You're freezing up because all these routines and stories aren't you. Sure, it doesn't hurt to use them at first to get a grasp of how attraction in general works, but they should never be more than "training wheels" to get you moving in the right direction.
Knowing what you want to say is good as you wont just randomly babble on about shit but you don't want to overthink anything otherwise you'll either invite yourself to freeze up if you lose a trail of thought or just come across as uninteresting and boring because you'll lack the natural passion and panache that comes from being spontaneous. As for keeping a conversation going with a girl, you don't want to do this for the sake of keeping it going. You should always have a direction you want to be going (hopefully forwards) and this means the constant building of attraction. Keep pushing your boundaries and girls will open up more and contribute more to the conversation. Listen to what they have to say and expand and connect on it.
When it comes to things like "DHV stories" you shouldn't be thinking "oh i should tell X story now because it demonstrates this, and this, and this" you should be naturally showing these sides of yourself in conversations without forcing it. For example the other day I was chatting to a girl about smoking (yeah REAL "interesting"), hell it might have even been when I was asking to borrow a light, and without thinking told her about the time I was at a friend's party and didn't realise he had jacked his lighter, so when it came to lighting a fag I ended up losing half my eyebrow. The point being, I didn't plan this, it just came out in conversation.
As for your friends not sharing the same knowledge as you, it's not a bad thing! Sure they're not going to be interested in 'sarging' but this has it's advantages. It helps you to be yourself! When I'm with my friends ,I'm with people I enjoy being around because I'm always having a laugh with them, what's more, I'm not hiding behind all this structured social robot shit. Laughter and fun are contageous, if that's what you're doing then girls will naturally gravitate to you.
You're not going to find some overnight resolution to make your conversations last longer etc but as I'll say time and time again, practise makes perfect. Get out there and continue talking to hot girls and you'll gradually see better and better results.
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