Hi all!
This is my first post so first off: great forum, been reading some interesting stuff here
While reading through many of the posts, it became apparent to me that all guys seem to be afraid of getting into "the friend zone" or asking if they were in it because they couldn't be sure. It also seemed that everyone seems to consider the "friend zone" to be this deep pit impossible to get out off.
So here is what I would be curious to know:
1. How do you define the Friend Zone
2. What do you think are the signals which tell you that you are in it or on your way in.
3. Can you get out of it? Yes/no --> why?
So here is how I see things:
1. For a girl, the friend zone is a group of guys which she hangs out with but has no apparent sexual interest in. She probably doesn't think about having sex with them in any serious way. When you ask a girl they would say that they do not feel "attracted" to the people in her friend zone.
2. I think that the signals that tell you that you are in the friend zone with someone are: lack of flirting on her part, not an immense amount of body interaction (touching, hugging etc) And the reason I say that is because anything to do with touching is quite physical so if a girl lets you touch her, hug her, cuddle, spoon, grinds when dancing, etc... she clearly feels good about you touching her and her touching you, which is actually pretty sexual.
3. Can you get out of the friend zone. Well I think yes, and that rather easily because I think that the reason you ended in it in the first place is because you didn't flirt, and because you kept the kino to a minimum etc...
You gotta be a little subtle at first to make her get used to thinking of you in a sexual way and then the normal flirt etc will just follow naturally.
I d be really curious to know what you guys think, because I got the impression that we are more afraid of the friend zone than we need to be.
Hut
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