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| Author: | heyheysg [ Tue Mar 24, 2009 1:03 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Do you have to LIKE social interactions? |
One of the things I keep hearing is that if you go around approaching enough, talking to old people and kids etc. As well as hearing interesting things from people and HBs. You'll start to enjoy having social interactions and liking people. qn1) I can't say I have enough experience to say that it's true, for me, now it's almost always like 'work' or 'game' to talk to someone, do this for social proof or to DHV. Social Robot? I don't see the 'reward' that comes from talking to some stranger about random things unless it's along the way. I do enjoy interactions with friends, even when I start off negative, when I go back home, I'm not sure if it's the beer or hanging out that makes me feel good. I know that there are genetic triggers to reward socializing qn 2) So there are unnaturals and anti social people, is being anti social a condition or a description? Someone who might want to socialize but doesn't can be considered anti-social as opposed to someone who doesn't want to socialize. I guess i'm doing this for several reasons 1) Genetics, Survival and Replication 2) Social pressure to get attached and get laid 3) To see if it works. expert opinion? someone who used to be anti-social/AFC? |
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| Author: | Ezo [ Tue Mar 24, 2009 1:11 pm ] |
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No you do not have to be social but it helps. Think of it like congruence. In order to talk to a hot girl you need to be social with her or trust her to be social with you. That will not happen. If you are not used to social interaction you will come across as uneasy around her and they do not enjoy that feeling. If you can fake being social then ok, you may win her over for a short time but in order to keep her you are gonna learn... |
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| Author: | KristallNachte [ Tue Mar 24, 2009 3:29 pm ] |
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You should enjoy talking to the girls. Make it an experience. What's the point of getting laid if its nothing more than a vagina you don't enjoy being around? |
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| Author: | kingcarmelo [ Tue Mar 24, 2009 4:10 pm ] |
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I'm pretty social when I want to be but when I'm at work I go about my business quietly , some girls think i'm shy which I use to my advantage later on. I just sarge in stealth mode adds a bit of mystery to your game I think. |
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| Author: | DannyDurden [ Tue Mar 24, 2009 10:03 pm ] |
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Most people that are anti-social are conditioned that way because of their experiences. For example, their childhood could have presented them with fewer opportunities for social interaction, their parents might not have encouraged socializing, or they were picked on when they were little and have developed more introvert tendencies. Most people who aren't keen on talking to random people simply never developed it. For example, Americans are typically more on-the-street extrovert and open to strangers than Europeans. Europeans aren't genetically predisposed to not socialize lightheartedly with strangers, the just developed that behavior just as Americans typically develop more open behavior. That said, it's something you must work on to develop. Find the joy in interacting with people of all sorts. It's not only good for developing yourself, but the world needs more of this. The other side of this: some people just aren't interesting to talk to, don't give you the time of day, or aren't interested in chatting with you. The objective isn't to force yourself on other people. |
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| Author: | blanch32 [ Wed Mar 25, 2009 12:31 am ] |
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In short, yes. I truly believe you must enjoy interacting w/ others. ....and if you find it "boring" well then you're not driving the conversation into something interesting, and that's all on you buddy! |
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| Author: | Jaybot [ Wed Mar 25, 2009 10:04 am ] |
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When you start you don't have to enjoy it as you will learn to love it. I used to hate physical touch, literally I stabbed a guy once because he touched me (weird panic attack reflex, not malicious). But yar if I can go from that to where I am now I'm sure you will learn to enjoy socializing. |
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