Imagine an aspiring bodybuilder who spends hours in the gym, 7 days a week training his body in hopes of competing in and possibly winning a Mr. Olympia. He wakes up every day with crippling soreness in his muscles, yet still finds the motivation to drag himself out of his house and hit the gym, fighting the pain and exhaustion only to punish his muscles with more heavy-lifting.
When he leaves the gym after an exhausting workout, he spends the rest of the day goofing off with no consideration for diet or rest. Most nights he stays out partying and rarely gets more than 4-5 hours of sleep, and probably consumes more alcohol per body-weight than protein.
Would anyone consider this a solid method for him to achieve his goal? Probably not.
It's pretty obvious his time in the gym means nothing without the proper nutrition and rest to support the growth of his muscles. He could work out from sun-up to sun-down every day and it still wouldn't matter without the proper work done OUTSIDE the gym.
Yet this is exactly how many new guys approach pickup. They hear the oft-given advice that the best way to get good fast is to go out and embrace failure, and forget the most important element of that advice: you must LEARN from those failures.
Like the bodybuilder from the first portion of this post, the aspiring PUA who goes out but never takes the time to analyze what parts of his night went wrong and why does himself a great disservice and sets himself on the road to getting burned out rather than gaining skill. Then he comes here for suggestions on how to fix the situation after he already screwed it up.
The aspiring ladies' man who is truly on the path to mastery doesn't care whether it works out with this particular girl, he wants to correct the mistakes that put him into the situation in the first place. He understands that gaining this skill is a journey, not a destination, and that each new girl he meets is an opportunity to learn--not just to score--and he understands that to do this, he must first analyze what went wrong and what went right.
Only by following this process can you then emphasize the good, eliminate the bad and enter a whole new echelon of awesome
Your boy,
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