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Author:  vat_fagina [ Tue Mar 24, 2009 8:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Confused About Girl?!
Went to this club on Friday.

Towards the end of the night, I met a girl who used to work with me. I had a chat with her. Nice girl and very talkative.

She brought a friend. I talked to her very briefly too. Now my ex work friend kept asking if I liked her friend. She was really cute. I followed her downstairs as we both had coats to collect. I told her that her mate thinks we're a good match, would you like to go out sometime. She seemed really enthuastic and gave me her number.

I text her but it took her a day to respond. She apoligised coz of the late reply and that she was at work.

I called her on saturday. She didnt answer texting me straight away that she'd call me back. She didnt.

Now what should I do??
Author:  Barney Stinson [ Wed Mar 25, 2009 1:34 am ]
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Text her or call her as if she didn't blow you off. Make plans to go out for drinks or something.

Don't ask you ex work friend about her and why she blew you off, thats an AFC move. The ex work friend will tell this girl and she will be put off by it.

B-Man
Author:  vat_fagina [ Wed Mar 25, 2009 6:31 am ]
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Text her or call her as if she didn't blow you off. Make plans to go out for drinks or something.

Don't ask you ex work friend about her and why she blew you off, thats an AFC move. The ex work friend will tell this girl and she will be put off by it.
So u reckon I should text her again even tho she didn't return my call?

My ex work friend is coming to a hip hop gig with me next week and her friend might be coming too. U reckon I should wait for that or text her before that?

Yeh I haven't asked my ex friend about her. It seems too desperate to ask.
Author:  Saint Jimmy [ Wed Mar 25, 2009 11:02 am ]
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I should give it another try, maybe she forgot to call you back.

And DONT ask her why she didnt call you back.

have fun
Author:  Zikki [ Wed Mar 25, 2009 12:36 pm ]
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I would chase it back up,

I go by rule of 3, if i txt / rang u twice with no reply, Im not going to make it a third time.

I just mark it as a dead number and put it in my refresher list next time I phone purge all my #'s, basically I send a template message to every girl I aint spoke to in a bit, see who got active numbers still
Author:  vat_fagina [ Wed Mar 25, 2009 1:48 pm ]
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I would chase it back up,

I go by rule of 3, if i txt / rang u twice with no reply, Im not going to make it a third time.

I just mark it as a dead number and put it in my refresher list next time I phone purge all my #'s, basically I send a template message to every girl I aint spoke to in a bit, see who got active numbers still
It is her real number because she text me on it.

Shall I text her and ask if she's coming to the gig we might go to? It seems non threatening as I don't really know her yet
Author:  Zikki [ Wed Mar 25, 2009 2:55 pm ]
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I wasnt questioning the authenticity of the number, numbers just go dead because the girl might not be that interested etc and for various reasons just doesnt reply. After the 2nd non reply txt they get put in my sin bin lol.

I think just invite her out n see what she says, nothing to worry bout mate
Author:  vat_fagina [ Wed Mar 25, 2009 4:28 pm ]
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Coool.

I just sent her a text now inviting her to this gig. Told her that her friend was up for it too.

Lets see what happens.
Author:  Walt [ Wed Mar 25, 2009 4:31 pm ]
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I'd lean towards you not building enough comfort. I think theres a chance she won't reply / flake.

Either contiune dialogue through text and setup a day2 if you feel thats going well. Or drop a text saying you're going to call her later on, so shes comfortable and expecting the call! You can then have a quick chat and setup the day over the phone.

It seems you only talked to her briefly the first time, you need to cover some more conversation, common areas of interest!
Author:  vat_fagina [ Wed Mar 25, 2009 4:39 pm ]
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I'd lean towards you not building enough comfort. I think theres a chance she won't reply / flake.

Either contiune dialogue through text and setup a day2 if you feel thats going well. Or drop a text saying you're going to call her later on, so shes comfortable and expecting the call! You can then have a quick chat and setup the day over the phone.

It seems you only talked to her briefly the first time, you need to cover some more conversation, common areas of interest!
Yeh ur right. But how do I cover conversation if she doesn't answer her phone or text? The only thing I can do is wait to see if she comes to that gig her friend wants to come to. Then take it from there
Author:  Zikki [ Wed Mar 25, 2009 4:49 pm ]
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yeah kinda catch 22 mate, jus be careful u dont start to obsess over this one. This is my usual time frame

Day 1 number close
Morning Day 2 send nice to meet u txt
Day 3/4 maybe follow up txt organise day2

Between Day 1 and the day I go on the day2 I usually keep picking up numbers, I think in my arms I have bout 10 women im juggling at different stages of persuit, from fb's down to opened and ready for day 2's
Author:  vat_fagina [ Wed Mar 25, 2009 4:55 pm ]
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yeah kinda catch 22 mate, jus be careful u dont start to obsess over this one. This is my usual time frame

Day 1 number close
Morning Day 2 send nice to meet u txt
Day 3/4 maybe follow up txt organise day2

Between Day 1 and the day I go on the day2 I usually keep picking up numbers, I think in my arms I have bout 10 women im juggling at different stages of persuit, from fb's down to opened and ready for day 2's
Nah I'm not obsessed but I've never usually been in this situation before where the woman doesn't respond to me as much.
Author:  Zikki [ Wed Mar 25, 2009 5:01 pm ]
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Happens lots if u didnt build the pre-requisite amount of rapport usually.

I get lots of numbers but about 15% I hadnt built up good enough rapport to get a reply from, others have built on the rapport over the phone, some I have assumed instant rapport because of the way things played out.

Every girl different, every technique different, you just have to find what fits with who...
Author:  Chino Kapone [ Wed Mar 25, 2009 6:10 pm ]
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I agree with Ziki. It sounds like you had like a 5 minute number close. No rapport, and just enough comfort for her to give you her number. Happens all the time. She wakes up the next day groggy headed and barely remembers you... It happens. Understand people have busy lives and my not always get back to you in a timely fashion.

You have done enough. Don't extend yourself any further right now. Especially if all this went down on Friday, because you are showing too much interest. When you see your ex coworker out just shoot the shit with her. Don't worry bout this girl, cause she sounds like a flake.

Next time when you #close create a bond. I have a unique handshake I do with girls so that she has something to really remember me by. Its something I do to build a connection. Another thing is to set up a time to meet up again right on the spot. This way she already has an idea of something to do next time she sees you...

Example....
Quote:
This is awesome we have met tonight! Since we are BFF's now, you need to meet me up at the mall for a smoothie and help me pick out some new boots/clothes/what-ev. I'll give you a shout this weekend and let you know what time to meet me.
If she is interested she will let you know when she is available... It just helps to stay memorable and build a connection.

CK
Author:  vat_fagina [ Wed Mar 25, 2009 6:53 pm ]
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I had to number close as the place was closing and they were leaving. So it was a very rushed process.

But yeh, she defo seems like a flake!
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