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Author:  white_artist [ Sat Mar 14, 2009 11:00 am ]
Post subject:  how to get back ex
well,recently i just break up with my ex. So, in the past i was learning to become a PUA but after i succeed to get gals out there i eventually stick to one only because i am kinda bored of it. Well,in the relationship i were too serious and i forget those concept of being as an artist.. i was needy, jealous, insecure and wussy (lots of things that i should not do; i did) so it comes to an end eventually ,we break up because of my jealousy and insecure. In this incident, i did scold her cheap because i was emotional(a very strong word to girls) so now i wanted to chase her back however when i wanted to chase her back i also being needy, i seek for the approval and she said she has no feeling anymore but i can still try to chase her back. i want to chase a back but i know by needy and those stupid stuff cannot do so. So, i want to ask u guys any recommendation what can i do? being back as an artist character and use jealousy to attract her again? Anyway just giv me some solution, i am determine to get this ex back.

i am sorry for my english language i hope u all can understand
Author:  Mindless [ Sat Mar 14, 2009 11:36 am ]
Post subject:  Re: how to get back ex
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well,recently i just break up with my ex. So, in the past i was learning to become a PUA but after i succeed to get gals out there i eventually stick to one only because i am kinda bored of it. Well,in the relationship i were too serious and i forget those concept of being as an artist.. i was needy, jealous, insecure and wussy (lots of things that i should not do; i did) so it comes to an end eventually ,we break up because of my jealousy and insecure. In this incident, i did scold her cheap because i was emotional(a very strong word to girls) so now i wanted to chase her back however when i wanted to chase her back i also being needy, i seek for the approval and she said she has no feeling anymore but i can still try to chase her back. i want to chase a back but i know by needy and those stupid stuff cannot do so. So, i want to ask u guys any recommendation what can i do? being back as an artist character and use jealousy to attract her again? Anyway just giv me some solution, i am determine to get this ex back.

i am sorry for my english language i hope u all can understand
unfortunately there may not be many ways to get her back unless you change the way you are.
some advice is to leave her thinking you are awesome and that she would miss you then leave it for a while till she talks to you again.
i always try to take two steps back and see what she is like and don't concentrate on my own needs, rather look at how messed up she is.

the best advice you will probably get is just to leave it find someone else and move on, unfortunately this sucks!
Author:  white_artist [ Sat Mar 14, 2009 1:21 pm ]
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anymore advice or method how to chase her back? Pls anyone,help me out. Thx a lot. I appreciate it.
Author:  scott89 [ Sat Mar 14, 2009 1:34 pm ]
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The mind set that you have now will NEVER get her back. This was no mutual breakup, it was all her idea and this is because she's seen something in you that she does not like (i.e your neediness and possessiveness). These qualties are potentially THE biggest turn off for women, trust me I know...

Give up chasing her and focus on bettering yourself and killing these traits that you have within you. I'm not saying go the opposite way and become a heartless muppet because girls do need to feel love and affection, just not overpowered by it.

My suggestion? Go out, have fun, meet new people. Life's too short to get strung up on one girl. Who knows? Maybe after you've let go and become a better person, somewhere down the line you'll have another shot at this girl, until then remove these obsessive feelings for her from your head. :wink:
Author:  white_artist [ Sat Mar 14, 2009 2:07 pm ]
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The mind set that you have now will NEVER get her back. This was no mutual breakup, it was all her idea and this is because she's seen something in you that she does not like (i.e your neediness and possessiveness). These qualties are potentially THE biggest turn off for women, trust me I know...

Yes you are correct. That is why she break up with me. She don't have the feeling to me anymore. I uses the PUA style to pickup her and when in the relationships i changed,so she break up when i changed but since i am able to make her fall in love with me, then again i should able to do it again. I just don't know where to start because it wasn't it the PUA guide. that is why i need a guide where i can start up with.
Author:  SiNfUl [ Sat Mar 14, 2009 2:46 pm ]
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My suggestion, don't talk to her for a while. Take scott89's advice and meet new people, don't get strung on any one particular girl. What you need are options (multiple women) to keep your AFC tendencies at bay.

