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| Author: | Dang1991 [ Thu Mar 12, 2009 2:43 am ] |
| Post subject: | Struggling with Calibration |
Dear Community, I have several questions to my situation about social circle game. In the 1,5 year I've done Pick Up, I've never feel this sadness and disappointment about me before and I would really appreciate each advice you could give me. A little bit about me. I'm 18 years old and at this moment, I'm an exchange student in the USA. When I first came to school, I had no experience with Social game and the experience I had with girls were day game or a little bit club gaming. I was not very successfull but I could help build my confidence level and when I came to my new High School in the US, I thought I was the shit. I didn't fear anything and approaches each girl. In the first few weeks, I gained a lot of social proof and pre-selection because of my confident, something "new and special" and my sense of humor. However, I had several huge mindset problems at this time. I thought, there was something like the super Alpha which we see in the Hollywood movies. They could just walk around and after each step, there would be someone who wants to talk with this person and every girl he would see would try to huge and talk with him. I thought such an Alpha would exist and everybody has to invest in him. After being several weeks at school, I expected everybody to invest in me and I became arrogant. That was my first challange I struggled with for a long time. After nothing works out like in the beginnig when I was "new and something special", my frame began to collapse. Another major problem I had, was always to try to DHV myself. I exxagrete with evens in my life, that I'm pre selected and each time I had the opportunity to do that, I did it! I didn't want to show people weakness and always tried to show them that I'm the shit. It made people think I'm arrogant. However, in the first few weeks when everything went pretty well, I could game a huge group of girl. They are all the cheerleader captains or homecoming queen or whatever. It went pretty well and I tried to K-close the most beautiful girl in this group after 3 days but I failed because there was "no game" in my game. She was just interested in me because I was an interesting person but there was no attraction without any qualification! However, because of so many IOI's, everybody thought that every girl wanted me and that gave me an incredible amount of Pre-selection. There was another girl and this girl always gave me a lot of hidden IOI's. At dances, she is always the first person to huge me and "dirty dancing" with me and gave me for a long time hidden IOI's. She never thought I would like her because she thought I would try to hit on the first girl I failed to K-close. I was a dumm idiot and never escalate. I always wanted to show here that I'm much better and that she works for me but she never did because I was not calibrated enough and needy. I followed her after I realized this IOI's and was kind of needy. However, I stopped doing this and never talked to her again. I always tried to show her that I'm higher value and since 2 months, we didn;t really talk with each other. Now, I regret everything I did. I was not calibrated enough and I was a dumm idiot. She is not someone I could just meet in a club and on a street and this is something completely new for me. I don't know what to anymore to safe this situation and I'm so disappointed about me being such an idiot an excuser. I want to start to game her again but I want to do it in a natural way and I would like to have your advice for this challange. I don't think it seems to be natural starting to talk witth her again after never talking to her since 2 months. I don't want to be that excuser anymore and I want to make thigns right. I know she was attracted to me and I want to do it all over again. Thank you for reading this long post and I hope you could help me. Thank you very much, Hank |
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| Author: | Sheer Con [ Thu Mar 12, 2009 3:13 am ] |
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don't fall into the trap of freezing out everyone in your life when you or they mess up. anyways to talk to this girl again, just talk to her. Were you a jerk towards her? Did you obviously avoid her? Just try talking to her again. Ask her what's new. maybe she didn't even notice that you guys weren't talking or that anything was off. Just go for it and calibrate according to her reaction. If you have to appologize for being a jerk toward her, you might have to do it dude. good luck |
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