subject:  How to Get out The friend zone with your ex?
Recently Me and My Girlfriend broke up because she says she doesn't want a bf due to the fact she was in the hospital for almost death experience from sickle cell and i didn't visit because first of all I didn't know she was in the hospital. Anyway she doesn't want a bf because of that and she all of a sudden doesn't want a bf now so i talk to her occasionally on the phone and at school but she claims we are just friends but it doesn't seem that I'm getting out this friend zone any time soon and its almost the end of the school year and she's graduating so i might not see her anymore. I act mean to her (not that mean) but in a playful way.Like for example she been accepted to a college out of the state and i would playfully act mean and be like you should leave and she play along with it and be like maybe i should and we would go back to back saying "fine". So What I Should I Do? :(
Author:  jimmy_m88 [ Tue Apr 07, 2009 3:16 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to Get out The friend zone with your ex?
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Recently Me and My Girlfriend broke up because she says she doesn't want a bf due to the fact she was in the hospital for almost death experience from sickle cell and i didn't visit because first of all I didn't know she was in the hospital. Anyway she doesn't want a bf because of that and she all of a sudden doesn't want a bf now so i talk to her occasionally on the phone and at school but she claims we are just friends but it doesn't seem that I'm getting out this friend zone any time soon and its almost the end of the school year and she's graduating so i might not see her anymore. I act mean to her (not that mean) but in a playful way.Like for example she been accepted to a college out of the state and i would playfully act mean and be like you should leave and she play along with it and be like maybe i should and we would go back to back saying "fine". So What I Should I Do? :(
That's a tough one because busting out of the friend zone takes time. The most effective method that I've seen would be to go a while (at LEAST a month, preferably longer) no contact. This is extremely tough, I know, but if you don't want to just be friends then you should do just that and NOT BE FRIENDS. Get out and date. Do fun stuff with friends. Forget this chick. She will see that you have a great and exciting life outside of her. Then, if you still have feelings for her in a while, you can start fresh and have an assortment of things to talk about.

But to be honest, I just don't see this working for you. I mean, for one you just don't have much time to spend with her and two, she is moving out of state. Do you really think it's gonna work out for you in the long run? I mean, long distance relationships can and have worked, but is this girl really worth it? Really ponder this question carefully and be honest with yourself, because if you try to win her back it will be a long road filled with much heartache nomatter the end result. Good luck to you my man.
Author:  crim [ Tue Apr 07, 2009 6:16 am ]
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I was recently in the same situation and this is my game plan;

First off she broke up with me, she said 'we were too different!'

I told her I think we should wait a month before we see each other again.

In this month (which I am in now!) I've been going to the gym, learning Krav Maga and Mastering the art of seduction. My thoughts are that I obviously didn't demonstrate enough S & R (Survival and Reproduction) Value around her.

It's generally difficult to get back with a girl because she already KNOWS your S&R Value so in reality you have to convince her on something she already KNOWS. Essentially you have to change for the better and increase your S&R Value.

In the meantime i have kept in contact with all of her friends, I'm trying to pwn them for obvious reasons, pretty much next time you see her you have to walk into a room and be the guy everyone wants to be and every girl wants to be with. Not easy but I like a challenge :P

NOTE: The downside to what I am doing is that as I am learning the art of seduction I am feeling less and less attracted to me ex, not necessarily a bad thing but if you really like her I suppose it would be otherwise. I know of so many people that have gotten into the game to get their ex's back and have found that after a couple of weeks of Playing the game they don't feel attracted to their ex anymore, and generally become alright PUA's
Author:  Jaybot [ Tue Apr 07, 2009 6:33 am ]
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If the split up was fairly mutual and you both agreed to be friends you can probably hang out with her and sway things towards a friends with benefits type relationship. She obviously liked you enough to go out with you once and it doesn't seem like shitty breakup, so just DHV a little bit and have fun. Eventually the situation should arise.

also because you are already in deep rapport eye contact will be a massive thing.
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