More than likely, she will find an excuse to get in contact with you after communication has stopped. Once she does, use the PUA tactics to game her again like you did before but keep the wussiness out of it this time.

If she doesn't contact you, hey, it's all good because you have other options now...right?

One more thing, the next time this happens...she said she has no feeling anymore but i can still try to chase her back...tell her to go f*ck herself.
Author:  scott89 [ Sat Mar 14, 2009 2:46 pm ]
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I uses the PUA style to pickup her and when in the relationships i changed,so she break up when i changed but since i am able to make her fall in love with me, then again i should able to do it again. I just don't know where to start because it wasn't it the PUA guide. that is why i need a guide where i can start up with.
I don't want to sound like a cruel bastard but the chances are it wasn't love, it was lust/attraction. Easy come easy go they might say.

Look, screw any guide, if you're trying to build a relationship on a foundation of books and information given by other people then it's always going to collapse somewhere down the line as you have already found out. I'm not saying ignore this information just learn by it instead of living by it.

Move on with the knowledge you have obtained with this screw up. It get's easier every time and it's encouraging for me to see that you have already acknowledged your mistakes,
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when in the relationships i changed
just don't be a fool by not learning from them.
Author:  white_artist [ Sat Mar 14, 2009 3:09 pm ]
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ARh thx for the advice. I appreciate a lot especially scott89 u really made a good point there and sinful i like your suggestion. But then other people who view this topic please be free to give more suggestion. Any suggestion will do. thx
Author:  kasabi [ Sat Mar 14, 2009 3:42 pm ]
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Author:  Mr.Two-Wrongs [ Sat Mar 14, 2009 5:17 pm ]
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not sure that she qualifies as your one-itis since you dated her, but I think that going out and fucking 12 other girls can cure this as well!
Author:  white_artist [ Sun Mar 15, 2009 2:25 am ]
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okok, every opinion from the PUA is to forget her and get some gals out there. Some of them said that doing this might get her back too. But i really wish to ask something. Basically i am from asean, so i seen couple that break up and chase(pick up) them back(they success) so how the hell did they do it? i want to know the way and does reverse psychology works?
Author:  Sideler [ Sun Mar 15, 2009 2:42 am ]
Post subject:  Get back
Yes, sleep with a lot of girls. Who cares if it works or not, but usually the next lay makes you forget about the last. Also, there was only one girl that I became jealous of and didn't trust. That was because I cheated on her. The reality was i couldn't trust myself.
Author:  white_artist [ Sun Mar 15, 2009 2:53 am ]
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OK i just want to know how to get her back
Author:  chriscalo123 [ Sun Mar 15, 2009 6:50 pm ]
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Hey white,

- Hit the gym.
- Don't talk to her for a month.

After a month, casually talk to her again. That's the best advice I can give you.
Author:  white_artist [ Mon Mar 16, 2009 7:59 am ]
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ok now this what i have done.
yesterday i send her tis message.
me: i know i been kinda hard to deal with..
i was really struggle not to break up..
but i think it was a good idea for us
her: Er,i don;t really understand what u mean.
i am now having dinner. Have u eat?
me: i mean when we break,i was keep begging u
and etc;really making you really making you difficult but now
i think is a really good idea,i accept it.
her:Hmm, no matter what u must be happy. XD Have u eat?
me: Mm, yaya i will be happy, don't worry. thx u and i ate already.
her: happy then can already lor. Oh ya! r u guys interested about the
alpha shirt?
me: Lol, i think no, frankly speaking is not really nice.I gtg. C ya

after that when she online on messeger she saw my personal message
she said nice pm xD. i didn't reply. she said how come not responding. i said give me some time. something really went through me. she said ok
after a day i said.. well guess i really have a quite a time to cool dow2n already.. i quite agreed with the break up but btw i think i am really not ok to be frens.. anyway thx ya
never reply since..

do you think i still have chance ?
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